Person who I enjoy listening to: (opinion)
Me: Oh, what and interesting thought! They are inviting me to engage with them in the human art of "conversation", which is a social activity in which two or more individuals form bonds by listening and asking question on a topic of shared interests
Me: This is a clear bid for connection that demonstrates vulneurability, respect, and a desire to become friends and bre heard. How wonderful! I am amenable to this request.
Me: I should demonstrate my affection and enthusiasm by accepting their invitation to listen to their feelings
New friend: (reply, elaboration)
Me: Wow, they obviously care about this topic. Have they heard of this related thing? I wonder how it plays in to their beliefs (reference, opinion)
New friend: (Passionate response)
Me: Wow, they're so educated and enthusiastic on this topic and its complexities, but I've noticed a paradox in their reasoning- Are they aware of this? And if so, how do they reconcile it? Maybe we can develop new opinions and perspectives together! What a great experience! (Question)
New friend: (lengthy, well-thought-out conclusion)
Me: I'm learning so much about this person. I can't wait to hear what else they have to say
(---Three weeks down the road, in the middle of an unrelated discussion---)
New cool friend: (suddenly dropping the topic) Jesus Christ, why does everything have to be a fucking fight with you? It's like you always have to have the last word, it's exhausting, why can't you just say "okay" and leave it at that? Were you an only child or something? I have to just bite my tongue and avoid speaking sometimes cause once I make a comment you have to say something back and it just goes on and on forever. You don't have to prove you know everything, God, it never fucking ends
Me: I have misunderstood a few things