Why I feel like I’ll never find The One
These senseless thoughts in my head about my looks and my current status cloud my mind whenever someone mentions marriage and age.
This society sucks. IT SUCKS SO FUCKING MUCH.
Yeah so what? I’m in my late twenties and I’ve never had a healthy or long relationship! Does that make me a bad person? No! So stop labeling me like I am or worse; that something is wrong with me...
Maybe there’s something wrong with them? Ever thought of that? I worked so hard to be happy with who i am today. And I don’t want to settle for less anymore. I’ve learned to value myself more and prioritize potential love interests in a much more positive way.
But with that realization, I also learned that what I did took tremendous courage. Because I see now, that many of the potentials have settled-they didn’t want to risk waiting for The One at a later time in their life because of the social pressures. Some of the ones left have already been married before or have children or are just as lost as they were in their early twenties. The dating pool is so small. So I take chances now.
I don’t have a detailed checklist of my ideal partner: I threw that out last year. But now that I know I want a family and a loving husband, I realize how difficult it is to have someone trust me. And I go back to how toxic I was to myself.
It hits me that I haven’t changed after all that “healing” I did to get out of those toxic behaviors.
I’m still a bully to myself.
I immediately attack myself with hurtful words and reasons why no one would ever trust me, why I’m so unlovable, why I’m never the first choice, why I struggle to keep friends, why I push people away, why people push me away, and why the world doesn’t need me and that everyone is better off without me.
And I cry because I don’t want to believe those things about myself yet here’s all the evidence proving those statements right.
It’s a viscous cycle. I need help or a hug would be nice.
For once, it would be nice for someone to actually like me for who I am. Genuinely.
I’d really like my Disney princess ending please.