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A letter to Onision

Hello, Greg. I realise it’s extremely unlikely that you will choose to read this letter from beginning to end as I doubt it’s something you want to concern yourself with. However, considering your fanbase age demographic, I’m going to write it anyway because they deserve better knowledge on self harm and how to help and support those who suffer from it. Therefore, I’m going to dissect and provide some criticism on your latest “cutting video” “How to Deal with a Cutter (Self Harm Prevention)”. I’ll be taking key quotes from the video and correcting your misinformation before it spreads any further.

“First off, you’re dealing with a white teenage girl. There are other people that cut themselves - but come on. That’s statistics!”

Statistics, you say?

http://www.lifesigns.org.uk/

This website (a self injury support network) reports that they are supporting people from all ethnic backgrounds, ages and genders. The only reason you THINK it’s only girls cutting is because boys are less likely to admit they are doing it they are suffering in silence because of the shitty stigmatizing social attitude your self harm videos help to perpetuate. Boys are actually likely to self harm because of negative self image, questioning their sexuality, and impassivity brought on by anxiety/depression - and this is NOT exclusive to them, girls do too. The people who are in that age range who are self harming are likely being bullied, sexually abused and physically abused, so why you feel the need to make videos on how to “deal with them” like they’re a virus, I don’t know. They are people, and they deserve respect.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2538378/

Self harm is still present in every age group, gender and ethnicity. There is no reason for you to choose to attack white girls only (though if you were a decent person, you would just know when to shut up when you don’t know what you’re talking about).

You see someone cutting themselves/fresh scars on their arms. All you have to do is call the police and have them locked up!

Okay, NO. Do you realize how stupid that sounds? This proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that you in fact have no clue about the psychology of self harm, so I’m going to give you a quick lesson.

What do these things all have in common for young people?

- Domestic abuse

- Sexual abuse

- Mental illness

- Bullying

- Questioning sexuality

- Living in a broken home

These are just some of the problems young people who self harm can face, and what do they all do?

They take away a person’s control over their own life.

When a person feels as though they have no control over their life, their mental illness and/or the people abusing them, sometimes the only way they can feel as though they can cling to some semblance of control is when they make the decision to hurt themselves. It’s saying - [whatever is trying to hurt me] will never be able to hurt me as much as I choose to hurt myself. That is the only way they feel like they can have control.

For example, the runner Kelly Holmes (who funnily enough is not a teenager, and is a poc) struggled with self harm when an unintentional injury had threatened her career as a runner. This is obviously her life, and when it was taken out of her own hands, she had fallen so low that self harming was all that could give her back that feeling of control.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/sport2/hi/athletics/4590655.stm

So, bearing in mind that you now understand self harm is an act of desperation when there is a lack of control, do you really think “locking” someone up for self harm will help? Because it will do the opposite. Self Harm UK

https://www.selfharm.co.uk/articles/helping-someone-who-self-harms

encourages you to be there to listen to the person who is doing it, and support them on their own terms - because if they feel like you’ll try and take their control then they will more likely do a lot more damage to themselves. They just need someone to listen to them without judging. What you’re suggesting is not “tough love” Greg, but actually the entirely wrong way to go about helping someone who self harms. If you threatened a self harmer with that, or went ahead and called the police, you would be scaring them into self harm, or worse. If you encourage them to seek help like going to a healthcare professional - because mental illness is a health issue, not a crime, then they will be glad someone gave them the boost they needed to do it - because it is extremely daunting.

“Thanks mum and dad, now I can’t fuck my arms up!”

This is actually a really dangerous misconception, because when you’re assuming self harm scars/wounds will only appear on the arms then you could be missing telltale signs someone is injuring elsewhere - such as chest, stomach and legs. Not only that, however, but self harm can include drinking, smoking and self poisoning - which are harder to identify and easier for the user to hide. In fact, the most common method of self harm is taking a drug overdose.

http://nsrf.ie/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/Method-by-self-harm-by-age-and-gender-20131-e1417175391994.png

So quit trying to “help” people with you’re completely unreasonable and insensitive representation of a very difficult issue that affects a variety of people in a variety of different ways, ‘kay?

“If you see someone with fully healed cutting scars on their arms, all you need to do is hug them, and tell them you’re proud of them.”

Again, Greg, it’s not just arms. And what about fully healed burn scars? Do they not count? Also, scars take a super long time to heal, so instead of only encouraging someone once they’ve healed, why not encourage them whilst they are healing - you know, when that person would need it the most…?

And also, this is a public service announcement:

PLEASE, DO NOT GO AROUND HUGGING RANDOM PEOPLE WITH SELF HARM SCARS AND TELL THEM HOW PROUD YOU ARE OF THEM.

It is very uncomfortable, makes the person with scars feel self conscious for the rest of the day, and apart from anything else is extremely patronizing. We do not want your praise, especially not if months before when the scars weren’t fully healed you would have called the cops on us.

Unless the person explicitly states they do not mind talking about their scars, you do the polite thing and pay attention to the person, not the marks on their skin. It is called manners.

So Greg, Greg’s fandom, I hope you read through the citations properly and learn a little something today.