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lazarus | 20 | personal blog so i occasionally vent on here oopsie

[escuerzoresucitado]

[caspercryptid]

I would actually go as far as to say that MOST abuse is unintentional. I think most people will go through their lives without ever experiencing intentional abuse. People are abusive because they're selfish, because they're stressed, because they care more about what society thinks they should do than the impacts of their actions on their children and partners, because they think what they're doing is correct, because they've made it make sense in their own heads, because they think they can fix their victims, they think they can fix their relationships, they think they can stop you from leaving, they think they can make you a better partner to them, they think that means you need to do what they want. We've sort of constructed mental illness in a way that doing this shit to other people counts as a form of mental illness because it is anti social behavior in the literal sense— it is behavior that causes social harm.

I don't say any of this to excuse it. I think everyone needs to be more aware of this because if you think abuse has to be intentional you will never realize you are capable of abusive behavior. You will never realize you are being shitty to the people you love, because YOU know what you mean, YOU know you don't mean any harm. But you're doing harm. You need to pay attention to the impact you have on other people, and you need to do it all the time, Especially when you feel least capable of doing so. Sorry! You live in a society. Get your head out of your ass.

[wolfsteax]

I humbly offer this contribution.

[crabussy]

some people seem to think aotearoa new zealand is just fields and hills and grass. maybe some mountains. maybe a fjord or two. which is so fascinating to me because we have so many different biomes and landscapes it's bonkers.

[crabussy]

we have massive volcanic fields. we have native palm trees and mangroves up north. we have huge swaths of geothermal areas that have geysers and bubbling hot mud and multicoloured pools. we have dense temperate rainforests. we have fern trees that grow ridiculously tall. we have huge tussock grasslands. we have a freezing cold desert. we have huge black sand beaches. we have sand dunes that stretch for kilometres. I love you aotearoa. this isn't even all of it these are just a few examples man

[crabussy]

it's ridiculously beautiful and varied over here and yet when you say "new zealand", a lot of people imagine grass fields and sheep. which to be fair. we do also have. BUT STILL

[crabussy]

long story short: it's not all fields and sheep. p.s. yes those are people at the top of the sand dune in the last photo

[hobo-rg]

tags by @sufficientlylargen endorsed:

#I have a suspicion that a lot of people think aotearoa is a lot smaller than it actually is #I think there's a tendency especially for europeans and east-coast americans to think of it as 'a small island off of australia' #which like #it's small compared to australia #but most countries are small compared to australia #aotearoa has a greater area than the entire united kingdom #it also spans about 15° of latitude #which is 50% more than england #and also more than any US state except Alaska

"off of australia" is also a bit misleading; the distance looks small on a map, but that's because your brain is comparing it to the entire pacific ocean on the other side.

sydney (eastern coast of australia) to auckland (nz north island) is a three hour plane flight.

[crabussy]

EXACTLY!!!!! we stretch from florida to new york if you put aotearoa on a map of the US. it's like saying "japan is a small island off the coast of china" to me

BIG!

[crabussy]

unfortunately one of the main reasons people think we only have mountains and fields and european trees is because of the LOTR movies. smiles. those movies are fun but the reason they were filmed here is because a lot of aotearoa's native landscapes were destroyed and replaced with idyllic european landscapes 150 years ago. which made it the perfect place for a european fantasy film series. so yes there are hobbits! but at what cost!

[sylphid01]

To add onto this, back in the late 19th and early 20th century the primary goal of the colonists was to create an idyllic paradise, or an image of an imagined pre-Industrial Britain. They saw Aotearoa as a prime candidate for this project, and art that highlighted Aotearoa's natural beauty was very popular. Paintings such as the one below were used to help New Zealand's tourism industry and get Europeans to visit or migrate over here.

(Source: The valley of the Wilkin from Huddleston’s run, 1877, by John Gully)

Tolkien lived during this time in British history, and Lord of the Rings is written with this same nostalgia for English pastoralism. The Shire is an idealized version of pre-industrial England, and many of the themes of Lord of the Rings are rooted in this early 1900s nostalgia for a pre-industrial society. So the fact that Peter Jackson's films merge these two elements is unsurprising. Compare the above painting of the Aotearoa with the following painting of Edoras, and then the film version of it.

(Source: Edoras and the Palace of Meduseld, Alan Lee, 1993)

(Source: Shot from The Lord of the Rings: The Two Towers, Peter Jackson, 2002)

They're all very similar in style. Now, was Peter Jackson being nefarious with this? No, I don't think so. But he is filming an adaptation of a book rooted in nostalgia for a pre-industrial Britain in a country where that very same nostalgia was used as a carrot to get British people across the world and help terraform Aotearoa into the very same image that allowed it to be the perfect setting for the films. Settlers who displace and disempower the Māori in the process of this project.

[de-liiria]

A kiss to bring her back to life

[deadmanspsu]

I really need to fix my issue of reading dms + and having the horrible compulsion of doing something incredibly specific (or waiting for an event) before responding because its actually getting me in trouble

[deadmanspsu]

sometimes it'll be a week before im like. "Okay now I can answer 😃" and the person thinks I ghosted them. No im just incredibly mentally ill

[deadmanspsu]

I really need to fix my issue of reading dms + and having the horrible compulsion of doing something incredibly specific (or waiting for an event) before responding because its actually getting me in trouble

[balaclava-trismegistus]

Its so crazy how rice is just a better carb than pasta. Italians are idiots.

[slightly-sigilant]

"hey, did you hear about the mass crab gathering? yeah, I don't know what it's supposed to be either. the bohemians are calling it a 'rave'? apparently it's happening because mr fires is dead. yeah, they're saying it died of something called 'ligma'"

[lowpawly]

this is my impression of what it would look like if the toddlers at my job could make traumacore edits about me

[lowpawly]

alright by popular demand here is more toddler traumacore

[badassdemonsword]

[queen-breha-organa-archived-dea]

This Fourth of July, I ask that you support Native Hawaiian independence.

The Kingdom of Hawai’i was illegally overthrown with the help of American businessmen and we have suffered under the iron grip of America.

Our land is simply seen as a vacation spot, my people are simply seen as tour guides and hula dancers. We have had our culture, our history, and our people turned into a commercialized joke by America.

The rampant tourism kills our islands with endless hotels, attractions and overcrowding. The housing and living costs are out of control because of the false “paradise” narrative. The Navy poisons our water and destroys our land. Covid has killed so many of my people due to the reckless and selfish nature of tourists. I have lost loved ones to this virus, because tourists “couldn’t stay away”.

My people have suffered. I have suffered.

We are more than your vacation. We are more than an aesthetic.

We are a sovereign nation illegally occupied by the United States of America.

Restore Hawai’i to Hawaiians. End the American Occupation.

See the links below to learn more and to read up on your Hawaiian history.

Americans overthrow Hawaiian monarchy | HISTORY

What Is the Hawai‘i Sovereignty Movement?

Hawaiian scholar Dr. Jonathan Kay Kamakawiwoʻole Osorio explains the movement asking the United States to return the lands taken during a 18

‘Āina Momona is a Native Hawaiian led community organization dedicated to environmental sustainability, food security and resilience, and so

Red Hill and Kahoʻolawe: A Legacy of U.S. Terrorism

The United States Navy has a history of terrorism in Hawaiʻi (and throughout the world). In 1940 the Navy started to build the Red Hill Fuel

Hawaii reports more than 5,000 new COVID cases, 15 additional deaths in past week

The latest number brings the statewide total since the start of the pandemic to 308,695.

[nassef-mahmoud]

Have you ever woken up to find that everything you've built over the years has crumbled? Have you ever felt like you've gone from being someone people respectfully called "Doctor" to someone forced to explain their needs and ask for help just to survive? Do you know what it means to spend your life toiling, studying, and working to build an honest business, only to have war on Gaza snatch everything away in an instant? I wasn't born a beggar, and I'm not used to asking anyone for help. I owned a pharmacy, a source of livelihood and dignity, living off my own hard work. But the war destroyed my pharmacy, and with it, my dreams, my stability, and my family's future. Today, as I ask for help, I don't just feel the pain of poverty, but the pain of utter defeat. The pain of being looked at as if you're a beggar, when you're a victim of a war that stole everything from you. Believe me, need isn't the hardest part of it... the hardest part is having to justify your needs to people, feeling like your story doesn't matter to anyone, and seeing the abandonment all around you as you sink deeper into despair every day. If you can't help, then don't... You hurt those worn down by life with a word or a judgment. By God, I only sought help after every door was closed in my face.. 💔💔💔

God is sufficient for me, and He is the best disposer of affairs.

This campaign was shared by @90-ghost here

The war took my pharmacy… don't let it take our hope too.

My name is Dr. Nassif Al-Dahdouh.

[nassef-mahmoud]

In the last six days, there has been only one donation. I am disappointed... 💔💔

[nassef-mahmoud]

When I look at those pictures, I feel a pang in my heart that I wouldn't wish on you, my friend 💔💔

[littlelapin]

[roguedeer]

Being asexual and racist is embarassing as fuck. Being racist at all is obviously embarassing as fuck but the amount of racism and especially antiblackness i have been seeing from asexuals recently is obscene.

One of the only asexual activists is Yasmin Benoit, a Black woman. She has raised so much awareness for the community. She was the first asexual person to lead Pride in London, she started the #thisiswhatasexuallookslike movement and is THE leading voice for the community.

And you all will celebrate international asexuality day on April 6th but we wouldn't even have that if she hadn't cofounded it.

Edit: why are you all too scared to repost this. Cmon. Be vocal about being against racism

[mephistopheles]

i bring a sort of “you should maybe interrogate your so-called ‘preferences’ to make sure they’re not literal textbook examples of severe unconscious bias” vibe that my woke gay friends dont really like

[mephistopheles]

what this post does NOT mean

go out and fuck someone you aren’t attracted to because a stranger on tumblr said to

go out and date someone you aren’t attracted to because a stranger on tumblr said to

You’re Not Allowed To Be Gay Anymore

what this post DOES mean

if you just ‘prefer’ to avoid majority black areas of your city

if you just ‘prefer’ to read, write, think, and talk about men

if you just ‘prefer’ to socialize with people you (perceive as) your assigned birth sex

if you just ‘prefer’ to exclusively watch white-directed movies, read white-written books, listen to white-authored music

if you just unconsciously perceive men as more authoritative/competent and ‘prefer’ to be spoken to by them

this is a post about acknowledging unconscious bias. it is not a post about dating. please stop coming into my inbox and accusing me of rape apologism and telling me to kill myself. thank you

[tomeowl]

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

the other thing about Internet dogpiling is that it is just not possible to think clearly during the acute stages. it’s so easy to criticize people for responding defensively or tactlessly to mass criticism but I cannot overstate the degree to which your brain becomes a rat in a trap. I think we do have to temporarily recalibrate our expectations in these circumstances and accept that they do not necessarily represent how that person responds to criticism. the skills for self-regulating and reacting to normal interpersonal criticism are not the same skills needed to respond to viral callouts.