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You are riding the bus again burrowing into the blackness of Interstate 80, the sole passenger with an overhead light on. And I am with you. I’m the interminable fields you can’t see, the little lights off in the distance (in one of those rooms we are living) and I am the rain and the others all around you, and the loneliness you love, and the universe that loves you specifically, maybe, and the catastrophic dawn, the nicotine crawling on your skin— and when you begin to cough I won’t cover my face, and if you vomit this time I will hold you: everything’s going to be fine I will whisper. It won’t always be like this. I am going to buy you a sandwich.

Franz Wright, “To Myself” (via ofquietness)

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Oh I am so happy

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You love her because she doesn’t need you to. She sleeps fine without you. Her heart doesn’t break at the thought of you leaving.. And that intrigues you.

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This is so relevant

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Braden Summers traveled to six different countries to prove that no matter where you are, love is equal.

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1. push yourself to get up before the rest of the world - start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise. 2. push yourself to fall asleep earlier - start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable. 3. erase processed food from your diet. start with no lollies, chips, biscuits, then erase pasta, rice, cereal, then bread. use the rule that if a child couldn’t identify what was in it, you don’t eat it. 4. get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else. 5. stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything. 6. buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice. 7. buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small. 8. strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full. 9. organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle. 10. have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck. 11. push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog. 12. message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through. 14. think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything. 15. become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends. 16. lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.

Sixteen Small Steps to Happiness (via pigmenting)

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I can think of some of us who’d get a slice…

this is so important

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I waste at least an hour every day lying in bed. Then I waste time pacing. I waste time thinking. I waste time being quiet and not saying anything because I’m afraid I’ll stutter.

It’s Kind of a Funny Story (Ned Vizzini)

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If your partner is consenting, you will see them meeting you halfway on stuff, responding to your touch, touching you back, making approving noises, positioning their body helpfully, making occasional eye contact, smiling, giggling, kissing you, smelling your skin. If your partner pulls away, flinches, draws back, goes still, goes limp, freezes, is silent, looks unhappy, starts holding their breath, goes from meeting you halfway to merely allowing your touch: stop and check in with words. Maybe they’re ticklish? Maybe they want to stop.

Let’s talk about consent in practice. | Disrupting Dinner Parties (via veganthology)

I am so happy to come across stuff like this, as one of the things that has really bothered me about consent posts on my dash is that most of them framed consent as a set of rules. “Was there a verbal ‘Yes’ after the question ‘Do you want to have sex?’?”, “Was there no alcohol involved?” etc. And first of all: most people know that 90% or more of sexual interactions do not take place according to those rules. A lot involve some alcohol and very few involve the sentence ‘Do you want to have sex?’ and the answer ‘yes’. So consent-education like that seemed unrealistic to me and thereby ineffective. It seems to me like most people reading that would go “Yeah, that’s not how sex works” and move on.

But second and more important: that’s not what consent is either. There can be soberness, there can be a verbal “Yes”, you can check all the boxes and one partner can still not be truly consenting. Because hey, people can feel pressured to say yes even if their partner did nothing to pressure them. (and they can feel not just pressures to say ‘yes’ but also pressured to return affection like kissing, hugs, stroking). That happens all the time. Consent is so much more complex than a set of rules. And if we present consent as a set of rules, rapists will find ways around that. They will find ways to manipulate their partners without them knowing that they’re being pressured, or they’ll find victims that feel pressured to say ‘yes’ without encouragement. One way or another, they’ll find ways to make their partner feel like all the boxes were checked. And their victim won’t have words for what happened to them, because they followed all the ‘rules’ of consent, right?

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