How would the boys help a s/o who’s experienced trauma in the past, and has a fear of being touched, but feels bad and wants to get better? They want to do things like hold hands and hug, but just can’t, so they feel bad because physical affection is something they want to experience.
//also i have no idea if this okay or not :( i’m sorry//
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- He would let you come to him. He’s hardly ever proactive in getting love from his lover. He’s patient and will wait for you to open up when you’re comfortable.
- Shu will try and urge you to get out of your comfort zone. He’ll take it slow and try to hold your hand, maybe sit close to you while just barley touching, and he’ll be around you to let you get used to him.
- He doesn’t really care that there’s a lack of contact. He just wants to be in your presence a lot of the time.
- When it comes to blood sucking he’ll try to keep contact to a minimal, but he will still drink from you when he needs.
- Reiji will try and understand why you’re not comfortable with contact. He might get really nosy with it since he cares for you he wants to know all about you. It’ll help him avoid making you uncomfortable. He doesn’t want to scare you away from him.
- He’ll make sure you know to not feel bad about not wanting to be touched. He will get annoyed at times, but he’ll accept it overall.
- He expects you to be able to communicate what is a ‘safe touch’ and what isn’t. He’s fine with you being nervous, but he isn’t fine with you not communicating your struggles. Be honest with him.
- He’s good at reading your body language so he’ll know when he’s taking things too far. Reiji will try and make contact with you every now and again. He’ll try to hold your hand, maybe brush against your fingers if he’s handing you something, and will limit other contact.
- Ayato isn’t too good at respecting your boundaries. He doesn’t quite understand why you wouldn’t want to be touched and held.
- He’ll slowly begin to accept your fears and anxieties. He wants to relieve you of some fears so you two can have a closer relationship.
- He’ll be clumsy, but he’ll try and go easy on the touching. He’ll do stuff like holding your hand, wrapping you loosely in a blanket, and trying to find activities to do with you that don’t involve touching.
- He’ll push you a lot to get over your fear of touch. He’ll show you that being touched can make you feel good. It doesn’t have to be in a risqué way, either. He wants touch in casual ways as well.
- Kanato will understand your fear of being touched. Though he has few boundaries. He’ll try and get you to work through it. He will be quite assertive and do as he pleases.
- He’ll try to tone down his touching, but he’ll end up getting upset with you. Kanato will listen to you more than anything. He’ll start to change his behavior slowly, but surely. It’ll involve a lot of tantrums before he understands.
- When he finally understands he just needs to take things slow to help you get used to it, he’ll be content. He wants to know he’s able to at least touch you somehow.
- He’ll start off with small touches. Hand holding, playing with your hair, adjusting your outfits for you.
- It will take Laito quite a bit of scolding for him to respect your fears. He’s very much a touch driven person, so using words to communicate feelings is hard for him.
- After a few arguments about him not respecting you, he’ll try and build trust with you. He’ll work on using sweet words in place of touches. He wants you to ease into things once he realizes how serious your fears are.
- He’ll start with small touches when you begin to trust him. He’ll kiss your hand, cheek, or forehead. Laito will start out with side hugs after soft kisses for a while. He won’t expect you to touch him much, but he wouldn’t mind if you wanted to.
- Laito will make sure you feel confident in yourself. He’ll want you to know that he really cares for you, both physically and verbally. He’ll try to work through some of the insecurities you have surrounding being touched. He wonders if you may be insecure about yourself.
- He’d be insecure about your fears. He might get angry at times. He’s really insecure, and the way you seem to not want him to touch you hurts him. He’ll try his best to understand it’s because of trauma, but he’ll end up blaming himself for your fears. He knows he hasn’t always been the kindest.
- He’ll ask you before he does things and will ask if you feel ok. Subaru will try and make sure you feel comfortable with him. He wants you to be secure with him.
- Subaru will make sure you know he doesn’t have many expectations. He’ll hug you to hug you, not to expect anything from you later. He doesn’t want to over do any sort of physical touch.