#fatherhood

[victusinveritas]

[getoutofthisplace]

Dear Gus & Magnus,

Gus went with me to the ice machine this morning and on the way back we studied the graffiti on the building next to our hotel. He was fascinated by it. We talked about what would make someone want to risk their lives to tag something. I told him about a video I saw recently where a dude who called himself a "real-life Spiderman" fell to his death while trying to make a video. Gus said, "Like...he actually died?" And then he asked what his last words were. I said I didn't know, but in my head I thought to myself, "Probably 'Oh shit.'"

A second later, Gus said, "I bet his last words were 'Oh shit.'"

I love the rare moments I get to spend with just him these days. And times like this make me eager for him to be a full-blown adult.

We ate breakfast on our way out of town, ate lunch in Hoxie, stopped by Nene's to pick up Suki when we came through Beebe, and did our best to get prepped for the week. Mom's done with orientation and starts her job in earnest tomorrow.

Dad.

St. Louis, Missouri. 8.9.2026 - 8.31am.

[koasinag]

What to do when you don’t get what you want.

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2 Corinthians 9:8 (AMP):

“And God is able to make all grace [every favor and earthly blessing] come in abundance to you, so that you may always [under all circumstances, regardless of the need] have complete sufficiency in everything [being completely self-sufficient in Him], and have an abundance for every good work and act of charity.”

Brother, navigating the storms of life can be daunting, and I hope you aren’t fighting for your sanity alone. Some of us handle the pressure better than others, but believe me, it is tough for everyone. If you are a seasoned “wave rider,” this article might not be for you—in fact, you could probably teach us a thing or two!

As men, we carry immense pressure to provide and protect. Life rarely makes this easy; instead, it often adds to our load. While others might feel they have the liberty to break down or “lose it,” we often don’t have that luxury. If we fall, those relying on us fall too.

In 2 Corinthians 9:8, God guarantees us grace and provision, but He never promised it would look exactly how we envisioned. God’s timing doesn’t always align with our plans. This creates a challenge, as we are constantly mending the boats of our lives—fixing, caring, and providing.

The core takeaway from this verse is that God’s plans are not ours; His priority is building His Kingdom. Once we understand that we, as men of God, are no longer our own, our “angle of attack” changes. Things begin to work out for the greater good of ourselves and others. God blesses us so that we can, in turn, bless those around us.

How you handle pain, confusion, and disappointment defines more than just the outcome; it defines your character and how the world perceives Christ through you. As ambassadors of the Kingdom, we must mind our behavior as men who trust in God—men who are not easily shaken. Our faith is tested and refined daily, and while it can feel overwhelming, we must stand firm like lighthouses.

A lighthouse has a simple but vital function: to warn others of danger before it’s too late and to serve as a beacon that guides them on their journey. Brother, you have been placed exactly where you are for a reason. We don’t always grasp why God provides the way He does, but I can assure you of this: God does not play games. There is always a plan to supply not just for you, but for those around you.

As stewards of Christ’s mindset on earth, we have a responsibility to care for others—not just our own kin, but everyone God sends toward your lighthouse.

[capoteera]

[bricedavismedia]

One of the scariest thoughts I had after being diagnosed with multiple myeloma was:

“I might be on a time limit here.”

I had a young daughter.

I had Googled my diagnosis looking for answers, and what I found scared me. I later learned that some of the survival information I had seen was outdated, but in that moment, the fear was very real.

Years later, I’m still here.

I recently sat down with Living Well Together: Big Life in a Small Town for one of the most personal conversations I’ve shared publicly.

We talked about multiple myeloma, months of chemotherapy, my stem cell transplant, fatherhood, a custody battle, anxiety and depression, writing my memoir Rise Anyway, and finding purpose after some of the hardest years of my life.

One of the biggest things I’ve learned through all of it:

There’s always a bounce-back period.

When you’re in a valley, it’s easy to convince yourself that the way life feels right now is the way it will always feel.

It isn’t.

There are still good days you haven’t experienced yet. Memories you haven’t made. Goals you haven’t reached. Versions of yourself you haven’t become.

The difficult parts of your story don’t get to decide how the whole story ends.

You can be scared and still move forward.

You can go through something that changes you and still build something meaningful afterward.

You can rise anyway.

If you watch the conversation, I’d love to know what part stood out to you.

And if you think someone else needs this message right now, feel free to reblog it.

[sdpubliclibrary]

A Reclamation of Manhood / A Poetic Theory Of Plate Tectonics & Other Poems A Split Zine by Tomas Moniz, Talkstory Press   

This "split zine" explores vulnerability, fatherhood, emotional growth, masculinity, and human connection. Moniz, a writer, zinester, and educator known for editing the long-running zine Rad Dad, combines personal, reflective poetry with scientific and geographic imagery. Ideas about distance, gravity, navigation, geology, and transformation become metaphors for relationships, emotional change, finding one's place, and finding one's way home. <3

[arno-vision]

Why My Father Hid My Straight A's From Other Parents (The Art of Moderation) 🧵👇

We live in a world obsessed with metrics. Grades, IQ scores, and endless parental "praise sessions" [0:01:06, 0:06:28]. But my father chose a different path [0:01:12].

Years later, I finally understood why. He wasn't ignoring my success; he was teaching me the difference between Knowledge and Wisdom [0:02:18].

🧠 IQ is just learning ability, not wisdom [0:06:28].Wisdom is the transformation of knowledge into intuition [0:09:46]. It’s understanding human nature. It's the art of "moderation"—finding balance amid contradictions and keeping composure in the face of uncertainty [0:09:56].

🎬 The Silent HeroIn this video, I also pay tribute to the 1991 masterpiece film The Elementary School (Obecná škola) [0:12:21]. It beautifully illustrates how an ordinary, mild-mannered father can reveal himself as a true hero through everyday steadfastness [0:13:03].

From raw data to the goddess of intellect—let’s explore the path to awakening our consciousness [0:11:35, 0:11:44].

🔗 Watch the full video essay here:

[joyfuldaddys]

The #1 Thing Kids Want From Dad (It's Not What You Think)

The #1 Thing Kids Want From Dad (It's Not What You Think)

A UCLA study reveals what kids truly want from their fathers. It's not more time or money—it's something simpler and more powerful.