Author Simon Farquhar dives into the grisly world of true crime and asks, why is murder so common at Christmas?
🎅🏿🤶🏿 And a Short List of Murder Ballads to Add to Your Christmas Playlist...
🕯️Freeda Bolt🕯️
Freeda Bolt (f18) left her home on December 14, 1929 to elope with her boyfriend, Buren Harman (m20) and was never seen alive again.
Betty & Dupree
On December 15, 1921, Frank Dupree (18m) robbed a jewelry store and fatally shot 🕯️Irby C. Walker🕯️ in the process. Dupree was hung on September 1, 1922.
🕯️Frankie Silver🕯️
Frankie Silver (f15) murdered her husband 🕯️Charles Silver🕯️ (m20) with an axe on December 22, 1831.
🕯️Delia Green🕯️
It was Christmas Eve when Delia Green's (f14) boyfriend (m14) shot her. She was taken back to her home where she died the next day, on Christmas. This version of the murder ballads about this crime is the least factually objectionable.
🕯️The Lawson Family🕯️
On Christmas Day, 1929, the patriarch of the Lawson Family shot and bludgeoned his wife and youngest 6 of 7 children, including an infant.
Nowadays we know that when fathers murder their families it almost always comes down to a narcissistic man who sees his family as an extension of himself, a father sexually abusing at least one of his children, or both. The Lawson family annihilation has signs of both.
It's been longer than the summer, but I did spend all summer wanting my voice back and wondering why the hell it had disappeared in the first place. After 3 doctors, tests at 2 different hospitals, and 1 very awesome speech therapist I discovered it was...
Vocal Cord Dysfunction.
If you have vocal cord dysfunction (VCD), your vocal cords don’t open all the way when you breathe in. You may have to go to the emergency d
And tbh, it floored me. I've never had trouble talking! I talk loud and often! I talk to animals and inanimate objects and myself. Out loud! I also sing quite a bit throughout the day. Of course I hadn't been able to sing since last March, and my voice was getting hoarser and hoarser. There was a bit where it seemed like it was asthma, but the inhaler did nothing when I had a truly awful attack. I needed my partner's mom to tell me I was ok and calm me down.
PRO TIP: If your issue is breathing out, it's your lungs. If your issue is breathing in, it's your vocal cords and you can manage it with breathing exercises once you understand it.
I'm in such a habit of breathing with my chest that I am still doing daily breathing exercises, preparation breaths, and the occasional rescue breath just doing regular life things!
But I can sing again!
So you experience some or all of these symptoms go talk to a doc! You may have to advocate for yourself, especially if you're not a cis male, but it's worth it!
Hoarseness, trouble breathing, specifically trouble breathing in, post-nasal drip, acid reflux, nausea, vomiting, too much phlegm, disliking tight things around your neck, tight belts around your stomach, tight throat, lump in your throat, trouble swallowing, frequent cough/throat clearing, high pitched wheeze on inhale.
You may have been diagnosed with asthma, panic attacks, anxiety disorder, PTSD, or some other obstructive pulmonary issue. VCD is easier and less invasive to deal with than any of those things, and the tools you use for VCD can help with the symptoms of all the other things it could be.
Your voice is you, in so many ways. Losing it is scary. Feeling like you can't breath is scary, whether you're actually in danger of suffocating or not. In the past, VCD wasn't even recognized as a medical issue. Since it occurs most often in women, it was thought to simply be an aspect of hysteria.
Don't let the patriarchy steal your voice and make you blame yourself for it, reach out, get help. You deserve it.