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if i made a discord, would you all join? i’m considering it

[ladylike-dominance]

mutuals - comment or dm me your twitters and i’ll follow you!

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hey folks - in light of the tumblr purge you can find me on twitter @ladylikedomme. i haven’t posted anything yet since i’m still setting up shop, but i hopefully will begin posting archived versions of posts from my past blogs!

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Can you guys please send me as an ask what websites you normally use so I can consider where to make an account?

I won’t be replying to them as I want to keep them in my inbox, but I assure you ill be reading them all.

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Do you remember a gfd blog named sub-boy-sunshine?

i do, i’m not sure what happened to them though...

[rrkitty]

💕

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Im quite new into a D/s relationship and both of us are switches. My question is, do you have some suggestions for other terms of endearments? Or anything other than "Good boy" it feels over used and I'm drawing a blank on what else would be a good fit. Thank you and may you have a wonderful evening/day.

Absolutely! “Good boy” is a classic, but it can get old. Any pet name can be effective if used in the right situation- a well-timed and appropriately condescending “baby”, “honey”, or “sweetheart” can make a sub melt.  “Baby boy” works similarly. Anything that compliments your sub while still being a bit degrading is very effective - call him your “perfect slut” or your “pretty fucktoy” or whatever strikes your fancy. Don’t be afraid to get creative!

[dommesuggestions]

hi! I so I've recently discovered that I might be a switch. I love the idea of being in both positions, however, I'm not really a natural dominant person lmao. do u have any tips? to start changing that? I mean, in my body language, and building the confidence, etc?

In terms of body language, the #1 thing you can do to look and feel more dominant is to stand up straight and let yourself take up space. Lots of people tend to try and make themselves smaller in public spaces, mostly by hunching over, folding their arms, and closing themselves off. Do the opposite - stand tall and proud, and carry yourself with confidence. And if that confidence isn’t there yet, fake it til you make it. Acting like you’re confident often produces the feeling of confidence.

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How so I find out if my dom(me) is abusive? I lately feel kinda weird about out Dynamics but they tell me everything is fine. I'm afraid to make a mistake and ruin my relationship just because I'm (a) bad (sub).

If you've expressed to them that you're feeling uncomfortable, but they're telling you things are fine (suggesting that you're overreacting) and are unwilling to change their behavior, get out of there as fast as you can. Your instincts are completely correct - they're exhibiting emotionally abusive behavior toward you. Please don't feel like you're a bad sub for putting yourself and your safety first. They're the one that's bad at being a dominant. Please, please, please keep yourself safe.

[ladylike-dominance]

i want a pretty naked boy to straddle one of my legs so i can spank him while he grinds on my thigh and makes little whimpering moans against my neck

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It’s okay, baby, I wanna hear all those pretty noises you make. Don’t be shy.

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I've found a woman who indulges my deep-seated need to be dominated (which she enjoys more than she foresaw). It's great, but I fear I'm reducing her to a kink dispenser or that I'm stunting the relationship w my focus on these fantasies. I want sex w her to be real/intimate/loving, not just play. Given my love for this special lady I'd welcome any insight as to how I might integrate my submissive side into an adult relationship in a way that strengthens it rather than merely gratifies me.

This is a great question - it really seems like you care about what she wants and needs out of the relationship, which means you're definitely heading in the right direction. I know I run the risk of sounding like a broken record, but communication is really the most important thing in kink relationships, especially if you're not sure if your partner is completely satisfied with the relationship. Talk to her about what she's getting out of this, and how you can better fulfill her needs as a partner (both in the bedroom and outside of it). Communication is really what drives relationships, and can bring you closer together than anything else.

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it’s tiring, isn’t it? being in control, making choices, thinking for yourself. it’s so, so tiring. let me do it instead. you’ll like it.

[dommesuggestions]

hey i'm a switch and so is my gf. because of the gender difference I usually take the sub position so we aren't falling into traditional gender roles. also trying to dom makes me worry that she will feel like i'm taking her agency while i'm really just trying to make everyone feel good. we've tried before but it's hard for me cause I freeze up thing abt it. do u have any advice for how to work around an appearance of traditional gender roles? sorry I know u usually give advice for girl doms..

No worries! Respectful dominance has no gender. And that's exactly the point I'll make to you - be respectful. Know both of your limits, talk about things beforehand, and make sure she's completely comfortable with what you're planning. Kink also doesn't have to involve degradation or humiliation, on the basis of gender or otherwise. You don't have to call your girlfriend a slut or anything - that is absolutely not par for the course. Besides, you can still play with gender roles, even if you're the one dominating your girlfriend! Steal some of her lingerie and heels (or buy some of your own) and boss her around while wearing just that. Seduce her over the course of an evening, instead of the other way around. If you're into pegging/ass play, get your inner power bottom on and dominate her while she's fucking you with a strap on. Gender norms are stupid - and sex is a whole lot more fun when you're blatantly defying them, regardless of who's the dom and who's the sub.

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I’m a masochistic sub, and my girlfriend is very aware of this. Although she’s okay with “topping me”, it’s not the same as being my domme. I’m desperate for pain and degradation, but the most she’ll do is choke me a little. I don’t know what to do, because I really love her, but I need more than she is willing to give me.

I know this probably isn't what you want to hear, but relationships (especially sexual relationships) are a two-way street. Sometimes, your partner's kinks and interests aren't going to line up 100% perfectly with yours. It's great that you guys have some kinks in common, but you can't expect someone to do something you know they aren't comfortable with. If you care about the relationship and your girlfriend, you have to respect her limits. That's just how kink works.

[ladylike-dominance]

maybe i’m just in my romantic feelings tonight but compassionate, gentle, joyful masculinity is one of the sexiest things ever

[ladylike-dominance]

like…men laughing, smiling, being enthusiastic about things they love, crying, singing, just…being authentic and genuine. that’s the shit i’m here for

[dommesuggestions]

i don't know who told you that you're weak somehow. that's nowhere near the truth.

yes, i'm the queen. but you're no peasant - you're my knight in shining armor, sworn to serve me.

yes, i hold your leash. but you're no kitten - you're a tiger at my side, teeth bared.

yes, i am a god. but you're no mere man - you worship me with a passion and strength enough to move mountains.

don't ever think you're weak. you submit to no one but me.