[comeoncomeout41]

okay but hear me out…

[comeoncomeout41]

a year ago i was stuck. stuck in a job i had grown to hate. stuck in my hometown wondering if this was all i was ever going to do. stuck with a house that i felt i needed to keep because it belonged to my dead dad. stuck thinking i’d always be repressing my sexuality irl to salvage the toxic relationship i had with my mom. i was tired of being tired, and the pandemic didn’t help. but it did make me realize that i needed to stop living to work, that i needed to prioritize myself.

today my gf and i were joking around and she said, “I knew I’d meet my soulmate one day...you were just out there pushing a door with a pull sign” and i’m realizing that i was going through life that way. trying to push a door down and make my current, impossible situation work and move towards being happy when all i had to do was pull that door and see what was on the other side.

she’s the clutziest person i’ve ever met so what i said back to her was that she was out there tripping over her own damn feet like, “cute ass clumsy bitch. get your ass over here and start falling for ME”

and i’m really glad she did. and i’m genuinely happy for the first time in a long time. we’re moving in together in six days, and change is scary but i also know that i can be proud of myself for making choices for my own life that are better for me. for the longest time i didn’t want my happiness to be tied to a person, to change my life for someone else. but i know i’m making a change that’s for me, and it’s nice to have someone by my side as a partner to share in this new chapter i’m starting.

so here’s to what comes next. don’t be afraid to pull that door open. you might like what you find on the other side.

[comeoncomeout41]

update: WE GOT ENGAGED! and when she asked she said, “like kara danvers said, ‘i will always be your friend and i will always protect you.” so obviously i said yes.

p.s.: she was very graceful up until we went to eat dinner and she fell in the parking lot. i love her so much and i’m glad she’s still falling for me everyday.

[comeoncomeout41]

life update! we went to pride, got married the day before i turned 30, and are incredibly happy together! i wouldn’t want to do life with anyone else. this is my best friend, my perfect partner at game night, the person who met my son and chose to be his other mom and keeps choosing us every single day. i always said i’d delete this account when i turned 30 but i knew i wanted to update this post in the hopes that maybe, someday- someone would need to see a story like mine, like ours. and know that you can find community, you can make a home away from people and situations that no longer serve you, that maybe never did in the first place. if you are one of those people and you’re reading this: you are worthy of love and self love. you deserve better than simply surviving. you deserve a lifetime of happiness and i hope you find it. i know i did.

[comeoncomeout41]

The person responsible for Supercorp not being canon was Jessica "I'll make Mon-El the star of the show" Queller. There are zero minds in my doubt.

Queller is definitely not blameless and we all love to hate on her a lot, as we should. But she is considerably lower on the totem pole than a lot of others who had a say in sg throughout the series. Let us not forget that Rovner’s wife was one of the WB execs throughout nearly his entire tenure with supergirl. yet everyone blames queller first and doesn’t look at rovner. and it was him and queller who wrote the finale.. as far as mon-el goes, that was Kriesberg and it wasn’t until his firing that Queller and Rovner took over as showrunners. still, they were always willing to bring mon-el back for whatever reason they could.. but what’s really interesting and who i personally put the blame on is..

Pedowitz, head of the CW, he was the one who pushed hard to keep mon-el on the show even after fan reception of the character was absolute shit during and post season 2. blame his crusty old ass because i guarantee you, it was him.

[comeoncomeout41]

if there was any doubt who was responsible for supercorp not being explicit canon, the call is literally coming from inside the house.

cw renews the flash for a NINTH season, doesn’t even announce it as a last season, also renews superman and lois. no word on batwoman or legends of tomorrow as of yet though..

almost as if the cw doesn’t actually give a fuck about women or their LGBTQ+ audience but are we surprised?

[bi-halobearer]

[comeoncomeout41]

a year ago i was stuck. stuck in a job i had grown to hate. stuck in my hometown wondering if this was all i was ever going to do. stuck with a house that i felt i needed to keep because it belonged to my dead dad. stuck thinking i’d always be repressing my sexuality irl to salvage the toxic relationship i had with my mom. i was tired of being tired, and the pandemic didn’t help. but it did make me realize that i needed to stop living to work, that i needed to prioritize myself.

today my gf and i were joking around and she said, “I knew I’d meet my soulmate one day...you were just out there pushing a door with a pull sign” and i’m realizing that i was going through life that way. trying to push a door down and make my current, impossible situation work and move towards being happy when all i had to do was pull that door and see what was on the other side.

she’s the clutziest person i’ve ever met so what i said back to her was that she was out there tripping over her own damn feet like, “cute ass clumsy bitch. get your ass over here and start falling for ME”

and i’m really glad she did. and i’m genuinely happy for the first time in a long time. we’re moving in together in six days, and change is scary but i also know that i can be proud of myself for making choices for my own life that are better for me. for the longest time i didn’t want my happiness to be tied to a person, to change my life for someone else. but i know i’m making a change that’s for me, and it’s nice to have someone by my side as a partner to share in this new chapter i’m starting.

so here’s to what comes next. don’t be afraid to pull that door open. you might like what you find on the other side.

[comeoncomeout41]

update: WE GOT ENGAGED! and when she asked she said, “like kara danvers said, ‘i will always be your friend and i will always protect you.” so obviously i said yes.

p.s.: she was very graceful up until we went to eat dinner and she fell in the parking lot. i love her so much and i’m glad she’s still falling for me everyday.

[rylandsgrace]

Something LGBT Just Happened To Me (and kate)

Best shot you ever took? The one I didn’t take.

[comeoncomeout41]

I actually had the same Ali Adler theory as you! Maybe she tried to sneak in supercorp or something and when the ship blew up, tptb got pissed at what she was doing. Just look at how Lena and M*n-El met Kara/Supergirl for the first time--- Lena and Kara had an instant connection/understanding and Lena inspired Kara to become a reporter, then they copied the Clois helicopter scene!! Everyone who has seen superman instantly connected that to a romantic couple scene! they had superman in that episode, so if they wanted a throwback they could've easily had him do it. And then Supergirl's first meeting with M*n-El... he chokes her..... who was the love interest again?🙃

^^ yup. not sure if you’ve seen the interview that was just released with JF, supergirl writer. I can’t stomach watching it but I’ve read some play-by-plays on twitter and it seems like his answer was that they got the “no” from higher up about supercorp. the thing is i don’t believe they even asked lol. i genuinely believe they just assumed it would be a no and have now decided to use that as an excuse. i can’t see queller or rovner going to dc/wb and asking, “can we make supercorp canon?” and them saying, “nah. we can’t make supergirl gay.” when there are comic iterations already of supergirl with women?? but i can see queller, rovner, the cw not even asking dc. or asking sometime around s4 or s5 and getting the no so deciding not to push for it in the final season.. just my opinion.

but that’s all to say that the baiting was blatant after they did receive the no, again if they ever did

[bi-halobearer]

el mayarah 🥺

[lexa-kom-skaikru]

Supergirl finale angry rant

(posted both on twitter and here)

 Screaming my frustrations to my friends is not enough. I need to truly vent and scream about how fucking pissed I am. 

For a show whose main theme is about inspiring hope in others, I’ve never been this hopeless for the future of queer representation in TV as I am after that finale and I’ll tell you why. 

Never in a million years did I actually think we would get Supercorp endgame, but I really hoped I was wrong and that’s partly the reason I watched live tonight… because if history were to be made, even if the chances were minimal, I wanted to be here to witness it. Instead, I witnessed yet another heart break and huge loss for our community. 

When are we gonna get another ship like Supercorp? WHEN???? This was it! This was our moment! Ships like Supercorp are rare. Extremely rare. There are amazing ships out there but we never get the true slow burn. We never get unintended but perfect ship. We never get the perfect match. 

Ships like Supercorp aren’t created intentionally. They happen out of pure damn luck. Luck in the unintentional writing. Luck in the chemistry. Luck in the setting. Luck in everything that makes the ship be who they are. You can try and recreate it but there’s something about the unintentional aspect of a ship being born naturally that just makes that ship even more special and SUPERCORP WAS IT!

So, when I ask ‘when are we gonna get another Supercorp?’ the most likely answer is either 'never’ or 'it’s gonna take some time’ and if we do actually get a ship this powerful again, then we are just back in the same damn ship of putting our faith, hopes and heart at the hands of showrunners like Rovner and Queller who are just too damn coward to actually go for it. 

It’s not the first time a ship similar to Supercorp in potential and queerbaiting has existed and the same damn thing happened! It keeps on happening!!! Over and over again, and I am so fucking tired!!!! I am so tired to the point anger lasts but a second and it’s followed numbness and hopelessness because it’s a fact that when ships like this happen NO ONE takes the fucking brave step and makes them endgame, and whose to say the next one will? It hasn’t happened yet. Why would the next one be different? 

If Supergirl had taken the fucking damn step today, they would have created a chain reaction for all future and current shows in a similar situation (whether it be on the same scale or smaller scale than Supercorp). 

THEY COULD HAVE MADE A DIFFERENCE! 

But all they did was continue the endless cycle of mistreatment, abuse and queerbaiting that our community is way too familiar with. 

Supergirl won’t be remembered as a show that inspired hope in its audience. It’s gonna be remembered as the show that took that hope away and made us hopeless! 

So, I hope they are proud of a job well done… if their intention was to go against everything they have been preaching for the last fucking 6 years! Then they did an amazing job.

[comeoncomeout41]

i just feel like this isn’t even about wb, dc, cw, or even berlanti giving them the “no” to go ahead with supercorp in the end. this feels like queller and rovner refused to even try for it at all because of their own bias. like it wasn’t even in their minds that they should do it for the fans.

and now supergirl ends being the same way it was throughout its run, a complete waste of potential, and kara deserved better. she deserved her perfect partner at game night, someone who knows everything about her. she deserved to ride off into the sunset in a flying car with lena just like dansen got. not in spite of them, but because in 2021 there shouldn’t be a quota or a glass ceiling on w/w canon couples of what is and isn’t allowed. your character can be gay but they can’t be the lead. your character can have a romantic partner but they can’t have the same physical affection displayed on screen as straight couples. your character can be L, G, B, or T but they have to have a coming out arc and they must be defined and you can’t have more than one lesbian, gay, or bisexual UNLESS it’s their partner. you can have a trans character with a lesbian couple but you can’t have more than one w/w couple. you can have a gay couple and a lesbian couple. four lesbians in one show makes it the l word. it’s absolutely ludicrous that we still have these restrictions and that’s why we’ve been vocal and fought for so long and so hard.

and we deserved to see supercorp be endgame after five years of romantic tropes, with this epic slowburn, lore-subverting, ship that was an absolute unicorn and will likely not happen like this again, at least for a very long time. by unicorn i mean, a w/w ship that wasn’t planned for a secondary character by the showrunners and announced ahead of time to give the showrunners some woke points but a ship that came about naturally in the writing and the chemistry between the actresses, like we get with straight couples constantly and no one thinks anything of it because narratively, it makes the most sense for the LEAD.

so yeah im disappointed. i have clowned with everyone for a long time and always knew the chances were actually pretty slim to absolutely zero. but i had hope. god forbid i had hope for a show whose titular character’s motto was “hope, help, and compassion for all.” when we had no help from the showrunners, no compassion from the network, and spent five years being used for their dwindling viewership.

[bi-halobearer]

clowncorps and superclowns

🔥🤡🔥RISE🔥🤡🔥

[comeoncomeout41]

i’ve been MIA but i have been watching the episodes every week and i gotta say.. they really shit the bed with this final season and i hope some of these people working with the show never get jobs again.

besides of course mel who is already glowing since the show ended, releasing a book, producing new shows! katie who is living her best life taking vacations to greece with her gal pals and will book other shows/movies no problem. chyler whose talent was absolutely wasted on this show and will definitely have a career for years after this. azie who is the most amazing gorgeous woman and the best writer this show ever had AND an incredible actress to boot. nicole who has a huge and bright future ahead of her and i can’t wait to see what she does next. jesse who is one of the most talented actors the CW will ever manage to cast. jon cryer who has already had a career and will continue to be with his poise and kindness. i could go on and even mention some of the bts writers who were rooting for supercorp but i’ll just end with this..

it’s been a wild ass fucking five years with you all and i’m sad and relieved to see it come to an end. and all before i turn 30 so i can deactivate when i’m finally free from the wasted potential of this shit show. 6 more days.

[dead-gay-angel]

yeah love quinn was unstable and a murderer but she was hot doing it so i forgive everything she's ever done

[comeoncomeout41]

i can’t put my finger on it but something feels so different about supercorp in these last few episodes. 6x13-6x15. it feels like they had an entire love confession, moving in together, off screen and now we’re just seeing them being partners and love interests every week. or i mean did they start dating and neither one of them have realized it yet? because they’re practically married??

[comeoncomeout41]

Favourite supergirl episodes from any season?

wow this is tough. not because there are so many good ones but because even in some of my favorites they still managed to ruin something lol BUT i’m going to list my top 5 and why!

5. House of L Season 4 Episode 16 aka The Red Daughter episode. This episode was the first time since season 1 that I feel they really managed to connect ALL of their plot points. And Red Daughter was the perfect villain because we actually could see a lot of Kara in Red Daughter. The fact that RD, a blank slate of Kara, had two core memories: one being Alex and the second being her desire to be close to Lena was EXACTLY what I wanted to see. And at this point Lex wasn’t taking up all of the screentime. It more felt like this is the worst villain Supergirl had ever faced, he’s been pulling these strings with Kara and Lena this whole time, and I just knew it would lead to Lena FINALLY knowing Kara is Supergirl.

4. Luthors Season 2 Episode 12. Quintessential supercorp episode.. Of course it made my list. I still can’t get over the fact that they just ditched Lillian Luthor and Cadmus in season 2 as the big bad and went with Rhea of Daxam? There was so much potential for that story, and this episode really showed that. This episode gave us some of the most memorable lines of the entire series. “Kara Danvers believes in you.” “My office is overflowing with flowers.” “Supergirl may have saved but Kara Danvers you are my hero.” AND we got the first hug between supercorp.

3. It’s a Super Life Season 5 Episode 13 aka the 100th episode. They really did that. They really dedicated this huge milestone episode to the relationship between Kara and Lena. The fact that their story, connects Kara’s story across the seasons on the CW is mind blowing but true. The entire timeline where Kara told Lena from the beginning and the world was a better place *chefs kiss* and the fact that Kara was willing to reveal her identity to the world to save Lena.. but sadly nothing is ever really perfect and everyone Kara loved ended up dying so.. couldn’t stick with that. But I’d love an entire spinoff of just that timeline.. with a happy ending.

2. For the Girl Who Has Everything. Season 1 Episode 13 aka The Black Mercy episode. For the longest time this was my number one favorite episode of all time. Melissa’s acting, Chyler’s acting, the much larger budget they had in season 1, all made this episode a must watch. This was before they unkilled Kara’s parents on the CW. They actually did a fantastic job of exploring Kara’s character. They let her traumas be explored without making her look weak. And in the end Kara chose Earth. She chose her sister Alex. The bond between Kara and Alex was what made me want to watch this show in the first place.

1. Blind Spots Season 6 Episode 12 aka Azie’s episode. This is the best written episode of Supergirl since season 1, actually I’m going to say ever. I want to see Kara not being perfect. I don’t want to see her looking weak for the sake of propping up another character, usually a man, which we so often have seen. This episode had the perfect balance. Even our heroes and idols have blind spots. And I love seeing Kara and Kelly having a great relationship. I love how Kelly can be angry, hurt, upset, and at the end of the day, the relationships she has with Alex and Kara and her struggles that Alex and Kara could never understand still lead to healthy communication, uncomfortable yes but never unhealthy. Kelly is just an extraordinary character and Azie gave her dimensions that were lacking in the writers room up until this point and I loved seeing that. On a show that so often falls flat when discussing social issues, Azie in the writers room made certain that the story was told the right way. Even though the episode was Kelly focused, I still felt that for once the balance for all of the characters was there. It didn’t feel like character C has this side plot with character D and character A has this main plot with character B and character E is Kara and she’s just vibing over here and reacting to all four of them. I cried, I rewatched, I cried some more. I haven’t done that with an episode of Supergirl maybe ever which is why it gets my top spot.

[frenchpuppycormier]

Lena shootin' her shot