L'esprit de l'escalier

I like songs about drifters, books about the same. They both seem to make me feel a little less insane. Walked on off onto another spot, I still haven't gotten anywhere that I want.

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I'm a crying lizard person, I miss you so much!

G. 1st August 2018

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It was lovely as always to wake up with you! I'm so thankful for everything you've done to help me through these last few weeks. This is a happy day my lovely because it's the very start of our amazing new adventure together!

G. 6 Sept 2017

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Aberdeen, Scotland (UK)

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Finding solace in Goldfrapp songs and videogames...

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It is a curious thing, the death of a loved one. We all know that our time in this world is limited, and that eventually all of us will end up underneath some sheet, never to wake up. And yet it is always a surprise when it happens to someone we know. It is like walking up the stairs to your bedroom in the dark, and thinking there is one more stair than there is. Your foot falls down, through the air, and there is a sickly moment of dark surprise as you try and readjust the way you thought of things.

Lemony Snicket, “The Reptile Room” (via paradisebythecandlelight)

For Nathalie...

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The rest of my life, I’m used to being independent, interesting. I have hobbies. This trip, I’m the addendum, the afterthought. I’m the extra box on the customs form, the “spouse of” instead of the reason for going.

https://matadornetwork.com/life/really-like-trailing-spouse/

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Not sharing an opportunity to learn is a cardinal sin.

The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do, And How To Change by Charles Duhigg

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Hillary Clinton Playing Game Boy in 1993

via reddit

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© David Hlynsky

Military shirts, Moscow, 1990

From: GO WINDOW-SHOPPING THROUGH THE IRON CURTAIN

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Two questions drive every creative person more than any others: What if? and Why not?

20 Things To Remember If You Love A Highly Creative Person, by Kevin Kaiser (Lifehack)

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Le plus malheureux des deux est celui qui reste; il faut donc que ce soit vous qui partiez.

Emmeline; Alfred de Musset (via envertudelamour)

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© Peter Hoffman

Untitled; from the series “Glass/Corner” 

 From: Photos Through Foggy Glass: Same Street Scene, Infinite Different Views

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© Mark Seliger 

 Tom Waits for GQ, Forestville, CA, 2002

From: CAN’T STOP, WON’T STOP: MARK SELIGER’S PORTRAITS

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© Rachel Barrett

Specimens: “Orange You Glad,” 2014

From: Rachel Barrett’s Unstill Life

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When we are overmedicated, our emotions become synthetic. For personal growth, for a satisfying marriage and for a more peaceful world, what we need is more empathy, compassion, receptivity, emotionality and vulnerability, not less. We need to stop labeling our sadness and anxiety as uncomfortable symptoms, and to appreciate them as a healthy, adaptive part of our biology.

Medicating Women’s Feelings, Julie Holland (Sunday Review, Feb 2015)