Dear Future Domme

“First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do.” - Epictetus

[thoughtkick]

“Love grows from stable relationships, shared experience, loyalty, devotion, trust.”

— Richard Wright

[moshpitsandstargazing]

[dearfuturedomme]

Life is too complicated not to be orderly.

M. Stewart

[dearfuturedomme]

Dear Domina,

I thought I was going to have a decompressing Sabbath. It turns out I added like 30 ideas to the brain bucket. Lol. Instead of listing them out, I’ll honor them for popping up, then let them go like clouds in the sky. That’s pretty much all I can do for a Sunday night. :)

I hope you have a very good sleep,

Your Puppy

[dearfuturedomme]

Honey, on your knees when you look at me I'm dressed like a fucking queen and you're begging, "please" I rule with the velvet tongue And my dress undone                                    — King Princess, “Holy”

(Not that you need to wear a dress, Domina! I just thought it was a nice line to end on. :D — Puppy)

[spectralsuggestions]

i like the concept of soulmates—not a “you’re destined to meet me, and love me” kind of soulmate, but a “i’d pick you, every time.” kind of soulmate. a “no matter what happens, and what has happened, i want to go through it with you.” kind of soulmate. a “i love you by choice, and you’re a blessing, and i’m going to continue thinking about you this way not because i have to but because i want to.” kind of soulmate. a “you help me rest easy when everything is difficult” kind of soulmate. a “in every possible outcome, i want you there, to share it with me.” kind of soulmate.

[deathgasmic]

don’t let the horny posting fool you too much, i am a hopeless romantic little bitch at heart

[dearfuturedomme]

Mini-update

Hi, Future Ma’am!

Mini-update here as I was working to break my body goals up in manageable pieces. 

I am going to try an accountability group with my favorite Discord bros. Then, use letters to you as a sort of goal roll-up on Sundays. 

What will be important it keeping wrangling my thoughts and keep clearing space to keep my daily practices consistent. I love spending all my time in my head (and that’s gotten even more habitual with the Panini), but I really do need to correct the ratio. I’d like to spend at least 4.16% of my day devoted to care for my body. 

So! Daily goals on Discord > Expressions on in my Bullet Journal or Tumblr > Roll-up on Tumblr > Annual goals in my supah secret .ppt.

Kinda like that? Feels figure-out-able? 

I hope so! Let’s do this! :D! Your Puppy

[dearfuturedomme]

Fire Hose

Dear Ma’am,

I think I’ve surrounded myself with too many wisdom-offering sources. I learn 6+ things about life or someone’s perspective and context whenever I scroll through a social media channel. I love it, but the fire hose is coming a little too fast. Lol.

Today, I’d like to focus on what I can do for my body. I’ve done a lot of intentional learning about how my body processes energy and what fuel it needs and experimented with how it burns. 

I’ve got a ways to go to be in ‘good enough’ shape for you, even further if I want to be hot. (And I do. I want to be hot for you. I want to be your tall, transmasc himbo. I want to distract you into forgetting simple tasks. I want to compel you to catch me around the waist, push me into the kitchen counter, and pull me down for a scathing kiss. -smiles dreamily-)

I figure that I’ve got to break my significant goals into tiny ones to accomplish every day. This will help guide my self-discipline and, ultimately, push me to be more mature. I don’t want to gorge myself on instant gratification (even though I have done that for years.)

Last topic for topic: social media. I will pull out enough to look over the horizon of my social media accounts. My goals would be to:

Keep accounts that make me curious

Keep accounts that inspire

Keep accounts that teach me things in some doses (be conscious of how many I have so I don’t overwhelm myself.)

Refine friends and family channels

Subtract channels that incite comparison, e.g., bodies, art, etc.

Have to clean out the cobwebs, Ma’am! :>

Your Puppy

P.S. Here are some cool things I found on the interwebs:

Self Care to Communities of Care (TedTalk)

Chet'la Sebree reads and discusses "A Litany for Survival" by Audre Lorde 

Radical Self Care: Angela Davis

Detailed Line By Line Explanation of INVICTUS a poem by William Ernest Henley

How to do your laundry (TedTalk)

[hailhailsatan]

So everyone talks about praise kink right? But I think there's something to be said for a reassurance kink.

"That's it, you're doing it right, darling, don't worry."

Any guidance through even the simplest of tasks.

"I'm here, I'm not going anywhere."

Feeling weight, like a hand resting on a shoulder or thigh.

Making eye contact and getting a smile and nod back that says, you're doing great, keep going.

Being hushed or swayed while receiving back rubs.

Being fully surrounded by their body while they say, "it's okay now, I'm here, you're safe."

[dearfuturedomme]

Spring Begins in Winter

Dear Future Domme, 

I took a new step in refining myself so that I’m a little more ready for a relationship. Often, steps will probably be books that I’ve read, activities that I’ve tried, and commitments that I’ve kept consistent. This week, I swan dove into the book, The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz. The book outlines four principles for achieving personal freedom and true happiness in life. The agreements are:

Be Impeccable With Your Word — Speak with integrity and avoid using words to hurt yourself or others.

Don't Take Anything Personally — Other people's opinions and actions are a reflection of their own reality, not yours.

Don't Make Assumptions — Clarify your understanding with others to avoid misunderstandings.

Always Do Your Best — Put forth your best effort in all circumstances, but don't judge yourself harshly. 

The book encourages readers to adopt these agreements as a personal code of conduct, in order to live a more fulfilling and authentic life.

I think of it as an elimination diet. Clearing out the gunk that may be accrued by suffering, unhappiness, and grasping.

The Four Agreements can definitely assist in providing positive perspectives into D/s relationships by promoting clear communication, self-awareness, and mutual respect.

For example:

Be Impeccable With Your Word — In D/s, clear and honest communication is crucial for establishing boundaries, negotiating power dynamics, and ensuring the safety and consent of all parties involved.

Don't Take Anything Personally — In D/s, it is important to (at times) separate personal feelings from the power dynamic and dynamic play. This agreement can help partners understand that any actions taken during play are not a reflection of their personal worth or relationship.

Don't Make Assumptions — Assuming the desires, limits, or intentions of a partner can lead to miscommunication and potential harm. The agreement to not make assumptions can encourage partners to explicitly communicate their desires, hard and soft limits, requirements, and boundaries to avoid misunderstandings. “Ask questions!”

Always Do Your Best — I love the idea that our best is going to keep on getting better with time. Master through repetition. :)

-sighs and smiles- All and all, the book had some pretty good reminders to enjoy the adventures in life, and to me, part of that journey is getting to you. Signing off for now, Your Puppy

[dearfuturedomme]

Dear Future Domme

I couldn't wait to say hi. :>

Three things today:

After thinking about it for a week, I started this blog to practice communication. When I meet you,  I'd like to be well-versed in sharing thoughts and emotions so that it's easier for us to connect. I know lots of media content is driven by smoldering eyes and reading peoples' minds, but I fully disclose that I suck at both. Through this journaling practice, I plan to learn how to reflect better and learn about myself and others.

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. More on this later.

I am working on not sounding like a mansplainer when I'm explaining something. Also, I'm working on not sounding patronizing when trying not to sound like a mansplainer. Bottom line, I'd like to share what I know (or geek out about it) and want to create the best environment to learn what others know in real, authentic ways.. 

I look forward to snuggling with you. Ugh, you don't even know! Sending you all good vibes! I…can’t wait to meet you, even though I must,

Your Puppy.