tired already

[thepeacefulgarden]

[wagnetic]

[Text: In recovery circles, I’ve heard this described as “going to the hardware store for oranges.” In this case the hardware store is your parents and the oranges are the love and support you rightfully wish they could give you. Unfortunately, the hardware store simply doesn’t stock oranges. And we save ourselves a world of hurt when we learn to stop going to people for things they aren’t capable of giving us.]

[into-the-weeds]

#oh I like this#but I like it better as a metaphor for a pattern of seeking out emotionally unavailable people rather than expecting kindness from parents#because you know that the hardware store isn’t supposed to carry oranges#I would say the thing about parents is more like expecting a grocery store that’s always out of oranges to have oranges next time#it’s not unreasonable to expect oranges from a grocery store#but this store will never have oranges despite this (via @wagnetic)

[detachedspork]

Queerbaiting - these two things can be true

Queerbaiting is a term used to describe when a creative work entices (often queer, but not exclusively) audiences using the suggestion of queer content, but without actually committing to it, allowing the content to remain palatable to anti-LGBTQ interests. Arguably, I'd say it should also cover the likes of Netflix corporate behaviour: carry queer programming but also anti-queer programming, and profit from both while causing harm to the queer community in general.

If you find yourself convinced a teenager is queerbaiting, it's time for some introspection, not a Tweet. I don't really believe any of this discourse comes from a place of actual queer advocacy - I expect it mostly comes from poor personal crush behaviour management, magnified by toxic platforms. First truth: it is absolutely abhorrent to demand that ANYONE of any age reveals their sexual or romantic orientation to you, personally. But super especially if that person completed the work in question before they could legally drink IN EUROPE. You are not entitled to that information, not ever. And you should only ask people where there is already a relationship between you that provides safety and trust for the person you are asking. The media needs to cop on with this too - stop feeding the speculation and rumour mill. If I - as a blogger - managed to not publish an accidental outing from an actor while I was interviewing them, then actual professional journalists should be able to handle their interviewees kindly as well.

Second truth: when you are telling stories about minority populations, that population should be substantially represented amongst the people charged with the telling of that story. This doesn't just mean actors - it means writers, directors, publicists, set designers and everything else. This can go a very long way to preventing harmful tropes from taking hold in narratives about minority groups. While we talk about broader diversity, we also have to recognise that our communities are diverse internally as well. The more people we have with a voice, the better our stories will be. Obviously marrying these two is tricky in reality, but doing a hard thing well is really what it's all about anyway.

[queer-as-city-folk]

If you are taking the car to Chicago, can you even call yourself a feminist. There are Women on that train who want to have gay sex with you but can't because you are taking a fucking car to Chicago

[queer-as-city-folk]

Right now there is a very buff Butch woman all alone in the Cafe car and she could be having steamy gay sex with you and be moving into your apartment if you were just willing to take the train to Chicago

[queer-as-city-folk]

I'm busy trying to get more lesbians to ride the train instead of taking their Subarus to Chicago

[charliejaneanders]

I've started referring to any dude I don't know as Marlon Rando

[bebewrites]

woop there it is

[detachedspork]

This is so very fucking odd and specific I'm so sorry

[wilwheaton]

In 1960, SAG and WGA struck to force management to adapt to the new technology of television. Without that strike and the agreement it birthed, residual use payments would not exist.

My parents stole nearly all of my salary from my entire childhood. My Star Trek residuals were all I had, and they kept me afloat for two decades while I rebuilt my life. I have healthcare and a pension because of my union. The AMPTP billionaires want to take all that security away so they can give CEOs even more grotesque wealth at the expense of the people who make our industry run.

To give some sense of what is at stake: There are actors who star in massively successful, profitable, critically acclaimed shows that are all on streaming services. You see them all the time. They are famous, A-list celebrities. Nearly all of those actors don't earn enough to qualify for health insurance, because the studios forced them to accept a buyout for all their residuals (decade of reuse, at the least) that is less than I earned for one week on TNG. And I was the lowest paid cast member in 1988. They want to do this while studio profits and CEO compensation are at historic highs.

I mean, if not now, when? And I haven't even touched on AI and working conditions.

We must fight for the future of our industry in the face of changing technology, the same way our elders did in 1960. So today, my Spacemom and I went to the place where it started for us, way back when, to do just that.

I see all your support. It means so much. Thank you.

[accessibleaesthetics]

Very Silly Concept: a show called "Accessibility Nightmares" but it's structured exactly like Kitchen Nightmares. An accessibility specialist goes to different establishments and helps them make their businesses more accessible.

The accessibility specialist asks why the door at the top of the small set of stairs has a wheelchair symbol on it. The owner replies that's the accessible bathroom. The camera zooms in on the specialist as they process this information.

A customer with a service dog comes in to a restaurant. The hostess tells them they don't allow dogs. The accessibly specialist looks over at the hostess like

And there are web accessibility episodes too. The accessibility specialist stares at the white text on the light pink background of the home page like

The specialist asks why not a single product picture has alt text, and the business owner says "Well I mean, it's makeup, why would a blind person be shopping for makeup?" The specialist just

The specialist asks the web designer how a screen reader user is supposed to complete the captcha portion of the password reset process when there is no audio alternative. The designer admits they don't know.

[a-url-that-exists]

this, but only if we get to yell at them like Gordon does.

[accessibleaesthetics]

Oh, 100%. In my head the accessibility specialist is actually still just inexplicably Gordon Ramsay. I was having a delightful time the other day imagining "your videos have auto-generated captions?" being said in the exact same way Gordon says "you're serving them frozen fish???"

But having the specialist be Ramsay-esque would be crucial, I think. On all accounts; just as Gordon is always patient and polite with the waiters and waitresses, the specialist would be patient and polite with the store staff answering questions about the accessibility options they do not control. But on the flip side, if the person who is in charge is being unnecessarily difficult or just straight up ableist, there is likely to be some yelling and dramatic background music involved.

[mycroftrh]

catholic guilt vs protestant belief in your own inherent superiority, fight

[mycroftrh]

wait no I just remembered a few hundred years of history I take this post back

[bananahomo]

[anarchocunt]

[charliejaneanders]

Trans Subtext Can Be Powerful. Trans Characters Are Even Better

Award-winning author Charlie Jane Anders makes the case for direct representation.

Trans people used to look for reflections of ourselves in metaphors and subtexts — but now, a lot of us are realizing that it's way better when stories feature actual trans characters who get to live complicated lives. And you can even feature living, breathing trans characters alongside metaphors for transness. My latest, over in @them.

[charliejaneanders]

She's certain that she's a girl in the exact same way that she was never certain she was a boy. Or rather, she was a boy because everyone told her she was a boy, not because she felt like one. Until now, she's never allowed herself to even wonder if they were right.

I wrote a p. good description of trans feelings just now

[detachedspork]

Hands up if you lived through Glee fandom and now your enjoyment of Heartstopper is being weighed down by your absolute terror for the fate of the cast.

[lettersfromtitan]

Hey, so new book coming out!

After a serious bicycling accident, 26-year-old cullinary school drop-out Callie flees her overprotective parents to open a doughnut shop in Fly-Debate, Maine. When she starts dating one of her store regulars, 44-year-old Beckett, she has no idea that he’s the star of the TV show that shoots in the tiny town, or that he has a reputation for falling too fast too soon. Sexy times and hijinx ensue.

Things in this book that might excite you:

- A 19-year-old muralist who dispenses advice she learned from reality TV

- Allusions to Superman

- Making out at the local axe-throwing parlour, like you do

- A houseboat named The Lobster Taco

Content you may wish to be aware of:

- While no one in this book gets pregnant or is trying to get pregnant, a non-graphic discussion of pregnancy is plot significant in the last third of the book

- Callie’s bike accident is described in the last third of the book. The description is non-graphic but very tense.

- A discussion of eating-disorder culture in the entertainment industry and explicit rejection/pushback of that also appears in the last third of the book.

Specific chapters where you can expect this content are listed in the authors note at the beginning of the book.

Additionally, Callie has significant ongoing conflict with her parents that is only partially resolved in the course of the novel. This book also contains some explicit sex scenes and lots of foul language.

Finally, our hero, Beckett, has a lot of gender stuff going on. Some people will notice that in the text and some people won’t. If you see it, it’s there very specifically. That said, the characters was never more clear with himself or us about what the deal was there, and we ultimately accepted we were writing someone for whom gender is complicated and isn’t about clear resolutions. This is not a huge plot element; it’s not really a factor in the relationship or the HEA, but this it is a thing happening on an ongoing low-level basis in our hero’s life and head.

Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BTZZMWB2

Other retailers (including Kobo and Nook): https://books2read.com/u/bxr1W6

Paperback: Coming soon

Hoopla/Overdrive and other library apps: Coming soon

[mostlyfate]

Young woo and her pink mittens*:･ﾟ✧

Extraordinary Attorney Woo (이상한 변호사 우영우) 2022, dir. Yoo In Shik.

[kibumkim]

Some of yall need to be more embarrassed about what yall say online and im not talking about the fandom people because at least they have friends that share their niche interests. Some of yall dont even have that and be on here talking to strangers any kind of way and then wonder why ur lonely. Like girl it’s because u are awful to be around

[spectreln]

SInce when is "yall" a valid word? Honestly, it pisses me off to reduce two words to one, especially since the other defines a human being.

[combeferret]

don’t you love it when people give a useful example of the op’s point out in the wild of a post

[desolationlesbian]

Applying for jobs is a hell designed specifically to torment autistic people. Here is a well-paying task which you know in your heart and soul if they just gave you a desk and left you alone and allowed you to do it you would sit there and be more focused and enthusiastic and excellent at it than anyone else in the building. However, before they allow you to perform the task, you must pass through 3-4 opaque social crucibles where you must wear uncomfortable clothes and make eye contact while everyone expects you to lie, but not too much (no one is ever clear exactly how much lying is expected, “over” honesty is however penalized). You are being judged almost entirely on how well you understand these very specific and unclear rules that no one has explained. None of this has anything to do with your ability to perform the desired task.

[martwhim-deactivated20161119]

Since people often ask “Alright, well this is fantasy! Why can’t we have boob shapes in plate armor?!” I decided to make a post about it. My frustration has nothing to do with historical inaccuracy and I’m all for imagination and freedom— but I’d like to (very quickly)...