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brndnslvra

No revenge. I found peace. Hope you found peace too.

scorpionlafemme

sleyozz

the older i get the more i realize that you gotta be ready to say goodbye to anything

remanence-of-love

sugarheiresss

Hot take:

Social media has ruined sugaring and sex work. It’s convinced an entire generation of girls that all you need is a cute face and an Instagram account, and suddenly you’re flying private and collecting bags. Meanwhile, the reality is that even if you’re exceptionally attractive, if you don’t have mental game, you’re going to get played and probably traumatized. I won’t even discuss the average looking women who think they can succeed.

This isn’t a fantasy, it’s business and strategy. It’s emotional (and physical) labor. It’s psychology. And some of you are walking in with zero boundaries, no sense of power dynamics, and asking questions that make it obvious you’re not ready, all while thinking someone is just going to hand you a fat stack. A lot of you want the reward without risk.

These men are smart and know how to make you feel like you have the power when you don’t. Women who accept the bare minimum have made bottom of the barrel men believe that they too can have a sugar baby, which is a luxury.

Like yes, absolutely do your research. Those of us who have succeeded had to fail and research in order to figure it out. But at a certain point, the questions need to stop being “how do I bring up money?” and start being “why do I think I’m ready to do this if I can’t even bring up money?”

The internet loves to sell this as easy. It’s not. Pretty girls get used every day, because pretty isn’t the flex if you don’t know how to use it.