Wei've never been to Cincinnati

Woah it's the Cincinnati System coming at you live with all things about muir system! || They/Them unless specified otherwise

[cincinatti-system]

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System Name:

Cincinnati, Cinni

Body age:

21

Mental Shenanigans:

ADHD-C, ASPD/BPD/HPD, Anxiety (General/Social), Autism (lvl 1/PDD-NOS), DID (polyfrag), OCD, PTSD, Prosopagnosia (face blindness) Seasonal Affective Disorder (winter onset), Substance Use Disorder, Synesthesia

BYF/DNI:

If wei don't like you wei block you as the Gods intended 😋 Do the same with muis! Wei encourage creating an environment in which everyone is comfortable.

Collective Pronouns:

First Person:

I/Me/My/Mine/Myself - When referring to an individual system headmate

Wei/Muis/Muir/Muirs/Muirsel(f/ves) - When referring to the system as a whole

We/Us/Our/Ours/Ourselves - When referring to more than one specific headmate, or multiple bodies

Second Person:

You/You/Your/Yours/Yourself - When referring to an individual system headmate

You&/You&/Your&/Yours&/Your&sel(f/ves) - When referring to the system as a whole

Y'all/Y'all/Y'alls/Y'alls/Y'allsel(f/ves) - When referring to more than one specific headmate

Third Person:

They/Them/Their/Theirs/Themsel(f/ves) - Depends on whether referring to an individual headmate (themself) or the system as a whole/more than one (themselves)

Different headmates use different pronouns and names. Please use those if referring to someone specific (and you know who it is).

[the-crystalized-cosmos]

Headmate Distinction Spectrum Terms

PT: Headmate Distinction Spectrum Terms /End PT

So we noticed that facet didn't have an "opposite" term, there's kinda just facet or medianmate (depending on framework/preference). Everything else tends to be called "headmate" which, for a lot of median systems feels exclusive? Like for us facets are headmates too! Maybe not everyone, but we should get that chance, right? So we came up with terms for different spots along the distinction spectrum (Multiple, Mediple, Median [sometimes broken into Diversian, Mesosian, Parasian and Varion], and Singlet) for the two main frameworks/preferences.

Framework 1: Multiple = Distian, Mediple = Contrian, Median = Facet (already coined), Diversian = Divian, Mesosian = Mesian, Parasian = Parian, and Varion = Varet

Framework 2: Multiple = Multimate, Mediple = Medimate, Median = Medianmate (already coined), Diversian = Diversimate, Mesosian = Mesomate, Parasian = Paramate, and Varion = Varimate

Note this framework was made (Medianmate) because some folks felt Facet implied a less than whole nature. While the other Framework's terms aren't meant to suggest that, simply a "term for a system member who is [Multiple or highly distinct/Median or less distinct/etc], we wanted to include terms for both options.

"Distinct" for purposes here covers a range of stuff, typically either defined as unqiueness or separation, depending on usage. Again these are terms matching the terms on the Multiple to Singlet spectrum.

These also are not meant to imply a subsystem or the like, just more where one member ends compared to others. So a Multimate is not a multiple subsystem for example.

Tagging @radiomogai @liomoqai-umbrella-archive

[hazedxg0]

DID symptoms that people don't talk enough about

The cycle of forgetting and then re-remembering trauma memories

Constant depersonalization and derealization

Feeling as if you're stuck living someone else's life

Failure to plan for the future because nothing feels real + losing time

Thinking a flashback is over when you've actually just dissociated away from it, and having it resume as soon as you stop dissociating

Dissociative stupor/trance

Alexithymia

Identity issues outside of alters

Inability to connect with other people

Being unable to tell if you've healed from a past problem/trauma or if you've just dissociated away from it

Not learning from past mistakes because of amnesia and dissociation

Feeling nothing psychologically despite physical shaking, racing heart, nausea, crying, etc

The extreme disorientation + identity confusion that comes with co-consciousness and co-fronting

Somatic flashbacks

Being triggered by your own DID symptoms because you know the only reason you're experiencing any of this is because of what they did to you

[tranthony]

youve been a bad *remembers youre plural* people

[polypeptied]

[multiplicity-positivity]

Info and Resources for Questioning Systems

Our old post with resources is out of date and doesn’t have that much information, so we’ve decided to put this together! Please let us know if we should make any corrections or if you have resource ideas you’d like us to add to this post.

NOTE: Before we get started, it’s so important to mention that every system should rule out trauma first before considering other origins. This is because complex dissociative disorders can present in covert ways, and function by hiding trauma from some alters. Even if you’re certain you’re not traumatized, please research and understand complex dissociative disorders before learning about other origin types. It’s possible to not remember or misunderstand trauma. Ruling it out first will save you a lot of difficulty and heartache in the future!

NOTE 2: As a system, we understand the terms “tulpa” and “tulpamancy” are cultural appropriation, and believe that as a community a different term for these systems should be selected. However, until that happens, we will continue to link handy resources for these sorts of systems.

Now, onto the resources!

This is not a complete list! If there’s any resource you’ve found useful and would like us to add, please get in touch!

Websites:

CDD (DID and OSDD-1) Specific:

Beauty after Bruises, and especially their article on myths and misconceptions about DID

Multiplied by One, a DID nonprofit that has a wealth of resources on dissociative disorders and CPTSD (and offering support for those in need!)

First Person Plural, another great nonprofit

ISSTD’s public resources

The Cleveland Clinic’s page on DID

Survivors’ Network (not to be confused with the Survivors’ Network Discord) page on DID

The National Alliance on Mental Illness’ info on dissociative disorders

DIS-SOS, a blog with tons of info on trauma, dissociation, and living with both

osdd.one, a site with information on complex dissociative disorders with a focus on OSDD-1

NAMI Michigan’s DID fact sheet

The Healthy Place’s blog on Dissociative Living

Non-CDD Specific:

What is Plurality/Multiplicity? by YoppVoice

More than One

Tulpa.io, Tulpanomicon, and Tulpa.info, all sites where tulpas, thoughtforms, willomates, and their creators can share their experiences

The Daemon Page

Daemonism 101

Manchester Metropolitan University’s Understanding Multiplicity

Plurality-Resources (traumagenic, not CDD, specific)

The Plurality Playbook, a resource for plurality in the workplace (for employees and managers)

Endogenic Hub

The Dissociative Initiative includes resources for both CDD systems and others who experience multiplicity

Soulbonding Info Carrd

Pluralpedia, a plurality wiki created and maintained by systems for systems

Podcasts:

The System Speak Podcast

The Bag System Podcast

Tumblr Blogs:

If you know of an active, plural-focused tumblr blog that isn’t listed here, feel free to let us know so we can add them!

@pluraldeepdive

@plural-culture-is

@subsystems

@rin-and-jade

YouTubers:

The Alexandrite System

FragmentDID

The Rings System

The CTAD Clinic

(psst! if you’re an endogenic/not-trauma formed system YouTuber, please let us know! we’d love to check out your videos and add your channel to this list!)

Other:

This Google Drive folder has 13 books on mental health, with a focus on dissociative disorders and trauma.

This Google Drive folder also has a bunch of great resources (keep in mind there are some repeats in both drives)

UTEP’s Mental Health Awareness Training infographic on dissociative disorders

Our own posts through our Directory

Seeking help through therapy:

(specifically specialists in dissociative disorders)

Psychology Today’s search page for finding therapists who specialize in dissociative disorders

Carolyn Spring’s article, How to find a therapist for a dissociative disorder

The ISSTD’s Find a Therapist page

Websites we do NOT recommend can be found here! Note: some of the resources we’ve linked here have their own links to websites we don’t recommend. Please use your best judgement when visiting sites, and understand that we as a system DO NOT endorse the sites listed in the link above, even if we’ve included resources that link to those sites.

We hope y’all are able to find some of this useful! Again, please let us know if you have any resources you’d like us to add to this list. Thanks so much, everyone!

[thecorporatetower]

hey friendly reminder that not all plurals and systems arent the same... and if you come across a plural or system that has a different experience than you, or something you dont understand, nows a good time to learn something new ! opening up yourself to new experiences and knowledge only helps ! /gen /gen

-Syntax

[the-apartment-crew]

[the-apartment-crew]

[alteredpanel]

what defines 'you' and 'me' can always change! we aren't stuck in place

[the-apartment-crew]

Might be me again because partway through this using the cat’s liner brush became very difficult. Making fun of myself I guess! So for payback here’s them quickly eating mashed potato off the floor, “hopefully before anyone could catch them”- <_<

And art from a month ago

[semiplural]

Just Grow Up

There's a paradox in a lot of plural spaces. System kids are welcome, but only if they're Literal Children who stay in child-only soft boxes where they can be ignored. If a kid wants to have an adult conversation, then they're spoken over, pushed away, or otherwise discounted more often than not- and if they're accepted, then it's often at the cost of expecting them to have absolutely no childlike qualities to "prove" that they're mature enough to stay around. We even see this pattern within systems sometimes.

What are systems without adult members supposed to do if the only place system kids can talk is in the Super Soft Safe Box? What about system kids who want to talk about theoretical physics or drugs or sex or a thousand other taboos? What about kids who function as adults? And what about system kids who are kids but don't want to live their lives in the Super Soft Safe Box like the world expects them to?

Acceptance of system kids as being wildly different from each other in mindset and ability is improving, but we still have a long way to go in treating system kids with a shred of respect and decency in wider plural spaces.

Not to mention... why is there so much intense focus on mental age as some universal concept in the first place? It feels like a lot of the plural community takes the concept of mental age as a given without considering where that idea comes from, how it affects how they treat others, and how it interacts with systemic discrimination and ableism. It can sometimes be a useful construct if approached critically, but I see so little critical thought about it.

If you want some reading on the topic, one of the articles cited is worth at least a skim- it's a fairly good surface overview of eugenics and its tie to IQ/mental age, immigration, racism, ableism, etc.

ID below the cut with the full quotes- sorry to alt texters, I fit as much as I could in there but the text limit is real.

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There's a subtle sort of discrimination to how a lot of plural spaces treat system kids/littles. Especially those in adult bodies, or with a particularly large gap from their body's age.

"Littles must always be supervised in online spaces or else they'll bother adults and be preyed upon." "There must be an adult in your system if you're bodily an adult- they should handle life while the kids go away to never be seen by adults again. Littles should only talk to other littles. Anything else is unsafe and sometimes pedophilic. Right?" "Littles shouldn't be in charge. They're supposed to be cared for by everyone else and kept out of sight." "You're welcome here! You just have to only ever talk in the Baby Zone that no adults ever visit to talk to you. Yeah, it's empty and no one will answer. But you want to talk, right?" "Sorry sweetie, the adults are talking and you can't be here. Even if you're capable of understanding, consenting, etc. You're not allowed to be here with us if you're not a real adult." "Littles can't take care of themselves or handle any adult responsibilities, ever!" "Is there an adult I can talk to?"

Blue, an anthro cat sitting down, looks angry at the above phrases.

What are adult-bodied systems with no "brain adults" supposed to do? Drawing of a family of stick figures, all of whom are either child-short or hunching to be shorter.

What about systems whose caretakers are their children? Systems where there is no older person to supervise? Systems finding ways to live an adult life when no one inside aligns with it? What are you supposed to do when a 5-year-old does your taxes and drives you home?

"Just grow up." Do I get a choice, or are you ripping that away from me too?

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Why is "mental age" the bar people are using to decide whether someone is worthy of autonomy and respect, anyway? Where does the concept of mental age come from in the first place, and why does it exist?

From Wilson, R. A. (2024). Eugenic Thinking and the Cognitive Sciences. In M. C. Frank & A. Majid (Eds.), Open Encyclopedia of Cognitive Science. MIT Press. https://doi.org/10.21428/e2759450.c9a5f080:

"Eugenic traits: Prominent among the eugenic traits found in sterilization laws were those concerning cognitive ability and mental health. These traits, ordered in terms of their frequency in U.S. state and Canadian provincial sterilization laws, included feeble-mindedness, insanity, epilepsy, criminality, imbecility, idiocy, sexual perversion (or depravity), mental unfitness (or deficiency), and moral depravity (or degeneracy). As this listing suggests, these laws especially targeted those perceived to have some kind of cognitive limitation or psychiatric condition on the grounds that they were unfit and would propagate these eugenic traits to their children; approximately 70% of all eugenic traits mentioned in sexual sterilization laws in the United States and Canada concerned cognitive ability or mental health. Given this, there was a clear role for psychologists in programs of eugenic sterilization, given their expertise in psychological testing (Rose, 1985). Such testing and subsequent sterilization were conducted through emerging forms of institutionalization, such as “training schools for the feeble-minded,” especially as eugenics gained state-level backing (Miller et al., 2015). One of the roles of psychologists was to develop ways to measure those who were cognitively or psychiatrically subnormal. Emerging intelligence tests were adapted to quantify and classify those deemed “feeble-minded”or “mentally deficient” (Thomson, 1998; Trent, 1994). Binet’s famous test of intelligence, for example, incorporated the more specific existing folk categories of “imbecile” and “idiot,” adapting these to designate developmentally delayed children with mental ages, respectively, of 3–7 and 2 years. Following the translation of Binet’s test from French into English by Henry Goddard in 1908, “moron” was coined in 1910 to pick out those in the general population with a putatively fixed mental age of 8–12 years. This resulted in a three-tiered schema of intellectual subnormality—moron, imbecile, idiot—that came to be widely used in the eugenics movement. In the hands of the psychologist Lewis Terman, what became the Stanford-Binet test initially was deployed in selecting army recruits near the end of World War I (1914–1918) before being used on the general population. The three-tiered scheme was accordingly fed into the newly minted idea of an intelligence quotient (IQ) that remains with us 100 years on, with the fixed mental ages of moron, imbecile, and idiot mapped onto standard deviations from a normalized IQ of 100. From the 1920s, these tests were widely used to identify children who were candidates for eugenic sterilization, whether they were already housed in segregated institutions or within the regular school system or general community."

From Asilverm, & Asilverm. (n.d.). What’s My Age Again: Why Mental Age Theory Hurts People with Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities. Retrieved May 31, 2026, from https://www.disabilitywisdom.com/2018/12/21/whats-my-age-again-why-mental-age-theory-hurts-people-with-intellectual-and-developmental-disabilities/:

The concept of “mental age” was first introduced by Alfred Binet, co-creator of the first IQ tests, in the early twentieth century. Generally, “mental age” has been measured by comparing an individual’s score on a standardized IQ test with the average performance of their same-age peers. For people with IDD, “mental age” may also be estimated by comparing the person’s demonstrated physical, speech, adaptive or cognitive skills against the average for various age groups. Not surprisingly, “mental age” came about alongside the eugenics movement in the United States. Mental ages were used to classify various groups of “feebleminded” individuals by severity: Adults with a mental age of 9-12 years were classified as “morons”; those with a mental age of 6-8 years were classified as “imbeciles”; and those with a mental age of 2-5 were classified as “idiots.” Individuals from any of these groups were thought unfit to reproduce."

A drawing of Blue looks annoyed and concerned. It's labelled, "TFW it's eugenics again. :("

Oh yeah. Why is it always eugenics?

To be clear: I'm not saying anyone is ableist or practicing eugenics for having a sense of their own internal age. I am pointing out how systemic ableism affects how system kids are treated, how the concept of mental age stems from ableism in the first place, and how terribly many cultures treat children and deemed-children to begin with: how children and disabled people are often regarded as objects, burdens, or annoyances who don't know enough to have a say about their own needs. Is this really how we want to assume all system kids should be treated? How anyone should be treated?

How much of how system kids are treated ties back to some form of ableism, in the end? I wonder about this a lot and I feel like I never see people talk about it.

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[the-apartment-crew]

Finishing something from days ago- 💙🐾

[the-apartment-crew]

Projects period cramps onto one of your system's headmates but I'm not telling you which one

woe, cramps be upon ye

[the-apartment-crew]

HALP

[the-apartment-crew]

hashtag our odd mindset. stand out or watch out. my hungry ass could never be a co fronter (<- joke. JOKE)

[the-gravestones-system]

grabs baby plurals by the shoulders. listen to me. i don't care who's fronting, take a note or smth but listen to me. you're not broken. you're not unholy. you're not tainted or dirty or a monster. how media depicts plurality is something to be desired. you are not defined by whatever tf that m night shawarmalong motherfucker put out a few years ago that was such a god awful representation of systems that it actively makes me seethe. you are not defined by what you see on sysblr either. systems are systems, no matter what the origin or inter-headspace relations are or how alters came to be. you exist as you are and that's okay. do not let outside forces dictate how you should experience your plurality. do not let outside forces tell you your origins are wrong or incorrect. do not try and fit yourself into a box that a lot of people with plurality or who identify as plural try and fit others in. no one has the right to do that, let alone some stranger on the internet playing white knight.

you're okay. you're going to be okay. this is all new and its going to be scary and its going to take some getting used to. be literate in your research. consider your sources and who's telling them. because chances are, its either a very helpful resource or someone trying to push a very harmful agenda.

stay safe and don't let anyone try and tell you your plurality is "wrong".

-Tomie 🖤