People who donât understand the difference between punishment and discipline should, like, never have kids
hey op i dont understand the difference could you please explain?
Yeah ofc!! Sorry for being vague I was just venting and didnt expect reblogs haha
Iâm gonna try to explain my point through examples.
Ex 1: toddler screaming and crying in the walmart
Punishment: Iâm going to spank you or embarrass you or yell at you! Shut up! Iâll give you something to cry about!
Discipline: stop doing what youâre doing because it isnât productive and it disturbs others as well as increasing your own upsetnes. Iâm going to take you out of the environment thatâs upsetting you until youâre calm and we can identify what upset you together so I can explain to you why itâs like that/help you find ways to productively express upsetness as you grow.
Ex 2: your teen is failing, like, all their classes
Punishment: youâre grounded! Youâre not allowed to go out with your friends or play games or do anything fun or enjoyable until your work is satisfactory!
Discipline: itâs important to do well in school. You need to communicate with me when you are struggling so I can help you. You also need to learn to manage fun stuff and work as thatâs an important life skill in adulthood. Iâm going to monitor your work more closely so I can help you find that balance. And if this is a deeper mental or emotional issue, we can seek help for you together.
So basically, discipline is something you teach that requires time, communication, and sternness. Punishment is a single action meant to deliberately cause discomfort in an attempt to implement negative reinforcement. Not good.














