About Chen
Some tough love for my fellow heartbroken, young (probably teenager) EXO-Ls.
You love EXO, and you love every members, Chen included, right? Well, I have news for you. They love you too. But this love is different from the love you feel for your family and friends. It’s unique. But it’s not the same you will feel when you meet someone you will fall in love with. You probably don’t know that love yet and that’s why you are confusing it with the love for EXO. I was like you before. When Baekhyun had a girlfriend, I was not happy about it. But I got my shit together and thought about it. Now listen to me carefully please.
Do you not want a little Jongdae? Or Baekhyun, Yixing, Sehun? Do you want their precious bloodline to stop? Do you want them to feel lonely and depressed? (Yes, there is a big chance for them to feel depressed because of their job. And loneliness makes it worse). Of course, they have you. But they cannot have that bond with you. With all of you, is just not possible. Out of millions of girls, there’s only one lucky one for each of them. This time, it wasn’t you. And don’t think that the lucky one is cheating or whatever. You cannot feel that unique bond to marry someone without being honest to each other. And if it was you, would you be cheating? His wife-to-be is human, capable of love, just like you. And extremely sensitive due to her pregnancy hormones. She really doesn’t need stress now.
Now, you don’t understand. You are too young. But you will date when the time comes. You never know. But you WILL go out with a boy/girl you like no matter how much you love EXO. It’s gonna happen. And you will get married and still love EXO. It’s gonna happen. Do not try to deny it. Do you have a crush on someone? Then it’s already happening. So do you think it’s fair that you can do it, but they can’t? What kind of love is this? You can turn your back on them any time without consequences but they have to be really careful with you even with normal things. They are humans just like you. With the same feelings and needs. You have no experiences yet and you act out of anger. It will pass. But if you ruin his career just because he is human and getting married just like you will one day, you will regret it. Just imagine yourself in his place. Will you feel nervous and scared before you announce your marriage to your loved ones? Do you expect you will get hate and petitions against you? I don’t think so.
The promise they made was about being there for us, always. But not physically. It’s an emotional kind of bond. You can depend on them when you need them. Just listen to their music and maybe watch their shows. But remember to live your life and have real friends you can actually talk to and who can support you.
When you will be in your 20s, getting serious love experiences, you will understand that it is different. And when you will be married, and think about EXO, still working hard without having someone next to them, unlike you, you will think: ‘It’s a shame they cannot have this love. They should have babies by now.’ Believe me, you WILL feel this way. So do NOT ruin their chances please. Do NOT make them choose between family and career. It’s not fair. What you are doing to Jongdae now, IS NOT FAIR. AND, you make other members feel scared to do the same. You will do it (getting married, having family) when you are older. And you won’t feel bad about it. In fact, you will be very happy. And you will wish the same happiness to your loved ones.
PLEASE. STOP. BEING. SELFISH. Live your life with kindness and understanding. Do not expect things from others you don’t expect from yourself. You promised you will be there for them when they need you. Well, Jongdae desperately needs you. Please support him. You are not gonna regret it. You will be a very proud EXO-L.