First of all, he could not dedicate her life to her any more than he is, this is gloriously insane. But also this is 100% what concubines say in period dramas/novels, the whole "I don't need status, I am ready to be your woman no matter what blah blah" seriously, to say he's girl coded is not even sufficient any more.
Seek therapy! Both of you! I ship this like hell but healthy this is not. (Also, the way she keeps seeking and seeking reassurance - anyone less codependent than Jing would probably get very tired of it but he delights in providing it. Honestly, their issues are made for each other, and I am not being snarky.)


















