Lurker From The Swampy Depths

gay aro and dumb as hell || halloween kinnie || he/him ae/aer pronouns

[creeplanternty]

autism more like aw, rizz ‘em

[jundream]

Hi I wanted to make top surgery pride for both transmascs and transfems because you don’t see that. Here’s some cats with boobs happy pride to trans genders

[mangedog]

48hr tumblr blackout proposal

tumblr mobile has seadily become near unusable these past few updates. not just from a user experience perspective (which is important enough in itself) but also from an accessibility perspective.

examples include the new way the image viewer works (if you can call it "working"), the tumblr live button replacing the profile button, and that newly created blogs will be forced to have their main dashboard tab be the 'for you' page.

the demands of the protest would be along the lines of:

reverse the recent image viewer update

scrap the new users 'for you' page default setting

let us turn off tumblr live indefinitely

increase efforts against spam / porn bots

make reporting abuse and hate speech as easy as reporting as reporting spam

let us go nuts show nuts again... for real this time

commit to improving usability and accessibility, and listening to users!

(suggestions welcome!)

to protest against these usability issues, and inspired by the recent reddit blackout, i propose a 48 hour blackout (where you don't use tumblr at all). preferably of both mobile and web (since web has problems too) but mobile is the focus here.

I suggest the 48 hours between the 30th of June to the end of the 1st of July.

this marks the end of pride month (for the "queerest place on the internet") and the start of disability month (since accessibility is a massive issue here).

tumblr office is in San Francisco, USA, so the times and dates will be calculated using their time zone (PDT).

you can find out the times and dates for your timezone here.

i can't afford to blaze this post so please spread it around as much as possible! protests only work if significant numbers show up!

[mangedog]

tumblr rejected the blaze campaigns for this post because they know it would hurt them. let's make this an indefinite blackout - it's the best way to get results.

(so the blackout would be from June 30th onwards)

[greyfacade-deactivated20241118]

- Allow non-users to use search! I should be able to search for things without being logged in!

- Make it easier to find old posts in search. I hate that if I take time off Tumblr (often to avoid spoilers in fandom) I may not be able to look through old posts in search to see what Ive missed while I was away. It often only loads so many posts and you cant look through them all.

- Promise they will NOT remove custom themes! Tumblr is making this site more for mobiles and less for web, and as a PC user it sucks ass.

[hagesunniva]

More changes I would like:

Real custom domains, not Tumblr Domains

Real localization: the only thing that's translated to my language on this site is the ads

Make this place usable again. From June 30th on, nobody posts.

Please remember this and reblog for reach!

[alsastaircase]

I made a commonly mistaken attraction thing because this was a common thing I wanted to see while I was questioning my A-spec identities :D lemme know if any of them could be improved or changed entirely

The color is what it is and the red is what it might be mistaken for

Image Description:

Image is a dark background with colorful flowers on the sides. In the middle there is words saying the following

Title commonly mistaken attractions

Sexual "I want to fuck you" red text "you look nice"

Romantic "I want to date you" red text "I want to hang out with you"

Platonic "I want to be friends with you" red text "I want your attention"

Aesthetic "I like how you look" red text "I want to be you

Sensual "I want to hear/see/feel you" red text "I want to fuck you"

Intellectual "I like how you think" red text "I want to be as smart as you"

[sprnklersplashes]

“this character isn’t asexual they’re just not interested in sex!”

my sibling in christ, what do you think being asexual is?

[b-e-b-b-l-e]

loveless aroallos. you agree. reblog

[myrviek]

blonde nadja from the wwdits s5 trailer, she stole my heart<3

[ziptie-bouquet]

Omw to go to the big pride event in my town while waving a sign that says "aro=/=ace, ♡ fuck you ♡" with the bi flag in the background

Truly my aroallo slut era is only beginning

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

Due to that post I made re: why it's hard for aros/aces to imagine a future for themselves because society tells you a romantic partner will always take priority, a lot of people (aros/aces and allos alike) are sharing stories about how they have been discarded by their close friends and it's breaking my heart. But allos and aspecs coming in and sharing how they have the same amount of love for their partners and their best friends/siblings is healing it.

Still, there are people in the tags saying that aros/aces can "never offer their partners the kind of intimacy they need" and so they shouldn't be "surprised" when they feel closer to partners than their friends. You guys are missing the point.

The point is that we should NOT be ranking our relationships. People aren't there to be ranked on a scale of "This person is my number one and this person comes after that." The point is that you need multiple people in your life. One person cannot - and should not - be responsible for giving you everything you need. Different people will give you different things that you need in life and you should value all of them.

The idea that a romantic partner will give you every single thing you need in life is a toxic idea in itself and puts undue pressure on said partner and the relationship as a whole. A best friend won't give you everything either. You NEED multiple people in your life and they will all give you a part of what you need, but there is no one perfect person out there who perfectly gives you exactly what you want. We need multiple people and they should all be valued by you. Love is not limited.

[shmaroace-deactivated20241124]

asexuality is a spectrum!!!! aromanticism is a spectrum!!! there is not just asexuality and allosexuality there is not just aromanticism and alloromanticism there is a gray area!

[imagopersonal]

One of my fav things about wwdits is that you have these characters with this incredibly strong sexual energy, they fuck all day all night, talk about it nonstop, and yet the one who makes out the most on screen is the blatantly ace guy

[guillermothegreat408]

Ugggggh can we please for the love of god stop the marwa shit already and stop with the general anger over the fact that the show might not play out like your favorite fanfiction?? Guillermo might not turn into a vampire, he may stay a human slayer for the whole show and yknow what that’s literally fine. He has found the power and strength he’s been searching for. He has found the family he’s been searching for. And at the end of the day, it’s still one of the funniest and most creative shows on television with a dedicated cast and writers that love the show as much as we do. It just upsets me so much to already see people going back to hating the show because it’s not turning out to be some flanderized, run of the mill romcom. Please guys, remember the heart of the show and why so many people love it. Please please please.

[nyancrimew]

ok so im struggling with a really bad dissociative episode again since like a week, that seems to still be getting worse again and like, does anyone have some actually helpful advice for dealing with the really bad episodes? like i currently often wake up in the morning having mostly forgotten who i am and who my friends and partners are and it's fucking with me way more than i'd like to admit to would be very glad about literally any kind of advice, i feel like i used to have some better strategies for dealing with these but that's not super useful if i don't remember them lmao

[insanearoace-deactivated2024020]

Aromantic visibility day! you're valid no matter where you fall on the spectrum, you're not broken

[shmaroace-deactivated20241124]

aromantic pride. love loses

[growinguparo]

It makes me feel very weird hanging out with people who are in monogamous romantic relationships. I dunno how to articulate it exactly. Some kind of combination of “I don’t want that, I don’t understand that, it’s weird to me, it makes me uncomfortable to witness and even more uncomfortable to participate in” and at the same time “I want intimacy, I don’t want all my friends to go do this thing I can’t do and leave me behind, I feel left out, I wish these gestures didn’t have romantic connotations attached so maybe I’d feel like I’m allowed to do them too even though your partner is right there”. There’s a sense of internal conflict between these two emotions; this sense of repulsion and this sense of jealousy (for lack of a better word) - cuz how can you be jealous of something you really really don’t want?

Even having been in monogamous romantic relationships myself, it felt icky to me for the same reasons, as if seeing myself become what I dislike. I always felt shame about them, I didn’t know how to be proud of having a partner. It’s just not for me.

The whole thing is very internal. My friends are cool, they’re not ditching me at all. If for any reason we are growing distant it’s because I’m not good at keeping in contact. But it’s like they’re all slowly moving into the “next stage of life” (planning their lives around each other, operating as a unit, settling down) and I’m still sitting at the previous one with no desire to follow them. It’s not just that I’m not ready yet; I don’t aspire to what they have at all, and yet I still don’t want to be left behind. And that feels very weird, and confusing, and a bit bitter.

Alienating. That’s the word I was looking for.

[shmaroace-deactivated20241124]

"stop making characters asexual" oh why because you're going to? if there wasn't such a lack of it i wouldn't be over here making the deficient up with 1000 aces