i'm going on an adventure

Sarah Andrew is not qualified to captain a rocketship, and yet here we are.

[oldbutchdanielmolloy]

it is just obvious to me that if you opened your eyes for even one second you would realize that Big Sweat invented the idea of going outside in the summer to make you produce more sweat

[nondelphic]

editing is just you vs. past-you in a duel of questionable comma placement and emotional instability

[ullathynell]

Woodlands by Ulla Thynell

[worldsandemanations]

Hedy Yang, On the Horizon

[lakevida]

free the nipple has to make a resurgence for a number of reasons but bro look at our upcoming eternity of wet bulb temps youre smoking straight up cock if you think im keeping a shirt on when it hits 105° in new england

[lakevida]

everyone tits out with a parasol is such a beautiful world to imagine that the fact it doesnt currently exist fills me with equal parts fire and misery

[dragon-in-a-fez]

you can believe victims about what they experienced and also not want to torch the lives of the people they've accused without proof. that is a space you can walk in and usually it's not even that hard. I say this as a survivor of domestic violence. "believe victims" doesn't mean get torches and pitchforks any more than "innocent until proven guilty" means victims are lying. please please learn this "believe victims" isn't about the perpetrators it's about the victims

[fursasaida]

adult life is truly just thinking “I NEED TO CLEAN” while dealing with the 17 other things that have a hard deadline

[draconym]

I've been in an evil mood for hours and I just discovered there was a piece of glitter stuck in my contact lens so I'm going to assume it was that the whole time and now the curse has been lifted.

[draconym]

yeah it was the eye glitter. I'm fine now.

[gardensandghosts]

What in the fuck did you possibly do to get hit with the modern day “shard of magical ice in eye that freezes your soul and makes you unable to recognize joy” curse? Like come back here that is literally how the fairytale goes, WHAT happened to you

[draconym]

Cast in a rock opera about vampires that is set in the 80s. There's a lot of glitter.

[nightvaleofficial]

[pazzy23]

woman walks into a field & ruins my life

[gleecontext]

GLEE S05E18 The Back-Up Plan

[sarahexplosions]

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therapy was really helpful today. got to discuss something coming up i am worrying about a lot, process it a little, make some plans in case things go bad. we also discussed possibilities of stuff to maybe do in the future, nothing i have to act on now, just things to have in mind.

considering how things went in regards to this issue at the beginning of the year, it is a good thing i discussed it with my therapist. i feel calmer and more prepared. yay mental health care.

[lookninjas]

552.

you really can tell what kind of a winter it's been by the way we all drop everything go racing outside to take advantage of the smallest hope of sunlight

[recurring-polynya]

never lose hope. somewhere, a middle-aged, gender ambiguous person with an advanced degree in an esoteric field and a fiber arts hobby could be crashing out and pinning all their remaining mental health on getting obsessed with your otp. any day now, the most elegantly written 100k fanfic you have ever read is going to hit ao3. it could happen. it has happened.

[exhuastedpigeon]

The first rule of fandom is have fun. The second rule of fandom is find an enabler and become an enabler. Yes you should write that fic. What if it was even hornier? What if it was angstier? What if you wrote it just for me?

[odddogs]

nya nyanny mewmew it's hard to imagine that this cat was feral at some point she doesn't look like she could handle the streets

[creatingblackcharacters]

Y'all wanna know a trick? A trick as to how you can better understand the mentality of someone who is antiblack (particularly white, but tbh it works on anyone who really buys into antiblackness), if not make them do an Ace Attorney Blow Up? 👀

[creatingblackcharacters]

(Tl:Dr- have a spine and hold the line 👍🏾)

I was being facetious with the trick part lol but you know the joke "I might be racist, but you're mean and that's worse?" It's the root of that. We discussed it back when we read White Fragility. You can see it in Trump, Elon Musk, and your average Tumblr racist:

They really, REALLY want to be liked. Not just liked, no that's not the right word, but validated.

Think about it this way. Racism is the status quo; the default, right? Part of maintaining that default is through normalization, and that includes the solidarity necessary to reinforce that (DiAngelo called it white solidarity).

So, if being covertly racist is the status quo, then that means you will be socially rewarded for being so. When you get rewarded, people are nice, friendly, relatable, they keke and haha right alongside you. But when you confront someone's racism, you're not socially rewarding them anymore- the spigot of validation has been paused! Instead of taking it as a valid critique, you are seen as socially punishing a person. You're being MEAN, because the validation I got from everyone else's also-racism was NICE!

That's why when you confront racism, you HAVE to stand firm on it. You cannot feed into the desire for the validation of their behavior. That's what makes a lot of people snap. The blowup is meant to stop you, to force you back into compliance! The only one being punished really is you for bringing it up.

And hell, if not socially validating a bigot is punishment... 😐 Why would that be... A bad thing? We're not hitting you with rocks, we're just saying we don't fuck with you and your behavior. (But that's also a part of really all of the books we've read in #cbc book club so far; that antiracism is seen as violence.)

Personally, I wanna live in the world where it's normal to boo racists, not coddle them. But that starts with being willing to push back against the normal we're in.