Cosmos Coaching

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While cleaning out my room I found a paper that my therapist gave me some time ago to deal with obsessive and intrusive thoughts. Sorry the paper is a little crinkled and stained, but I figured I’d post it in hopes that it will help someone like it helped me.

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Here it is again with text for anyone who can’t see the picture

That thought isn’t helpful right now.

Now is not the time to think about it. I can think about it later.

This is irrational. I’m going to let it go.

I won’t argue with an irrational thought.

This is not an emergency. I can slow down and think clearly about what I need.

This feels threatening and urgent, but it really isn’t.

I don’t have to be perfect to be OK.

I don’t have to figure out this question. The best thing to do is just drop it.

It’s OK to make mistakes.

I already know from my past experiences that these fears are irrational.

I have to take risks in order to be free. I’m willing to take this risk.

It’s OK that I just had that thought/image, and it doesn’t mean anything. I don’t have to pay attention to it.

I’m ready to move on now.

I can handle being wrong.

I don’t have to suffer like this. I deserve to feel comfortable.

That’s not my responsibility.

That’s not my problem.

I’ve done the best I can.

It’s good practice to let go of this worry. I want to practice.

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This was very helpful. I especially like the “I have to take risks in order to be free.” OCD can be scary sometimes (all the time)

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Culture and Perception

There is a semi fervent debate in psychology about whether basic psychological findings are universal or vary based on a variety of other factors, one of these being culture.  Much of the research on cultural differences has been done on comparisons between East Asians and European Americans.

One of my favorite studies looks at how East Asians and European Americans differ in perceptual styles by looking at art. Researchers (Masuda, Gonzalez, Kwan, & Nisbett, 2005) coded thousands of paintings from both cultures and found that consistently the horizon line was painted higher and the people in portraits were much smaller in Asian paintings relative to Westerns ones.  This same pattern emerges when Asian participants were asked to draw a scene.  When asked to choose the most aesthetically pleasing photograph, either one where the main figure is larger or smaller, Asians picked the smaller figure with the larger background.

(Above: Chinese landscape, Below: American landscape)

Why is this the case?  It’s because Westerners, who think analytically, tend to perceive the world as made up of separate objects, whereas Easterners, who think more holistically, tend to perceive everything as being interconnected.  In this sense, a higher horizon allows you to see more of a scene and the subjects’ relation to each other. A lower horizon directs the viewer’s attention to specific objects.  A portrait where the central figure is larger focuses attention on the subject, while one where the central figure is smaller allows the painter to incorporate elements of the environment or background into the painting.

(Left: Chinese portrait, Right: American portrait)

Analytic thinkers (Westerners) show field independence, that is, they are able to separate the subject from the background.  In contrast, holistic thinkers (Easterners) show field dependence, where objects are tied to their backgrounds.  

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Coachingban nagy szerep jut a kreativitásnak. Sokszor az a dolgunk, hogy kiderítsük, mit tudsz kihozni abból, amid van. Olyan ez, mint amikor van egy marék gesztenyéd, és abból szeretnél Gusztit készíteni. Vannak nagyok, kicsik, szabályosak és szabálytalanok. Nem tökéletesek, Nem hibátlanok. Nem illeszkednek tökéletesen. Mégis összeállíthatóak kreatív módon egy egésszé, amit mindenki felismer, ami működik. Az én Gusztim kissé instabil, ezért hátratette a kezét, szkafandert visel, és nemsokára úton lesz a Nemzetközi Űrállomásra. Hát a tiéd milyen? ;) #cosmoscoaching #kreativitas #coaching #gesztenye #creativity #osz

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