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The two sides of fangirling

Me: WHY CAN'T I JUST MARRY THEM

Me: WHY CAN'T THEY JUST MARRY EACH OTHER

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ART HISTORY MEME: 1/8 artists → ivan aivazovsky

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Natural History Museum, London

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Mr. Weasley: We've got to find a way to cut down on expenses. What can we live without?

Fred: Uh, probably Ron and Percy.

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What was James’ and Lily’s favourite clothing shop?

Forever 21

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Can we please start seeing Lily’s decision to end her friendship with Snape and her decision to date James Potter as two separate decisions. I feel like this fandom likes to act as though she was choosing between two men and had absolutely no other choice in life, and the moment she rejected Snape, she automatically chose James, and if she hadn’t dated/married James, she would have still been friends, but that’s not how it went down.

Lily stopped being friends with Snape for a one set of reason: his involvement in Death Eater activities were making he uncomfortable. That would have been true if she were dating James, if she was gay, if she was ace or aro, if she was madly in love with Snape, any way you spin in, his involvement with Death Eaters made her uncomfortable. That’s why she stopped being friends with him. Not because she chose James.

If you don’t like her relationship with James, that’s fine, don’t like it. But it doesn’t make her relationship with Snape any better. If you think James Potter was a bully and she shouldn’t have dated him, then James Potter was a bully and she shouldn’t have dated him, but that doesn’t lead to the conclusion that she should have dated Snape instead, because that’s not how logic works. She was a whole person, and her life revolved around more than two men. She had the choice of dating neither, and that’s what she did choose for at least a year.

Lily isn’t some prize handed out to settle the great battle of Snape vs. Potter. Her role in life is not limited to rewarding their good behavior by choosing a romantic partner. She’s a human being who made TWO separate choices. Disagree with her decisions all you want, but please understand that they were two separate decisions with different motives.