[originally posted in 2020 on my personal site]
Thereās a lot that is free right now. Free internet; free content for you, your kids, your dog; free delivery; free testing; free stress; free time; pretty soon even free money. Never in world history (huge unsubstantiated statement there) has so much been free as we all, as a human race, come to grips with this thing that is affecting us, regardless of how developed or not our nation is.
Whatās free always comes at a price, ironically enough though. That price is the constant awareness of whatās wrong and the attempt at making the free thing try to somehow dampen that painful awareness.
We were pretty connected before COVID-19 made its rounds but now, the ties that bind us are not just the digital strands of social networks and an unstoppable news cycle. Theyāre also molecular, theyāre this strange alien-looking little crowned blob that can cause a respiratory system to crash in just about every country of the Earth.
A lot of people are saying a lot of things about this time we're all living through. Good things like give yourself permission to feel it all, to ride the ups and downs that it takes to be human during a prolonged crisis, to love your neighbor as youāve never loved them before, whether theyāre in your neighborhood or in a neighborhood 1,500 miles away. And thereās a lot that shouldnāt be said right now, being said. I wonāt recap that stuff. You donāt need any more reminders of it.
TRYING TO BE A GOOD CITIZEN
I was already grappling with how to be a responsible citizen of the connected community Iām a part of before the pandemic took hold. I worked full-time in the social media marketing arena and took my role seriously as I was responsible for adding to the volume of information vying for your (and anyone else in the world who might come in contact with it's) attention.
Were we asking for too much attention? Was it worth your time? Would it be uplifting and inspiring? Or were we just adding to the noise? Lathering on one more layer of digital white noise on top of the cacophonic symphony of all the other dissonant sources.
There were thoughts about taking back our time, redeeming our digital investments, reclaiming lost attention spans. Screen time became a built-in part of the device that gives you the screen, to begin with.
Then along comes this big worldwide thing that managed to somehow justify a constant connectedness for many of us. But for some of us, or at least just me, itās already too much.
I donāt want to emulate the ostrich with its head in the ground acting as if I can just put on a white-noise app and ignore the pandemic that rages just outside my door. But I canāt handle any more offers for free virtual site-seeing trips, classic MLB games, Formula 1 racers piloting video game cars around virtual race tracks. I donāt want to know about everything I could be doing with my time that I never needed or wanted to do before.
We shouldnāt neglect the value of being quiet. And never was there a better time to practice that art. People are dying, more so than usual. That kind of loss canāt simply be absorbed by drowning out the danger and pain with more content. Quiet allows us to corporately grieve this loss. This pandemic is killing us and if weāre not careful, the toll wonāt just be the loss of life, the loss of economic gains and plain stability. The loss will infect those who remain. We must practice quiet and stillness if we can. Maybe even practice a bit of digital distancing.
So, if youāre like me, let me encourage you to intentionally do and see less of the āfreeā that is available to us. Letās wisely slide off some of the notifications, letās sit still when we first get up and just let our minds feel and think. Letās grieve the losses of yesterday, of a month ago and maybe even of tomorrow. Letās pray for each other and our fellow race of humans as we will soon face the task of walking back out of our doors and into social nearness. Letās feel this.
You may not be like me. If so, thatās ok. Youāre not wrong. But I sense a need for more quiet amid this pandemic.
PS. I do want to recognize the role that digital and internet-based business will play in the economic recovery from this pandemic. I donāt mean to belittle the fact that itās a part of keeping many jobs going, Etc..