STOP DOING THESE 6 THINGS ON YOUR LEVEL-UP JOURNEY
Many things can hinder your level-up and femininity journey. If you are serious about levelling up, here are 6 things you need to stop doing on your journey.
Focusing So Much On Your Outward Appearance And Forgetting To Work On The Inside:
Most of the time, we focus on our outward appearance without considering our internal well-being. It's fun to spend money buying new clothes, trying new hairstyles, getting our nails down and playing around with makeup, and it is important to spend time levelling up our outward appearance, but it can't be the only thing you work on if you truly want to level up. You need to spend time working on things like building your self-esteem, learning to communicate better with others, learning how to handle your emotions in healthy ways, working on your manners and building healthy relationships with friends, family and your significant other.
Needing External Validation:
As you go along on your level-up journey you must let go of your need for external validation. External validation is when your feelings of self-worth are dependent on the approval of others. If you are looking for others' likes and comments on your Instagram posts to make you feel good about your outfit, hair or makeup, approval from your parents towards your life choices, or attention from men before you can feel like you are attractive and worthy of love, you need to learn how to self-validate. Get to know yourself. Learn what your values and goals are, and most importantly learn why these are your values and goals. On this level-up and femininity journey, you are going to meet a lot of people who don't understand or argue with you, so take the time to analyze why you seek validation and how you can let go of it.
Comparing Your Life And Journey To Others:
Stop comparing your life and level-up journey to others. We all move through life at different paces. It can be hard to see others accomplish the things you also want, especially when it seems like it came so easy for them when you try so hard. With social media, it's especially easy to fall into the trap of comparison. If you find yourself in this trap, take a step back from social media and focus on yourself. Spend time in gratitude and look back at what you have been able to accomplish and how far you have come.
Chasing Perfection:
Stop trying to be as perfect as possible. If you are on your level-up journey you don't have to strive to be the perfect woman. You don't have to always be perfect, have the perfect outfits, hair, makeup, and attitude. It's ok to be human and make mistakes sometimes.
Self-Doubt:
Stop doubting yourself and your abilities. If you want to level up you need to believe that you can do so. Self-doubt leads to insecurity and will keep you stuck in the same place you are trying to get out of. You need to let go of your past mistakes, your fear of failure and comparison if you want to be able to really let go of your self-doubt.
Feeling Guilty For Working On Yourself:
Stop feeling bad for working on yourself. You may need to turn people down, step back from relationships with certain friends or family members or even spend more time for yourself well on this journey. You must know that it is ok and important for you to take time for yourself and set any boundaries you need to guard your mind, heart and spirit. So don't feel guilty about that.
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How do you talk about your business goals and desire for funding from a SD without giving him too many details where he could find out too much info about you?
This ask came at a really good time. I just received these gifts from an SD that knows I’m in med school + running a business and wants to help support me. So I think it’s important to remember that you only have to disclose what you want to. This particular SD does not know which school I go to or really any details about my real life. You can keep them included in your story without giving the intimate details away.
For example, for the past week whenever I talked to this SD I always made sure to mention how I noticed that a lot of my classmates have a laptop AND a tablet where they write their notes. And I mentioned how it makes it much more convenient to study and take notes while reviewing. I expressed my desire for a tablet without having to use my own money (because he does give me an allowance) and this morning he sent me the confirmation email to pick up the order (he does not have my address). So you can talk about the things you want in terms of your business goals and aspirations with a POT or SD without having to tell them too much. Some people suggest playing the damsel in distress card but if he’s an SD (and no longer a POT) there’s really no need to play that game. You can be upfront with what you need and if it’s a healthy sugar relationship, it shouldn’t be an issue.
It’s all about the way you approach it. Make sure you have a specific amount and plan in mind if you’re wanting to ask for money for your business. You can’t just say “I need $5k to start a retail business.” He likely won’t go for that. Think of the specific things you need money for and go from there. When you talk to him about your business, that’s when you can begin to plant your needs. If customer acquisition has been a challenge, talk to him about it and express your desire for funding to put towards advertising. Things like that.
They do not need to know the name of your business, your address, or anything else that you don’t want them to know. I would strongly urge you to keep all that information private. Just make sure to include him in your story and journey so that he is happy to invest in you. And if he starts asking too many questions you can always make up a story or tell him you’re still in the developmental stage and you don’t want to give too much away yet. But if he’s a real provider he won’t press the issue.
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