🍉Shay Parker🍉

ze/she | lesbian | writer | minor | read pin

[cow-dyke]

♡︎ Hello, my name is Shay ♡︎

❤︎︎ she/ze ❤︎︎ seventeen ❤︎︎ gemini ❤︎︎ lesbian ❤︎︎ femme dyke ❤︎︎ Korean/Italian ❤︎︎ butch lover ❤︎︎

Here’s my carrd if you wanna know more:

shay’s shadow

About me

♡︎ If you are interested in anything I suggested, feel free to follow/interact ♡︎

(I think this goes without saying but please do not interact if you are a transgender exclusionist or any kind of fetish account).

[cow-dyke]

I hate being undiagnosed but clearly knowing something is wrong. Everyday is becoming more and more difficult.

[literatureisdying]

in the mood to commit a murder to be quite honest

[cow-dyke]

I'm telling y'all rn these ppl not making my abandonment issues any better 😁

[bananapudding752]

reblog if you’re one of them queers 💪💪💪

[alchange]

She’s so me

[justlesbian]

This movie was my lesbian awakening

I related, and still relate, SO MUCH to Michelle Williams character, Linda. Not just in her realizing she was a butch-loving femme lesbian, but in her struggles with it. The judgment from her friends, even those who were lesbian feminists, because they could not understand the attraction she felt towards a GNC woman like Amy (Chloe Sevigny)

I hated the scene were she mistreated Amy in front of said friends so much, and it scared me, because I knew it could easily be me. As a shy, socially awkward teen, I always cared way too fucking much about what people think of me, trying so hard to be pallatable to them, and a lot of that has stayed with me to this day. One example I can think of is when my gf got a very butch hairstyle and I thought it looked hot af, but my first gut reaction was to worry about what other people would think, and how they would treat her. This is a problem.

So many people literally do not understand how lesbians like us exist. I had a guy friend who was excited that I would be able to talk about girls with him, but later became exceedingly confused by the women I actually went for, completely unlike the straight girls he liked. Another is all the times I heard "but she looks/dresses/acts like a guy!" and how it made me feel so insecure and exasperated and not understood

We have made huge strides in LGBT rights and acceptance, but we still have so much work to do in terms of acceptance of GNC women and butch lesbians. Why is it that the accepted version of lesbians in media is usually two straight looking, femenine presenting women? Why does society still consider butches and more masc presenting women to be scary and unnattractive? And why are lesbians (femme or butch) who are attracted to these types of women SO invisibilized?

We need more movies like this. Stop being scared of "perpatuating dated stereotypes" or whatever. Butch/Femme stories need to be told. Butch/Butch stories need to be told. Butch women are still very much around and always will be, and so are lesbians who love them.

And that's on periodt

[lets-make-light-now]

Someone Worte that he could not stand to see the Palestine flag anymore.

Sorry, but not sorry

Reblog daily

Free Palestine

I am not done yet

Only way to stop seeing this flag is when the oppression is over.

So you are tiered of this? you can end it, stop supporting Zionism!

[angelbambifemme]

"I guess you're finally showing your true colors..."

My true colors:

[cow-dyke]

The Lesbian Paradox

Lesbian. Homosexual. Gay. Queer. Dyke. Femme. 4Butch.

These are some words I describe my sexuality as. But I am not sure that any word will fully be able to illustrate what I really feel inside.

Yes, I am a lesbian. I am a female homosexual. A woman who is exclusively attracted to other women. Yet, because of my exclusive attraction, my "womenness" is hard to reconcile with.

Girls are often taught to like boys and girls are taught that boys like us. Moreover, girls are taught to respect boys who are mean to them because of said likeness. Heterosexual women are tormented for not tolerating such behavior but can ultimately have their womanhood left alone as long as they like men enough to have a defined affection for them. Lesbians, on the other hand, are harassed for turning down the attraction all together while society tries to paint a picture of what version the lesbian makes them comfortable. It is hard for me to call myself a woman for many reasons, and this is one of them.

Of course, this isn’t to say that women who are attracted to other women cannot identify as such but rather to explain why some lesbians like myself don’t do so. From this, I often find myself being more attracted to women loving women who are not women (confused yet?).

Something about the queerness of gender in a lesbian context is just so, safe. I think many things that I don't say out loud in fear that straight people (and even some queer people) will see me as odd or a threat to our binary norms. But I feel like the non-binary lesbians give me a sense of understanding without having to say any of those words. We don't base our sexuality off of the orthodox traditions of the heterosexist, cisnormative world we are in. We don't copy and paste our rules off of the way straight society has formed there's and just switch around some of the wording. Instead, we make our own rules, which are none. We use labels but there is not much more to them as what feels right from our own experiences.

Transgender lesbianism is beautiful. Non-binary lesbianism is beautiful. Butch/Femme lesbianism is beautiful. Even if one word can't truly be defined to describe me, all I know is that being a Genderqueer Lesbian is complex, mystifying, but also simply beautiful.

I am beautiful. We are beautiful.

[homoidiotic]

been working on this little site of links to (mostly historical-ish) transgender docos, books, magazines etc to go with my new trans history instagram if anyone else loves transexual links enjoy!! 💖🏳️‍⚧️ u can have a transgender movie marathon without having to go to 20 random websites to hunt them down

[cow-dyke]

Dear Tumblr diary,

I am feeling very happy today. I do not know why but I just am. I finished my in-class essay (successfully?), I had a really good apple, and I am now in my psychology class sitting next to my friend. Even though I have three readings to complete and a movie to watch which I was crying over yesterday, I still very joyous :)

Sincerely,

Shay

[cow-dyke]

I’m coming out as loserfemme4loserbutch.

[cow-dyke]

Gays, I need to tell you all that I have a crush on this person in my psychology class and they are so FINE. Their outfits are always serving, their piercings just add to the perfection, and they have this undercut that drives me CRAZY. Like, I know it sounds weird, but I literally can never stop smiling when I see them.

I'll probably never talk to them because I'm very anxious but I can always dream :)

[the-dyke-from-outer-space]

BTW femme is never gender conformity, and saying so is ignorant. Femme is civil disobedience, pushing femininity farther than men and the patriarchy are comfortable with, and is so much more than just an aesthetic.

[fatale-fille-deactivated2024020]

me in my female rage era???

[cow-dyke]

I just wanna be a handsome butch’s femme…like, is that so much to ask for??