Parents should be careful with what they tell their kids.
As a kid, I grew up with the notion that Mathematics is difficult, which particularly came from my mom. She often tells me it's a difficult complicated subject and she gets particularly cranky and controlling over me when she helps me out with my Math homework. She herself isn't good in Math. When fraction subject came, she stopped helping me.
The words "difficult" and "Math" had formed intimidation in my subconscious. When I see numbers, I easily get overwhelmed. My relationship with Math has always been chaotic and full of effort. And I realized... it's not that Math is too difficult - well I did survive my Math subjects. It wasn't always with flying colors, but I passed it. It's the fact that in my head, it was tied up with the word difficult that I resisted to learn. Yeah, I have tendencies to resist learning specially when things get pretty complicated.
And so I tell you this. "Difficult" is not a motivating term. It is not a positive word. I do not blame my mom because I have total control of what I do, what I think, and how I would perform. I'm just saying that these harmless words may sometimes cause adverse impact on certain individuals, and worse, it retains.
So when the subject pops up, I get to wonder, what if mom told me Math is interesting and mentally stimulating, would I become better? I'd probably end up still not good in Math if that's my destiny, but my experience would probably have been better :P.
I'm still a slave of that notion by the way... and I'm close to 30. Embarrassing.
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