もう死にたくない

[i-am-a-fish]

trans men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[truscumshark]

do y'all just ever

WANT A CIS MALE BODY

[lately-leo-blog]

dysphoria is really really really fuckin crushing me just the fact that i exist makes me feel nauseous 👌

[desnos]

[softflannelboy]

The biggest mood

[i-am-a-fish]

reblog if you don’t want to watch a family guy funny moments compilation

trying to prove a point to my youtube algorithm

[life-at-work]

[enbundad-discourse]

Your fave dysphoric trender transmedic back at it again spittin some Str8 Fax.

@fuck-cistrenders Dysphoric Trender edit of @transitch Transmedic flag

[arachnethena-deactivated2020121]

Your entire opinion is factually incorrect and literally contradicts basic fucking logic shut up

[enbundad-discourse]

You wanna put your sources where your mouth are? Cause I actually have them.

Source 1. Source 2.

from the DSM diagnostic criteria for gender dysphoria [italics and bolding mine]: In adolescents and adults gender dysphoria diagnosis involves a difference between one’s experienced/expressed gender and assigned gender, and significant distress or problems functioning. It lasts at least six months and is shown by at least two of the following

So. Can you give me 1 (one) reliable source that actually proves you need dysphoria to be trans that hasn’t been covered in this post? [No, a clinic’s criteria to start HRT is not a reliable source. That’s about what they require for you to start medical transitioning, which is not what being trans is.]

[enbundad-discourse]

@kiss-the-cis please read either of the sources I have above. And all of yours have been covered in the post linked above and don’t actually say you need dysphoria to be trans.

Also

You are cis and don’t get to dictate who is and is not trans and you don’t get to define what being trans is. Here is a literal scientific article on what transgender means. And here is the definition (that in no way includes dysphoria.

[bi-kisses]

When you say ‘scientific article’, link to the APA (a socially influenced and untrustworthy psych association that in no way has jurisdiction over trans people), and ignore the fact that the very definition you’ve linked above literally says all GNC people are trans… you’ve lost all credibility.

I am talking about the neurological proof that trans people are not simply deciding to be trans and are not in control of their gender identity. For you to claim that there is no neurological divide implies that their is no reason for trans people to exist other than them saying so.

Genuinely think before you post. Think before you mindlessly consume media. Do real research.

[enbundad-discourse]

If you actually clicked on the link I provided, you’d see this in the same paragraph as the screenshot above.

So no, they are not saying GNC people are trans. But nice reach.

How exactly is the American Psychiatric Society an unreliable source? And if you look I have the DSM-V linked above and the definition of what gender dysphoria is.

There is no neurological divide between genders, so there is no neurological “evidence” that someone is “actually trans” because gender cannot be found in the brain. Gender is a social construct. [No, I am in no way saying it’s not real. Money is a social construct but that doesn’t mean people aren’t poor.]

Maybe shut up and listen to trans people when we talk about what being trans means.

[bi-kisses]

If there’s no neurological basis for people being trans…. and gender is a social construct… what is it that makes people trans? What in them makes them different from cis people?

[enbundad-discourse]

There. Is. No. Neurological. Difference. Between. The. Brains. Of. Men. And. Women. At. All.

The only thing that makes trans people different from cis people is that we were assigned a different gender at birth than the one we identify with. Gender is not biological, but that doesn’t mean it’s not real.

Gender, like money and language, is a social construct. A social construct is something that has been created by society, but it exists.

We are assigned genders at birth [doctors say “it’s a boy/girl” not “it’s male/female” when announcing a delivery] based on our genitals, because we, as a society, decided that the casual words to be used for AFAB people are girl/woman, and the casual words to be used for AMAB people are boy/man. So someone who is trans is someone who doesn’t identify as the gender associated with the genitals they were born with.

Does this make sense?

[bi-kisses]

No.

Money is a physical object used to symbolize ‘value’, or simply, something you’re owed. Money is in no way comparable to GENDER. Money is an object and gender is who you are.

If the only difference between trans people and cis people is they don’t like the gender they were assigned at birth, this means they are actively choosing their gender. They are saying ‘the idea of female/male doesn’t make me happy’. They have absolutely no concrete reason to feel this way, their brains are therefore normal cis brains and they have no reason to transition. Their distress is unfounded and their transitions are unecessary.

How does any of that sound NOT transphobic to you?

[enbundad-discourse]

Money was created and accepted by society. It is therefore a social construct. There are different currencies for different societies. This isn’t that hard. I was using money as an example because of the fact that even though it was constructed by society, it is very real and you can hold it. If you notice, I also used language as an example.

No, the difference between cis people and trans people is that trans people aren’t the gender assigned at birth. The only part of identifying as a gender other than the one you were assigned that is choice is what label you feel fits you best and decide to use. That doesn’t mean that being a gender other than the one you were assigned is a choice, it just means you choose what language to use based on what you’re most comfortable with.

It all sounds incredibly transphobic and isn’t what I was saying at all.

[bi-kisses]

Choosing what makes you feel comfortable? Are you for fucking real? Do you genuinely think that it’s the IDENTITY that brings people comfort and relieves dysphoria?

This is literally the reason people don’t take trans people seriously.

[enbundad-discourse]

Oh. My God. Are you genuinely misreading what I’m saying? Or are you being intentionally obtuse? [I vote for #2.]

“It just means you choose what language to use based on what you’re comfortable with.”

The key words there are “based on”

I in no way said you choose what you’re comfortable with. I mean you take what you’re comfortable with and choose what language you use to describe yourself.

[bi-kisses]

So, if gender is a social construct… let me get this straight. 

In a society where there is no social differentiation between the two sexes… where women and men have no different pronouns, all forms of presentation are acceptable… would I be correct in assuming that, you believe in a society such as the one described, trans people would not exist?

[dashaibo]

OP, if you seriously think I want to chop my dick off and cry because I can’t ever bear a child is because of society, I don’t even know what to say to you

[spooky-luka-deactivated20200830]

Please stop calling trans surgeries “self mutilation”

There’s a difference between self harming and going through a medical procedure that will help alleviate dysphoria

Sincerely, an ex self harmer and ftm saving for top surgery

[1st-1]

[colourfulpantsandarainbowhat-de]

when the dysphoria hits

[traumartist]

whos is it

[garbage-empress]

it’s really weird how all the touted historical examples of “women” who “pretended” to be men seem to fall into two extremes:

1. women who did it for maybe a couple years at most on an extremely limited basis and usually not full time, died as women.

2. people who were men 100% of the time their whole adult lives and made explicit instructions to a trusted person to ensure they were remembered as a man even after death.

gee it’s almost like these two groups were totally separate and have completely different motivations or something. almost like it’s super obvious the 2nd category were all trans men and the only reason they aren’t remembered as men is due to transphobia.

[honeybutterbiscourse]

Transmeds: “The DSM can’t be trusted as a source! They used to consider being gay a mental disorder.”

Also Transmeds: *currently consider being transgender a mental disorder*

[transmedicalism-saves-lives]

No, we don’t. We consider it a neurological condition, not a mental disorder. There’s a huge difference there, the largest one being that mental disorders are cured with therapy, and neurological conditions are dealt with by developing coping mechanisms or dealing with external factors. We consider being transgender to be innate, and we believe dysphoria should be kept medical so people can afford the medical treatments, like HRT and SRS, that we need. I hope this explanation helps! 

[japanese-with-anime]

[writeitdownmaka]

ASKING ABOUT JAPANESE (IN JAPANESE)

****If there are corrections or additions I should make to this list, please send me a message!****

So I just started using HelloTalk for Japanese, and found out pretty quickly that asking people to help you IN Japanese gets you MUCH better answers so long as you’re up to the challenge of figuring out slightly more complicated explanations! Here are some ways to do that:

THINGS TO ASK

Can I ask you a question?

ちょっと質問していいですか？

How do you say “_____” in Japanese?

「＿＿＿」は日本語で何と言いますか？

日本語で「＿＿＿」はどうやって言いますか？

What does “_____” mean?

「＿＿＿」の意味はなんですか？

「＿＿＿」って、どういう意味ですか？

Could you please correct my sentences/check them for errors?

文章を直してください/くれませんか/もらえませんか

間違いがあるかどうかチェックしてもらえますか？

What is the difference between “__” and “__”?

「＿＿」と「＿＿」の違いは何ですか？

Which one sounds more natural?

どちらがもっと自然に聞こえますか？

どちらの方が自然ですか？

What kind of situation should I use it in?

どんな場合に使いますか？

Is there another way to say it?

日本語で同じような言い回しがありますか？

How would you say it?

___さんなら、これを何と言いますか？

Do people normally use this word/phrase?

このフレーズ/言葉を普段使いますか？

How do I use (this word/phrase)

「＿＿＿」をどうやって使いますか？

Is it similar to/Is it like “_____,” for example?

「＿＿＿」という事ですか？

「＿＿＿」と同じような意味ですか？

AND IF U DIDNT REALLY GET THEIR CORRECTIONS/COMMENTS:

I’m sorry, I didn’t really understand “_____.” Could you explain it to me?

（すみません、「＿＿＿」はよく分からなくて）、ちょっと説明してもらえませんか？

I’m sorry, would you mind explaining your corrections?

すみません、訂正を説明してもらえませんか？

OTHER TIPS

Say thank you afterward!

The sentences above are mostly starting points. The more you talk to people, the more you’ll notice how people ask things like “Oh, can you explain that thing on the bottom?” or “So it’s okay if I say this instead of this?” etc. etc. But these sentences will help you get on your feet!

What I sometimes like to do if they’re using really complicated Japanese to explain to me, it try to explain it in my own words and then add っていうことですか？ to find out if I’m understanding right!

Challenge yourself by answering Japanese-speakers’s questions in Japanese! You’d be surprised how much you can learn about explaining just by reading explanations!

Good luck! Please let me know if you have any questions! <3 頑張ってください！皆さん何か聞きたいことがあったら、何でも聞いてくださいね！<3

-Maka

[writeitdownmaka]

//typos fixed!

[imthelesbian-archive-deactivate]

It’s okay if the most significant thing you did this year was get through it