~nerdy sugar baby~

( f / 20s / cali ) I originally created this blog as way to keep all the SB/SD resources I've come across in one place. Now that I am full-blown sugaring, it will serve as a place to post about my experiences as well!

[cubanroses]

Dark feminine energy🖤

[daddy-issues22]

back at it!

Holy h*ll. I have been to hell and back, multiple times, over the last 2 years. I let some really awful people into my life that saw my success (I got into multiple med programs) and they successfully pulled me down because they are cruel, pathetic, ugly people.

One of these turds tried to murder me after I broke things off with him for good. This was a vanilla relationship by the way.

I am back to sugaring and am curious how it looks like now that I am 30 and not 26 (I look younger though, thank you genes + skincare routine).

I still do not get my hopes up but last week was lovely. 2210! However, catching up with my debts wiped it all out LOL yay capitalism! It does feel good putting the pieces of my life back together and healing from the last god-awful 2 years.

Much love to you all and be safe! <3

[the-evil-clergyman]

La Naissance de Venus by William-Adolphe Bouguereau (1879)

[asiansiren]

The men so deeply dependent on this industry might bash you, insult you, degrade you, play mental games with you or even seduce you to become a permanent fixture of sex work but keep in mind that every moment you spend with them is a distraction from your greater and true purpose. Even though you are looked down upon, you are actually an integral part to their sense of self and community, a sounding board for their fantasies and sense of self. Don’t let them trick you. You deserve much more and much greater. You deserve to feel real.

[kevinlgerhardt]

[daddy-issues22]

T R U T H 

[sydneysugarbaby]

5 Things rich men notice

quality successful men noticed in women was their hair. Most disapproved of women who had unkempt locks and/or sported an unnatural color or style. A man of stature is under constant scrutiny, but also keep in mind that he is likely an alpha male in his own right; running into colleagues or business partners at lunch would prove awkward and deeply embarrassing if he is seen with a moving Hot Topic ad. Keeping hair to a natural hue and focusing on how healthy it looks ups your chances greatly. After all, hair growth and quality is highly dependent on hormones and nutrition — an alpha male wants to show that he picked the best out of the dating pool.

A sense of self was the fourth on the list. A common deal breaker with employers during an interview is a candidates pretending or exaggerating their understanding of a certain subject. Our survey found that this was also a big pet peeve among successful men looking to date, particularly in cases where women lied about the extent of their knowledge when it came to current events, politics and culture.

The way a woman carries herself when she walks, or her gait, was third on the list. 26% of those surveyed said that a proper balance of speed and posture exuded grace, which caught their attention regardless of what task they had at hand. Gait defines public presence.

Posture was the second most important quality. It shows manners and confidence, two key qualities successful men sought in wives. 78% claimed that beautiful women who slouched greatly decreased their overall beauty.

The number one most important quality or indicator that successful men noticed in a woman was the quality of verbal and written communication. Although most used text or email messaging, 53% of the men surveyed preferred verbal communication. Misspellings or inappropriate abbreviations were considered deal breakers. The ability to hold a conversation is vital when dealing with men of high power and wealth, as most meetings and deals are still handled face to face.

[daddy-issues22]

[thesugaringescort]

100 "Non-Allowance" Questions to ask your Pot or SD:

A few examples, and in no particular order:

1. What has influenced your decision to want an SB?

2. How long have you been searching for one, and which sites did you use?

3. Have you had any negative experiences with Sugaring? Either in your search for one, or in your previous arrangement?

4. Are there people that you don’t like? What characteristics was it about them, that you didn’t like/enjoy?

5. Where do you consider to be good places for an SD/SB to be romantic?

6. What are some ways that you get embarrassed in public?

7. Are you ever bored? What type of people bore you?

8. What are good leisure activities that you would like for us to try together?

9. Are you okay with me dating others while we are in an arrangement?

10. What is your definition of emotional intimacy?

11. Where and when did you meet your wife/girlfriend? What drew you to her?

12. What sort of future financial plans and goals do you have?

13. What is your biggest goal in starting an arrangement?

14. Have you thought about the ramifications of your actions on your family, co-workers and friends?

15. Tell me what precautions you are going to take to ensure that our arrangement is kept private?

16. What you would do if we ran into someone either of us knew, while out together?

17. What would you want me to do?

18. What are the most important things in life? What do you value?

19. What questions would you like me to answer?

20. What are your bad/good habits?

21. What is your opinion of me being a different nationality or following different religious briefs than yours?

22. What would you do to leave a positive impression on our first date? And future dates?

23. What would your perfect arrangement consist of?

24. What is your opinion of us abstaining from sexual intimacy within our arrangement, even though I am not a virgin?

25. Can you explain to me how a Sugaring arrangement is different than a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship?

26. Do you believe that its possible to have emotional intimacy without physical intimacy?

27. Do you still have feelings for an ex, wife, girlfriend or previous SB?

28. How long did your previous arrangement/relationship last?

29. Do you regret any of those intimate experiences with that person?

30. What are your expectations of intimacy and sexual relations with me? How do they differ from your previous SB etc.

31. Should I be fearful, jealous or envious of any of your previous arrangements, and the different opportunities that you have shared with them?

32. Do you usually follow your heart or your head?

33. What is your opinion about me hanging out with other Sugar Babies and their SD’s, or in places that SD’s frequent?

34. Do you think that someone’s past matters in a current arrangement?

35. How would you react if I told you that I can not meet your daily needs for communication?

36. Do you believe in privacy, even while being open with each other in an arrangement?

37. Do you have any opinions about me working a part time job? What if it takes my time away from you?

38. Do you have any hobbies that you’d like for us to share?

39. Have you ever experimented with legal/illegal drugs? Do you currently?

40. Do you have children? What do you think the impact would be on them if our arrangement was made public?

41. What communication methods do you prefer? What are the most private and effect modes?

42. What is something weird about you, or that you’re afraid to tell me?

43. Tell me something about your work, that isn’t common knowledge.

44. If your friends or co-workers don’t like me for some reason, is that a deal breaker?

45. Have you ever had a one night stand? If you did, do you regret it? Would you do it again if you knew you wouldn’t get caught?

46. How long would your ideal arrangement last?

47. Do you have a criminal record, or any contraction of diseases?

48. I don’t, but would it change your opinion of me if I had one?

49. Are you willing to lose time from your family and friends, in order to see me?

50. How did you discover Sugaring?

51. Do any of your friends have Sugar Babies?

52. What do you think about continuing the search for an Sd/SB, after you’ve recently started an arrangement with one?

53. Do you think love within an arrangement is possible?

54. If your job (or wife) started to have a negative impact on our arrangement, what would you do?

55. How do you handle feelings of jealousy or resentment?

56. Do you have any regrets in life or in past arrangements?

57. What is your ideal vacation/weekend get away?

58. Will we be taking any together?

59. What are your expectations of my free time and our time spent together?

60. If you are allowed to do just one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?

61. What are some things that you take pride in?

62. What is the most difficult component for you, in an arrangement?

63. What happens if we exchange pictures, and down the road decide not to continue our arrangement? How will they be used, shared, kept or destroyed?

64. Would you be ok with me making plans with my friends, on a night that you are free to see me?

65. Will you be OK with me hanging out with you and your friends?

66. If you could change something about females in general, what would it be?

67. What is your opinion on the arts? Do you want to visit museums and galleries together?

68. Do you read the newspaper? How do you stay up on current events?

69. What are you looking for in the long term and short term?

70. If you had three Sugaring rules, what would they be?

71. Which aspect to Sugaring scares you or makes you the most nervous?

72. Are you typically late to events and dates, or end up rescheduling at the last minute?

73. Who has been the most influential person for you so far in life?

74. What are some places that we will definitely need to avoid being seen together?

75. What are some places that we would be safe to visit/experience together?

76. What is the best advice you ever received?

77. What advice would you give to me, regarding Sugaring and life in general?

78. If you had a previous arrangement, why did it end?

79. Are you still friends with that person?

80. Without getting too personal, what were some good moments in that relationship?

81. What were some of the craziest things that you’ve done with her? And some of the sweetest?

82. What will you have accomplished at work one year from now and within our arrangement?

83. If you/we could go on a road trip where would you chose to go? Would I have a say or just be expected to come along on a whim?

84. Are you prepared to respect, and are you comfortable with accepting my school and study schedule?

85. Have you thought about using code names, or certain apps that will keep our communication/contact private?

86. Can you tell me 3 good points about me?

87. What are your expectations of me in our arrangement?

88. What happens if I can not agree or live up to all of them?

89. Have you ever wanted something really bad and then later, not so much? Do you get discouraged easily?

90. Is there anything I could do to make you think that I am an ungrateful or selfish person?

91. What would you do if our communication and dates were limited to set days and periods of times during the day/week/month?

92. Do you like to go window shopping, or are you the type who needs to buy an item?

93. After I had asked you for our first date, was there any part of you that wanted to say no? Why?

94. What are some activities or places, that you would like to do/go on for dates that you haven’t been before?

95. What are your views on open arrangements? Do you know what an open relationship is?

96. What are your future/5 year plans with your wife or girlfriend? Maybe more kids, more travelling etc. How can I help you to achieve this?

97. Is money more important to you or are the relationships you share with people more important?

98. What are some things that you are either passionate about, or anger you?

99. Do you believe that long distance arrangements can work? What about those that are not long in distance but long in the duration between dates?

100. What are your thoughts relating to Sugar Babies as Sex Workers?

This isn’t an end-all-be-all list, as it would go on and on forever…but rather just an idea to get the ball rolling.

Please add on if you want!

[daddy-issues22]

Easily one of my favorite posts ~

[be-artistic-deactivated20230306]

[daddy-issues22]

ugh, goals.  I have gained ~16 pounds during the pandemic, which is substantial since I am only five foot and two inches -___-

[f0reignluxe-deactivated20221120]

Being pretty is useless if you’re not smart enough to gain something from it.

[daddy-issues22]

eastern european genes + two degrees with two more on the way

Aim for beauty + brains.  The right (and wealthier) SDs will notice and be interested in investing in your future if you play your cards right ;)

[daddy-issues22]

[daddy-issues22]

How is everyone?!

I am back ^_^ after a whiiiiiile.  

Have been sugaring on and off since I was active on here last.  Had great experiences.  Looking for more SDs now.  Before I wanted and had just one at a time, but now your broke ass girl needs to save some major cash for grad school.

How has everyone been?

[bookswithjanel]

[donotreblogplease-deactivated20]

Tips on manipulating men ?

You might not like my answer; but read. Read MULTIPLE works. The goal of manipulation is to change people’s perception of you. 

I feel like everyone recommends Ho Tactics and it seems to have been effective. I couldn’t make it past the first chapter though, so I never read it. The works of Robert Greene have great strategy (The Art of Seduction, 48 Laws of Power, 33 Strategies of War) and are a gateway. 

My advice would be to look into Philosophy, Psychology & Sociology which make up Social Engineering (strategy, deception, etc.). To get the ball rolling, here are some works that I recommend in no particular order:

The Prince – Niccolò Machiavelli

The Art of War – Sun Tzu

Hagakure – Yamamoto Tsunetomo

Strategy - B.H. Liddell Hart

On War - Carl von Clauswitz

Influence: Science and Practice (The Psychology of Persuasion) – Robert Cialdini

How to Win Friends & Influence People – Dale Carnegie

Social Engineering: The Art of Human Hacking – Chris Hadnagy

Covert Persuasion: Psychological Tactics and Tricks to Win the Game – Kevin Hogan & James Speakman

Get Anyone to Do Anything: Never Feel Powerless Again – David J. Lieberman

Genghis Khan and the Making of the Modern World - Jack Weatherford

The Art of Worldly Wisdom - Baltasar Gracián y Morales

It’s Not All About Me: The Top Ten Techniques for Building Quick Rapport with Anyone – Robin Dreeke

What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-Reading People – Joe Navarro

Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage – Paul Ekman

A very important thing before you even get into manipulation is learning how to control yourself and understanding why you think and act the way you do. Here’s some recommendations:

Positioning: The Battle for Your Mind – Al Ries & Jack Trout

Thinking, Fast and Slow –  Daniel Kahneman

Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions – Dan Ariely

The Social Animal – David Brooks

The Laws of Human Nature – Robert Greene

Philosophy also plays a major role. I quite enjoy the works, and apply some of the philosophical outlooks of Thucydides, Seneca the Younger, Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus, and Zeno of Citium. 

I don’t know if you were more referring to physical presentation, or body language, etc. for manipulation, but this is pretty solid. You don’t have to read everything, but be sure to read something. 

[daddy-issues22]

[asiansiren]

Once you’ve established yourself, low-class people are truly exhausting to be around. Their lack of ambition, poverty-based mindset, and inability to provide becomes a drain on your resources.

[daddy-issues22]

This!!!!

[daddy-issues22]