TRANSNPD TIPS FROM A CISNPD
Redoing my old post of transnpd, feel free to ask any questions/explanation!
Decide if you are transitioning to be covert or overt narcissist, both have similarities ofc, but are very different! (Need to make a post just for that I guess)
Build up your persona: like bpd also npd have no sense of self, the difference is ; npd build a specific mask and stick up to it, instead of change mask based on the person they are interacting to, likes bpd does
Sometimes tho i slightly “change” my mask to be able to manipulate someone better
Npd is high masking, usually we are really good at adapting socially (unless there are some comorbidities like autism, ASPD. That makes more hard to mask)
Control freaks, everything must go as we want, and we’ll use any tools to archive that
Even Npd split. Simply the trigger is different: we usually npd split when we feel like our ego is being attacked.
Npd see others in a hierarchy
Npd have a “favourite person” like bpd does. It’s called “equal person” as the name suggest it’s someone we see at our level, so we respect them and see them as a real person
Then there is the “choosen person”, a Choosen person it’s not necessarily an equal, but it’s someone we choose to protect for many different reasons
Don’t be afraid to see other as tools, start to get friends just because they give you some sort of boost or advantage
Rise your standard! Start to judge and look down at people that don’t do anything to rise their status/condiction. That are miserable and pathetic
Ofc you have to stick up to those high standards yourself, and if you can’t keep up you are going to have a npd crush
Like bpd we think we are unlovable and that people will leave us eventually, again the difference here is: bpd people live their life trying to constantly demonstrate they can be loved, while we pwNPD accept it. In fact if someone abandon me my first reaction is “I knew it, no one can really love me” like I am not even surprised when this happens~ I mean, their loss, I’m fabulous <3
Didn’t said things like “low empathy” cause, c’mon, that’s common knowledge. Those are all the tips that comes in my mind, I accept questions!
Good transitions everyone!!
