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Stepped Up: The Urgency for Fatherhood - The Sacramento Bee

/PRNewswire-iReach/ -- While there's thousands of books on the market about parenting, none are as inspirational or heartfelt as the latest release by Ralph Harper. Unconventional yet truly empowering, the book's unique narrative calls on all parents of 'fatherless children' to step up to the plate and undertake the responsibilities that can change their lives and those of their children for the better.

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"What’s your favorite thing about your dad?" "He helps me with my problems." "What’s the biggest problem he’s ever helped you with?" "… probably when I get in fights with my friends."

Then dad wiped some imaginary sweat from his brow, and said: “Whew!”

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If the relationship of father to son could really be reduced to biology, the whole earth would blaze with the glory of fathers and sons.

James Baldwin (via aluminaughty)

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Maybe that’s how we change the world, instead of writing a punk rock song we just be better parents. I want to be there for my kids, I want to be there when they grow up; I think that’s the punkest thing of all.

Jim Lindberg of Pennywise, The Other F Word

Just watched the raddest punk documentary.

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Hmm… Interesting that this ran in Forbes. I mean, it’s not interesting because it’s new. On the contrary, this has been the song of my people (i.e. dads) for years and years. But, I guess it’s interesting that an influential outlet like this is finally taking notice. So, y’know, welcome to the party, Forbes.

Anyway, here’s a good nugget from the piece, which will sound wildly familiar to any dads and, well, moms out there:

Just as gender roles for women have evolved, roles for men have changed too—fathers are now more involved with parenting than ever before, and they face many of the same struggles as mothers when it comes to balancing work and home lives.

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"I see how much I love him, and I imagine that my dad loved me like that one day, and it makes me wish I’d been a better son."

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I asked if he remembered the moment he was proudest of his daughter. He started musing in a thick Jamaican accent: “Just seeing her born. That moment when my seed was brought forth on to this earth. It was magic.” Then the girl, who up to this point had been quiet, screamed: “Preach!”

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Here's Nelson's baby boy, Brandon, showing Andrew the ropes! 

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Good News/Bad News

Good News: A&E’s new reality show Modern Dads presents a group of competent stay-at-home dads decimating the “clueless dad” stereotype.

Bad News: The pilot for Fox’s upcoming sitcom Dads apparently has a few blatantly racist jokes, which the network and producers refuse to cut or reshoot.

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In the last decade, the number of men who have left the work force entirely to raise children has more than doubled, according to recent United States census data.

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Free NYC program helps young fathers get on the right track

Amid media coverage of violence committed by young men and the decline of marriage in America, one New York City program is helping young fathers get on the right track.

We love what CUNY Fatherhood Academy is doing to help young fathers in NYC!

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12 Reasons Stay-At-Home Dads Totally Have It Made

When the wife brings home the bacon, there are plenty of perks. 

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The girl on the right told me she wanted to be a veterinarian. Then, almost as an afterthought, she threw in— “Also, the President of America.” Charmed by her extremely ambitious postscript, I chuckled a bit. "What are you laughing at?" said Dad.

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‘Chief Daddy Officer’ explains how to use business skills in parenting

Christos Efessiou didn’t know much about parenting when his daughter Persephone was born. What he did know was business.

In his new book, “CDO Chief Daddy Officer: The Business of Fatherhood,” Efessiou teaches that parenting can directly parallel with the business world.

He gave Metro tips on how to successfully apply a business-minded approach to parenting:

Proactive parenting

“In business, we don’t start a business without a plan,” he says. “We plan the elements of the business. So in parenting you have to make the conscious decision to decide what kind of parent you want to be and what it is that you’re willing to sacrifice to become that parent.”

No parent BFFs

“You cannot be your child’s buddy,” Efessiou says. “There is not a single situation that I am aware of that that has worked in.”

“In business there are good days, [when] everybody likes everybody, but you really need to be able to assert yourself in days of turmoil and days that your authority needs to be exercised,” he says. “If you are friends with your employees, they will not respect you all of a sudden becoming the boss.”

Lead by example

“The most important thing is that parents need to be mentors to their children, and they need to actually lead by example,” says Efessiou. “That means, you cannot say to your child, ‘Do as I say, not as I do,’ because that’s not how children learn, that’s not how adults learn.”

Empower their decisions

“The best way to empower them to make decisions is to give them options,” explains Efessiou. “Give them a reasonable number of options that you have presorted, and then allow them to pick from those options.”

Efessiou refers to this as the Socratic method because it fosters debate. “It is based on the information of exchange between both sides, with one side attempting to convince the other of its better way of doing things,” he says.

“You’re empowering them to make choices,” says the author, “empowering them to be responsible, and the choice is theirs but not entirely because you have narrowed it down for them.”

Give them a voice

Using the Socratic method, he says, avoids rebellion from the child while teaching them to support their beliefs with evidence, find common ground and have a voice.

“If something goes wrong at work that we don’t like,” Efessiou explains, “as long as we have a voice, a way to make our own voice heard, that is what we really want as opposed to having our opinion accepted and enacted.”

Can we have it all?

“Absolutely yes,” answers Efessiou, “but not in the same moment.”

Even as a CEO traveling all around the country, Efessiou believes you can still be a present parent.

“Parents can be furthest from their children sitting at the same couch watching TV — they’re worlds apart,” he notes. ‘Then there are other parents that travel all of the time for business, and they’re as close to their children as a heartbeat away.”

“The parenting of a child is as much emotional as it is physical,” says the author. “The child knows that you love them, so long as they feel you loving them whether you are in the same house or the other end of the world.”

via: http://www.metro.us/newyork/entertainment/books/2013/08/21/the-chief-daddy-officer-explains-how-to-use-your-business-skills-when-parenting/

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Be a dad. Don’t be ‘Mom’s assistant.’ That’s depressing, just waiting for her to write you a list, walk around a store staring at it, calling her from the cereal aisle to make sure you got the right thing. Be a man. Make your own list. Fathers have skills that they never use at home. You run a landscaping business and you can’t dress and feed a 4-year-old? Take it on. Spend time with your kids and have your own ideas about what they need. It won’t take away your manhood; it will give it to you. I did that. I spent more time with my kids. And I found out that I’m a pretty bad father. I make a lot of mistakes and I don’t know what I’m doing. But my kids love me. Go figure.

Louis C.K. (via keepingupwiththesenchaks)

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"What’s the hardest part about being a Dad?" “Probably just realizing that my time with him is going to run out.”

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Saying goodbye to my child, the youngster

Dropping off your son or daughter at college for the first time? Read this Washington Post article about how another father got through it.