Parenting & Everything

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[starlightxraven]

[arcanumnyx]

getting older is all about getting weirder and sexier and more perverted and gluttonous and intelligent and blunt and eloquent and spontaneous and skilled. i love that for us.

[aichu-dechu]

[foster-the-world]

Feel this

[draconym]

do you think two pennies is still enough for the ferryman or has inflation driven up the fare

[draconym]

if he makes me use an app I am simply not crossing the river Styx.

[jumblemama]

6am in Salerno and I can’t sleep

Jet lag is a hard master!

Flight was good, 24h in Rome went fast, and it’s too hot.

Salerno seems lovely. Though still touristy.

Today we’re going to have a gentle day. Beach, maybe, and some walking around. Tomorrow: pompeii, then to Florence on Wednesday.

[kosmogrl]

[chaoticneutralwife]

the next day after exerting myself too much because i felt good for once

[butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway]

"Just because I'm right, doesn't mean I'm being helpful" is a vastly underrated thought process that I strongly encourage others to get comfortable with

[sweetcherryblossomswrites]

[jumblemama]

An eventful 4h!

I woke at 5, annoyingly.

I remembered that it’s my dad’s hernia surgery today so messaged him and caught him just waiting to go in.

Messaged P to let her know (she’s often an early riser, and had said she cared about this kind of thing) to find that she was parked outside her daughter’s house trying to help her daughter through a psychotic episode.

We messaged a bunch. (Mutual care type)

Then I heard the kids aren’t going to camp bc of AQI. So was messaging with Mouse and then Beardy who has snapped back into minimal/formal text.

Then heard my dad was out of surgery & doing well.

Then messaged a bit more with P who was asking for distraction… I distracted her enough that she came by for a “cup of tea”.

Ironic as I’d cleared the morning bc I thought J would come over last night. But he was all in his feelings so didn’t. Shhhrrrrrrrruuuuugggggggg

Now I gotta work.

But I’m smiling

[positivestress]

I wish I was a female tiger because then if I was talking to someone and I was getting off topic I could say “but I tigress,” and then kill and eat them because I am a tiger

[sunnycat]

There's a fair few of you out there that will identify with this turtle. I see you.

[jumblemama]

Wednesday

One negative: the air quality here is horrific

Three positives:

1. rowing this morning before it got bad, with Bear coxing (steering) the boat while I pace set, which meant we were facing each other.

2. Breakfast date with P, including a lil bit of smoochin, and a bunch of follow up texts that made me blush.

3. Physio and counselling this afternoon both of which helped me feel like a strong human.

[under-same-sky]

[jumblemama]

Tuesday

I leave on Friday with the boys for our trip. They go to their dad tomorrow so tonight was pack up time. The bags are almost done but I gotta deal with some household stuff! J will be taking care of the place, and he’s good for that. And happy to do some jobs. I’m just not leaving actual cleaning jobs for him.

Today I had another aura migraine - the visual field stuff. Didn’t want to worry the boys though, so didn’t tell them. It felt better from just laying quietly with my eyes closed for 5 mins. If I get symptoms again, I’ll just try that exactly where I am.

I had a full day of work, punctuated by camp drop off & pick up for the boys. They could bike themselves if it weren’t so hot.

I gifted J a massage this afternoon. He called after, to talk about it. But I was with the boys marching through our to do list. For all that he’s an independent man who doesn’t want commitment, he sure gets pissy when I’m not available or if I prioritize anyone over him - even my kids. 🙄

P let me know that her stepdaughter had a difficult time last night and we had a meaningful exchange this morning. Then mid afternoon she sent me a message which made me blush & stutter in my meeting. Sorry not sorry? We’re having breakfast together tomorrow which will be lovely. I’m getting a bit in my head about time with her and what I do/don’t want to do. She’s being lovely about that though.

Work is transforming and changing me. In a good way. I’m leaning into my niche much more rather than people pleasing and trying to have all the answers.

I had a semi civil exchange with beardy today which gave me some hope for the future!

[kuttithevangu]

Being a calm, gentle, non-reactive person is really hard work, which is probably why many people are none of these things. Personally I think it’s worth it but sometimes one does want to just roll around on the floor wailing at the top of one’s lungs

[escuerzoresucitado]

Pedestrian traffic lights

[dataandphilosophy]

“For example, if you’re trying to convince people to boycott a segregated store, your object is to convince them that boycotting the store will have a strategic effect, not that desegregation is morally important. For whatever reason, on a cognitive level human beings have a really hard time with this. Smucker cites an example of a Lefty roleplaying session where people were tasked with selling an action to people who agreed with them on principle but didn’t see the strategic merit of the action. Surprisingly, the sellers couldn’t make the conceptual switch to sell strategic merit: instead, they doubled down on THIS ISSUE IS IMPORTANT — even though it had been stressed to them that the people they were selling to bought into the importance of the issue. People react poorly to “this is important, so do WHATEVER I SAY”; they want to be convinced that what you’re proposing will work.”

Source.

[myfootyrthroat]

Also from above:

“Bob Wing, a grassroots organizer, explains this nicely: “If winning feels impossible, then righteousness can seem like the next best thing.” But righteousness is not conducive to getting normies to join your team if your team cannot demonstrate ability to, at least sometimes, win. Nor does righteousness help you make real inroads with regular people.”