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How to unclog a toilet without a plunger
How to fix a blown fuse
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How does one write falling out of love convincingly?
Anonymous asked: hi i love your blog and i was wondering if you had any tips on writing about a character falling out of love with someone who has changed? my character doesn’t really understand that his love is not really love anymore but more of a ‘i loved the person you were in the past’ love. i have trouble conveying this, thank you!
Hello there, and thanks so much for your questions!! Since they’re so similar, I’ll be answering both in this post!
I love the concept of falling out of love, it can make for so much interesting intrigue among characters, and is something that I think is handled a lot less often.
Falling Out of Love
First: Why are they falling out of love?
One partner can fall out of love with another for a myriad of reasons. Do they refuse to get a job? Do they continue to make really bad jokes, and your character can no longer stand to hear them? Any number of their partner’s actions can become a source of negative feelings, ranging from irritation to sheer rage. In this process of falling out of love, these negative aspects of their partner may seem amplified, and your character may find themselves unable to identify any of their redeeming qualities. Or, if they can, they may no longer feel those positive emotions once associated with them, despite potential attempts to.
This may occur due to unreciprocated feelings. In this case, there would be no partner in question, but your character would eventually cease having romantic feelings for their object of affection, purely because those feelings aren’t returned.
Addressing the second ask specifically, in the case that this occurs due to a change in their partner: your character will probably begin to notice these changes gradually. Do they pick up a nasty habit that they didn’t previously have? Has their belief system changed? Do the two of them now have differing goals and desires? Is this a negative, malicious change, or is it a change that is decidedly neutral, but still has an effect on the relationship? It’s possible that their partner will stop sharing the same jokes with your character as they used to, and the way they communicate will start to change.
In the case of your character not quite realizing that they’re falling/have fallen out of love, your character would probably attempt to interact with their partner as they always have, and is repeatedly surprised, or potentially shut down as their partner responds very differently than they always have. There may also be denial – your character may realize that their partner is acting differently, but may try to rationalize it to themselves, claiming that they’re just having a difficult time and they will eventually return to their formal selves, thus clinging to a relationship (or a version of their relationship) that no longer exists.
How do they act, now, around their partner? They may show less physical affection, if they did show it before. Or, if they’re in denial about their loss of love, they may overcompensate by trying to be more affectionate, and having it backfire.
Next: Why did they fall in love in the first place?
What drew your character to their current partner? To write their falling out of love, it is important to understand the beginnings of that love. What are the traits that they found attractive in each other that have now changed, or now seem less attractive in a different light? To reflect a previous point, any number of previously attractive attributes in the partner can turn sour.
To fully express the process of falling out of love, it is important for the reader to have at least a minimal understanding of how the relationship functioned at its highest. What once made your character happy in this relationship? And now, why is it no longer making them happy? What do we do now that is different from how we used to do it? What has changed? The contrast will make the emotional process more clear, and give it more weight.
Example: You’ve Got Mail
In You’ve Got Mail, in the midst of Meg Ryan and Tom Hank’s online love story, both characters are in romantic relationships during their romantic arc with each other. By the third act, both characters have ended said romantic relationships, leaving room for getting into a relationship with each other, but the real focus here is the two relationships that ended. It can be argued that neither character was really in love with their previous partners, but for the sake of this post, it provides a good example for the progression of how a relationship may end.
First, Kathleen Kelly (Meg Ryan), and her boyfriend Greg. As stated in the film, ‘they’re perfect for each other.’ She owns a bookstore, he’s a writer, they look good together. They should fit. But over the course of the film, it becomes increasingly clear that they don’t share as many of the same views, and their feelings for each other may not be what they’re looking for. In one scene, Kathleen and Greg watch a recording of Greg’s interview on a talk show, to find him clearly flirting with the talk show host. It’s a humorous scene, one that isn’t played for a dramatic fallout of emotion and heartbreak – it’s moreso the early stages of both characters realizing that they may not want each other.
Spoilers: All of this culminates in a movie theatre, with Kathleen admitting to Greg that she forgot to vote. To the audience, this is so important because we know that, to Greg, this is a travesty – Greg is a politically minded character, very focused on the happenings in the world, and his response to Kathleens’s admittance that she didn’t vote is “I forgive you.” This is the break in their relationship, the realization that they don’t have the same priorities, that they have become different people right before the other’s eyes, and only now are they realizing.
On the other end, at the risk of this example becoming extraordinarily long: Joe Fox, and his girlfriend Patricia. They both work in the book business, and tend to lean towards the ruthless side of that business: more concerned with the bottom line than anything else. Patricia, in particular, is shown to be single-minded in this way. I would argue that even from the beginning of the film, Joe didn’t seem particularly happy with her, but over the course of the film, Joe finds himself changing his worldview, thanks to Kathleen Kelly, and Patricia’s seeming heartlessness in comparison is suddenly too much for him, and their relationship ends.
Final Notes
Falling out of love can be a powerful emotional arc for your character, reflecting their own value systems and insecurities. In a relationship, there is always grounds for conflict, no matter how minimal – when falling out of love, that conflict can increase tenfold.
Thank you so much for your question, and I hope this helped!! If there’s anything else, feel free to shoot us another ask.
Happy writing!
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Robert: Rose, it has come to my attention that you are teaching the servants jazz.
Rose: Is this a problem?
Carson: Is this a problem? Yes, I think so. Our only job is to serve. We cannot serve, and the servants cannot learn, if there is no discipline.
Rose: Uh… I’m sorry, uh, what exactly is your point, Carson?
Carson: My point is jazz, by its very nature, leads to a breakdown in discipline.
Rose: Well, what would you like me to do? Deny that jazz exists?
Robert: What I am… What we are saying is that you should be pushing the classics. Brahms, Mozart, Stravinsky.
Rose: Stravinsky was the music of the Russian Revolution, if you want to talk about a breakdown in discipline.
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I don't know, Season 2 of The West Wing was pretty damn good...
Did anyone else clap when Carson and Mrs. Hughes were declared man and wife? No? Just me? Okay.
Writing teachers: Write what you know
Girls: write what they know
The entire world forever: Ugh stop with your self-insert Mary Sue fics/cozy domestic chick lit/depiction of romantic relationships/female friendships/no one wants this/this isn’t *real* literature
Perhaps this speaks more to the disconnectedness of writing teachers or that they don’t emphasize resilience in the face of criticism. After all, the expression is, “There are no bad students, only bad teachers”, right?
My psychology professor: People usually remember something that happened in general but not verbatim. You probably remember the plot to the first Harry Potter book but who here would remember the first line?
Me: Mr. and Mrs. Dursley of number four, Privet Drive, were proud to say that they were perfectly normal, thank you very much.
My psychology professor: Okay. You aren't allowed to talk in class anymore.
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1) oops, my 200 word drabble turned into a 8 chapter disaster
2) oops, my planned 8 chapters is stuck at 200 words
