The rise of discourse about trans mascs/trans men in the lesbian community has me realizing something.
So many of ya'll hate heteronormative standards, but are all too comfortable upholding cisnormativity. I'm fucking tired of people saying "maybe I'm not woke enough for this..." instead of trying to understand queer people's unique perspectives on gender and its relation to sexual identity labels.
Here's my take: Gender is complex and is defined differently by everybody. Womanhood and being socialized as a girl can be notoriously traumatizing due to the sexism ingrained into our society (especially when we're taught from such a young age that we will always be victimized and abused for being women). As such, when someone transitions to a masculine identity, those experiences don't suddenly go away.
And no, you're not "invalidating yourself" by saying you're a lesbian if you're a trans man. You're exhibiting a unique combination of female socialization and male gender identity. And you're not invalidating other trans men, either, because you're not forcing them to use the lesbian label.
Stop pushing queer people into boxes!!! Especially when the lesbian community is known for its gender-nonconformity and trans identities (butches and studs, for example, many of which are transmasc).
I could also talk about how this corresponds with a rise of fascism and conservative values, and that by pushing queer people down you are only contributing to homophobic mentalities, but you CLEARLY aren't ready for that.
Sincerely, a transmasc lesbian
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