[cocainesmile]

ahh screams i havent been on tumblr in forever but i made my blog public again how is everyone doing???

[filthy-rat]

honestly there’s nothing that can compare to creating OCs and imagining scenarios with them with a person you trust. i don’t even mean in an shipping sense, either – just you and your friends making up people that also friends and imagining them in ridiculous, hilarious, adorable, angsty situations. like holy shit the knowledge that they are enjoying themselves with what you create and you’re enjoying yourself with what they create and you’re both just having the time of your fucking lives playing barbie with your own creations, safe in the knowledge that they aren’t fucking judging you or thinking ill of you for the silly little scenarios you’re imagining, no matter how cringe they might be. no cringe zone. just friendship.

it’s pure, simple bliss y’all

[theunitofcaring]

A lot of the advice I got about learning to enforce my boundaries was framed as an adversarial thing. Like, ‘yes, it might upset and disappoint the people around you, but you have to learn to tell them ‘no’ anyway.’ At best, ‘good people will still like you if you enforce your boundaries’.

What I wish I’d been told is that good people will think it’s awesome that you enforce your boundaries, that there are people who will respect the hell out of you for it, that there are people who will admire you not despite you telling them no, but because of it. That most people don’t want to make you do something you don’t enjoy,and so they’ll actively be happier and more relaxed around you if they know they can trust you to decline to do things you don’t enjoy and to ask them to stop things that bother you.

It helped me a lot, personally, to stop thinking of ‘enforcing my boundaries’ as something I did for me and more as something I did to empower the people I was close with, to build a situation where they and I felt sure everything that was going on was something we all wanted.

Most advice isn’t good for everyone and this advice seems maybe bad for people in abusive situations, because sometimes you do need to learn to enforce boundaries against people who will try to violate them. But if there are other brains like me out there: your partner will be really happy you can say no to them. your friend will be really happy you change the subject when you hate it. your roommate will really appreciate that you tell them to turn down the music. most people will feel safer and more comfortable around you if they know you’ll reliably express your needs, AND they’ll feel better about voicing theirs.

[doomhamster]

Ohgodyesplease. I’m autistic and I have anxiety, I’m forever scared that I’m going to upset people because I can’t always tell when I’m being rude or overbearing, so it’s a relief when someone is able to tell me if my behavior irritates them *before* it can ruin stuff.

[bandomgay]

INTO THE UNKNOWN(2019) - panic! at the disco

[emoswillrisetosave2020]

Brendon Urie Twitch Screens iphone wallpaper

obviously all I did was screenshot these when he had them on... all credit to Brendon and his Twitch account- go sub to him: brendonurie

[brencerlove]

[loml]

“those little eyes, those blue eyes. i think they might be the same color as yours… i think it might be your child!”

brendon urie in ME! behind the scenes: the story of benjamin button [x]

[hunterschafer]

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[hunterschafer]

Panic! At The Disco is my… my thing right now, and hopefully, you know, forever.

[stuckinthestorm]

Brendon recording ‘Me!’ in Taylor Swift’s documentary Miss Americana

[brendonshigh]

P!ATD performs High Hopes @ MTV VMAs part II of ??

[brendonshigh]

It hurts until it stops We will love until it’s not I’m a killing spree in white Eyes like broken Christmas lights P!ATD - VICTORIOUS

[dallonsbrendon]

brendon urie (18/?)

[hunterschafer]

Mike and Nicole during Bohemian Rhapsody

[brendonuriesource]

Brendon and Taylor talking about their privacy being invaded by fans in “Miss Americana”

[hxgge]

x

[frickinhoes]