Cupcakes & Crossroads

Hi! My name is Rachael. I'm a twenty-something fatbabe from Ohio! I am a newlywed :) My Babes and I are proud cat parents! I like pretty things... I will be reblogging Doctor Who stuffs, occasionally Supernatural, and a few other fandoms but this is primarily a personal blog that reflects things I enjoy and think are cute or important!

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[trollprincess]

Do me a favor.

Reblog this if a medical professional has ever treated you like shit or fucked up your diagnosis or was just generally wrong.

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So answer is yes we do want an Indian Cinderella next

[cupcakesandcrossroads]

Sounds way fucking better than the missish crap that was the live action Cinderella a la Lily James

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[blizzardphobe]

growing up, i dont remember my dad yelling at me when i got in trouble

he yelled when i was playing outside and he wanted me in for dinner, but that was only so id hear him. he yelled the day i told him and my mom about the abuse going on at school, but that was when i was up in my room and he was downstairs yelling over my special ed teacher abusing me and my classmates and the school letting it happen and how messed up it was. he yelled the night he went to kill my uncle cuz he was upset that my uncle had raped my cousin

but he never yelled at me. i wasnt afraid of him screaming at me or worried that he might hit me when i got in trouble

and i grew up just fine. i grew up feeling loved. i grew up able to talk to him about my hobbies and interests. i grew up comfortable around my own dad

its messed up that my experience was something many people i know never had. a lot of those people feel distant from their dad or tense around them. they dont connect with their fathers, and that is a fault on the fathers part. and that issue is yelling

[blizzardphobe]

‘but hermes how did he discipline you? maybe you were just a good kid?’

im really disorganized, and god i was much worse when i was younger. i didnt finish my homework a lot then either

so when wed get a note home about my incomplete homework and disorganization, my dad….didnt yell at me. wed go about our day and when we were alone, hed bring it up. he was always gentle about it and he took ‘i dont know’ as an answer when he asked me why i had trouble finishing homework or organizing 

according to my mom, enough ‘i dont know’s led to me getting my adhd diagnosis 

and like…..i got better with organizing and finishing work. why? cuz my dad helped me. he sat down and helped me with my homework. we made a system that helped me finish assignments. he helped me organize my backpack and folders. i still use these systems even though im older and hes not here 

when we moved, i didnt like my new special ed teacher at first, mostly cuz i was afraid shed be like my old one. i skipped going to her room a lot. i did whatever i could to avoid her

and so my dad asked me why i didnt go to her class. he asked me while we were doing something we liked, he was gentle about it too, and he had never been even vaguely threatening to me before……so i felt comfortable telling him i was scared

he helped me with this too. he told me to write down everything that happened in special ed and keep the page, so id see after a period of time that she wasnt going to abuse me. he worked with my special ed teacher for us to interact outside of a classroom environment for a little so i wouldnt feel pressured or that she had power over me

yelling isnt discipline. yelling doesnt teach your kid to do the right thing. building trust with them, accepting their answers, and helping them overcome difficulties teaches them to do the right thing 

[blizzardphobe]

the fact that people in the notes are genuinely shocked that a parent doesnt yell at their kid and wish that their parents were like mine is fucked up 

[hydro-homies]

F**k the military’s LGBTQ policies

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i wish everything was quieter and softer and less often

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May the 10 of Pentacles bless your account with more money than you can spend. 💵✨

[hermes-is-my-homeboy]

10 of Pentz came thruuu

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Omg this actually works!!! Thank you 10 of Pentacles!!!

[borkdork]

I could seriously use this money right now….

[ashashi-corner]

Please give me my refund of 400$ soon…

[hermes-is-my-homeboy]

I feel obligated to reblog this every time it shows up in my dash

[hermes-is-my-homeboy]

No bragging, just 100% floored and grateful. Work hard, maintain a positive attitude, and believe that anything can happen.

[virgocity]

So I reblogged this exactly a week ago because I thought it was funny and uh lo and behold, a family friend wrote me a big ol’ check just to help me out of a tough financial spot AND my bank refunded me $32 for fees they’d originally taken out. SO UH YEAH. Reblogging this again in hopes that it brings equally good fortune to my followers.

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Sure why not? Jobs bring in money and prosperity…

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Need this

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Credit: Liesl Manone.

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Here’s a thought, maybe people’s growing irreverence for 9/11 is because it was a long time ago and younger generations weren’t as affected by it, or maybe they are so sick of the way it has been basically commercialised by politicians and used as a device to justify incalculable pain and they are tired of it being cynically trotted out every year and told to never forget while every year they are also told to all but ignore mass shootings and US humanitarian crimes.

And like, I dunno, maybe it isn’t about disrespecting those who died but refusing, for any number of reasons, to be a part of the governmental hallmark industry that has built up around it.

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I take students to see the 9/11 memorial all the time. More and more of the students I get were either so young or not even born yet.

And every time, I ask them, what do you think? What are you feeling? And many of them are hesitant to respond so I’ll prompt, “Was it sad? Was it boring?” And as soon as they know I’m not gonna judge them for it, 100% of the time, they respond, “I feel bad that I don’t feel as moved by it as you. You cried when you told us about it and I get that it was such a horrible day and so many people died, but I can’t really think of what life was like before or just after that time.”

That really struck me the first time I heard it because these kids really don’t remember a time when things were so carefree and relatively quiet. Little to no security screenings. Almost zero school shootings. Kids stayed outside by themselves until the street lamps came on.

Because they grew up in a post-9/11 society, all they’ve ever known is mass violence and distrust of everything. Kids expect a plane to crash into a building, a truck bomb to go off at a big event, a student shooting up a school. And they’ve just got to deal with it and keep moving on or they won’t survive.

[geekandmisandry]

This.

[tarynel]

What’s your fantasy?

[pleasestopandrew]

I wake up, my debt is all paid off, my bank account is full, my relationships with my family are healthy, and I’m able to travel anywhere in the world.

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reblog for this ultimate fantasy life to come true

[themightyglamazon]

Also my back doesn’t hurt

[themoonworshiper]

Same for that last one

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how’s everybody doing

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[jennylewren]

This needed to be rebloggable.

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Uncommon Knowledge about Changes in Body Weight: Part 1 and Part 2.

Dieting doesn’t work.

No, really. Dieting doesn’t work.

Your body is not a fucking machine. It didn’t roll off an assembly line. Bodies don’t work the same way. Anyone who thinks that they can predict or explain the way metabolism, or the body in general works, needs to get the fuck off their high horse. There is still SO MUCH we don’t know. Pretending that you know the ins and outs of something so complicated and multifaceted makes you look like an idiot.

People who send asks like this are the same people who whine and moan about their ‘friend’ who can ‘eat whatever she wants and not gain an ounce!’ They’re the same people who’ve SEEN and ACKNOWLEDGED that metabolism works differently for some people—but somehow when this is applied to fat people instead of thin people, it couldn’t possibly be true.

Regardless: It doesn’t MATTER the ‘reason’ someone is overweight. I don’t give a fuck if you have a thyroid condition, or a slow metabolism. I don’t care if you just hate exercise. I don’t care if you just really love cheeseburgers. No one, absolutely NO ONE, needs to justify their body to anyone else.