Wasn’t expecting to make this post but I feel like some things need to be said about the stereotypes of the “mormon” church and how it relates to overall Utah culture.
Now first of all, I grew up in the church, in Utah, in an area where I could count on one hand how many non-members were within a 10-mile radius (ok that’s an exaggeration but you get the point). And as I’ve grown older and extensively researched and explored both culture and religion, my own and others, I’ve come to realize something:
The biggest problems, the largest concerns and red flags people get from the church are not from the church at all. They are from the Utah-specific culture that stems from the church.
Here’s some examples of issues people find with the church vs the actual church doctrine/culture outside of Utah and the U.S. (because as I’ve said in previous posts, this is a WORLDWIDE church):
People are extremely judgmental and people find it difficult to express themselves for fear of being rejected, threatened, abused, or judged by members that may believe in something different than the individual.
And yet our entire doctrine is built on loving others, our leaders have said multiple times that there is no room for judgment, hate, discrimination, or disrespect in our church, and outside of Utah, plenty of members find community and comfort in the church no matter the circumstances or differences.
2. People that grow up in Utah feel pressured to be a part of the church and feel they don’t have a choice in what they believe
And yet our church’s entire doctrine doesn’t work without the principle of free will and choice- we believe trying to take someone’s agency is literally Satan’s main method of attack.
A few things to consider:
WHEN YOU CONFINE A LOT OF PEOPLE WITH SIMILAR BELIEFS TO ONE AREA, THEY WILL ACT WEIRD.
Our church’s history is that of persecution and injustice. We were driven from state to state, forced to endure freezing winters, angry mobs of murderers and rapists, uncaring and biased governments, and literal militaries forcing our ancestors from our homes without a single thought. We settled in Utah because it was the only place where we felt safe to practice religious freedom.
We stay in Utah because we still do not always feel safe outside our communities.
Is it bad to isolate? Yes. That is a problem with Utah, not the church. Should we explore other cultures and be more receptive to other ideas? Yeah, that’s a huge movement in the church, it’s just that the older generations remember years of death threats and manipulation and ongoing persecution and are afraid. Should members in Utah be quicker to move on and let go of those fears? Sure, but when we do, we are called weird, disgusting, cultish, evil, corrupt, brainwashed, etc.
Are there members that fit that description? Yes. Are most of those members in Utah? Yes. But we’ve been shoved into a box and stranded in the desert.
You want Utah to change? Let us out. Let us be weird, let us be “mormon”. We want to learn from others. We want to have conversations about our beliefs without it turning into a hateful attack.
We are human. Utah may be a cage for fear and harmful traditions to fester and grow. But that is not the church- it’s the spears that poke through the bars and wound and harm until our parents can see the outside world as nothing but the “other” that hurts us…
Just because we happen to live in Utah and belong to the church.