Foster Caring

Queer foster parent

[mangled-by-disuse]

in happier pride news i actually found this deeply heartwarming

that's solidarity baybeeee

[lgbtlaughs]

Further context: Durham city council (Reform UK) cut funding and support for Pride. The Durham Miner's Association and other trade unions raised enough money for Durham Pride 2026 to go ahead - a direct call back to when Lesbian and Gays Support the Miners (LGSM) raised money for mining communities when Margaret Thatcher seized union funding during the miner strikes of 1984-85.

At the 1985 Labour party meet, the motion to support LGBT rights as a party was passed due to a block vote from mining unions.

Stephen Guy, the chair of the Durham Miners’ Association, said that when it became apparent Durham Pride was under threat, he took it upon himself to “encourage the trade union movement to step up and do the right thing, and stand shoulder to shoulder with the LGBT+ community […] They not only raised funds for us, but came to our communities, uplifted our spirits when they were down, and showed their solidarity.”

[craftiebeaver]

I’m so disappointed. I shouldn’t be but I am. One Nation has apparently polled 2 points ahead of the ALP on 1st preference in a recent survey. How? Why? What is wrong with people?!

[thememedaddy]

[amadeus773]

..... 💢❗️

[bretzkysbs]

[craftiebeaver]

A foster carer friend of a foster carer friend of mine has had a serious allegation made - the children were removed from their care straight from school. It’s a false allegation made by one of the children in an effort to be returned to their parent. They can and will “self place” (return home) in another 18 mths when they turn 14 but got sick of waiting (because they’re 12 and dealing with normal being 12 stuff plus foster care plus trauma plus FASD). I feel for everyone in the mess.

[craftiebeaver]

I went away for a weekend and for a minute thought V would be okay about it. V was NOT okay about it at all. The fear of abandonment runs deep.

[hagfashion]

Miriam Margolyes for British Vogue’s July 2023 pride themed issue: “I wouldn’t want to be straight for anything.”

Photos by Tim Walker

[craftiebeaver]

Why is it so difficult to find a good GP who doesn’t tell “off-colour” jokes? My old GP was a very good doctor but was sexist and/or borderline inappropriate at times. I tolerated the unreconstructed 65+ yr old male crap because he was a decent diagnostician and explained things well. He’s retired and the replacement was doing so very well until today, when I was there with V, and he decided to tell a nun and gorilla joke. I didn’t let it slide and he apologised - we’ll give him another two strikes before he’s out.

[craftiebeaver]

I made a phone call and had an awkward conversation. I found photos of my ex, nice ones from the time when he smiled and had hair. I thought perhaps his ex wife might like them for their daughter since he is deceased.

Nope.

She doesn’t want them.

Their marriage was “horrendous” and she had to fight his estate for her assets. So, I’m guessing he relapsed and was drinking and using again.

I apologised, we hung up and I can dispose of the photos. Or maybe hang on to them in case his daughter ever wants them. She’s mid-teens now so only a couple of years until she can make her own decisions.

As problematic as V’s father might be I’d be pretty pissed off if someone could provide photos or information about him for V but didn’t. So, with that in mind I’m leaning to hanging on to them for a bit.

[thememedaddy]

[aquilacalvitium]

Write it badly or it'll never be written

Write it badly or it'll never be written

Write it badly or it'll never be written

Write it badly or it'll never be written

Write it badly or it'll never be written

[aquilacalvitium]

Please keep interacting with this post because when I come to tumblr to procrastinate, this shows up again in my notifications and guilts me into writing again

[yipyipallyall]

[moosepower]

Definitely sitting with this.

My therapist sold me on the four agreements, and one of them is "Always do your best" and I really struggle with the difference between "the best can possibly do" and "the best I can reasonably do within the present constraints of time and materials"

[craftiebeaver]

April work goal achieved! Caseload down 50%! Mind you, that held for approximately 23 minutes as two new referrals came through but I’m still pretty chuffed. I can give some of the more complex matters some extra attention.

April personal goal also achieved. Foster carer training booked and emergency fostering clothing culled and sorted.

Things I’m ignoring because I’m tired and sick include reports from two of V’s support/health professionals that are full of inaccuracies and the floordrobe in one corner of our room. 🤦‍♀️

[the-tree-line]

we could go back to telegraphs instead of social media. send your mutuals unspeakable strings of morse code at 4:30am

[the-tree-line]

.- …. …. …. …. …. / ..-. . .-.. .-.. / -.. --- .-- -. / .- -. -.. / -… .-. --- -.- . / -- -.-- / .--. . -. .. - … / - --- -.. .- -.-- / -.-- . --- .-- -.-. …. / --- ..- -.-. …. / -.-- --- ..- -.-. …. -.-.-- -.-.-- -.-.-- -.-.-- / … . -. - / ..-. .-. --- -- / -- -.-- / - . .-.. . --. .-. .- .--. ….

[kaijutegu]

personally i prefer semaphore

[iridescent-lightning]

so prefacing this with the fact that I know that the fun is sorta taken out of this by me translating, but not everyone will have the energy to look it up themselves, so I figured I'd help out.

Morse code: AEEEEE FELL DOWN AND TROKE MY PENIT TODAY YEOWCE OUCH YOUCH!!!! SENT FROM MY TELEGRAPH

Semaphore: NO NOT YOUR PENITS

[craftiebeaver]

We are entering the letter magnet era.

[craftiebeaver]

The dunnies have imploded so everyone has to work from home. What on earth has caused all the toilets to be out of action for up to two weeks is anyone’s guess 😂.

[craftiebeaver]

I think it’s time to look for a new job and I really, really don’t want to do that. It has been such a good place this time around however, I have to accept that it no longer a good place. It is now a place where I am carrying too much risk and too many clients without any support. The decision has been made that there will be no clinical supervision for casuals despite me carrying a full-time caseload on 15 working hours. My cases are often complex and high risk. It’s absurd. I’ve told my direct manager I’m over capacity and won’t accept new referrals until I’ve closed a few cases. The excellent management team that has departed will referee me, so at least I’m not concerned about that this time around.