SOME PEOPLE PUT AN EVIL EYE ON ME

Doc 💒 He/They/Whatever has the best comedic timing 💒 30 💒 Mixed American Arab Jew (Indigenous Iraqi) Lesbian Artist and person with DID. Minors don't interact. No DNI otherwise I'll just block you if I'm not vibing with you (not a declaration of hate) Most frequent alter is Danny. Doc is a catch-all alias.

[drloverboy]

Still alive, just not active here and mostly offline. Keeping note of DMs for commissions and that's about it

[drloverboy]

[transpigeon]

[icantspellthings]

Nothing more embarrassing than accidentally using a big word wrong because now I'm simultaneously both stupid and pretentious, the worst combination of all time

[drloverboy]

Been playing this game again

[hitmyvape-deactivated20251006]

my older sister has been taking care of a baby starling recently and she keeps sending me the ugliest fucking pictures i’ve ever seen

[eksentrismi]

A question to all you people, who use a cane:

This is a bit embarrassing to ask, but I genuinely don't know whom else to ask and Google's not being helpful in this case...

Is it okay for somebody without a "proper official diagnosis" to get and use a cane in semi-daily use? Like is it offensive for somebody without a doctor's consultation or diagnosis to get a cane for walking?

Like I'll just give out an example for why I'm asking this; I'm struggling with some really bad knee pains, like bad to a point where I barely can get up if kneeling down or sitting etc without pain. Walking for long distances gets painful to me easily and my knees are pretty much just..... ruined, lol. I haven't been able to go to the doctor about it, in fear of being dismissed like I've always been before (and unfortunately many doctors here have been plain ableist or just dismissive towards me before). And especially since I am a fat guy. I'd just rather stay away from fatphobic comments etc, because I already hear them IRL enough.

Been thinking about getting a cane, but idk, I'm just scared of offending people I suppose and afraid of people yelling at me for getting a cane/any other accommodation unless I have an actual diagnosis written on paper and on my files. IDK man, I'm a nervous scared little baby, waaaaaaa, I just don't want any harm to anybody </3

[wolpatinga]

i dont think it'd offend anyone

if you've reached the point where you think a cane would help you be mobile, get one. humanity invented canes before it invented diagnoses

if anyone *does* stop you and ask you why you have a cane, or what your diagnoses are, your only response should be "i don't owe you my medical history". if they persist, use the cane

[drloverboy]

If this is an unwanted/annoying reply I'll delete, but this was on my dash so I wanted to put in my two cents as a cane user for about a decade.

When I first got mine, I didn't even HAVE a formal diagnosis yet. I did get diagnosed for hEDS and fibromyalgia later on, but at the time I got the cane because I was in pain and needed help, and having a mobility device helped.

The worst pushback I got was from able bodied people with mental illnesses that called their mental illnesses an "invisible disability." That was exclusively the kinds of people that decided that me using a cane was me giving up on getting better, and over time they'd reveal that they resented me for being sicker than them because they could no longer leverage disability for discourse. Of course, these are not the kinds of people you'd want in your support system as a disabled person. Having a cane doesn't necessarily mean that you'll experience this, but it was an emotional impact on me enough that I felt the same guilt about using mobility aids. But to reiterate: these are not the kinds of friends you want

Everyone else in my life began to take my disability seriously once they saw I had a cane. It helps me keep okay pain days from becoming bad ones, and keeps bad ones from becoming 2 weeks of bed rest. It helps me walk much longer distances.

Speaking also from the perspective of someone who is/was fat at the time of getting my cane, medical fatphobia is so fucking real. But here's the thing, if someone's gonna be fatphobic towards you about using a cane, they're gonna be fatphobic towards you in some other aspect and whether or not you put yourself in pain for them doesn't make a difference. Not only that, but if you have a goal to gain muscle around your knees it helps so much to have a third leg to walk on

So the tl;dr, if you're at a point of pain where you're wondering if you'd be offending someone by getting a cane, you should be getting a cane

[fairycosmos]

[bumblebeebats]

This was genuinely what it was like growing up in New Agey circles btw, my mum's friends would come round like "So I went out to the woods this weekend and fasted and meditated and I had a vision of the Sacred Stag and all my guardian angels and I asked them how to find love and they said that I need to focus on my own healing first and stop repeating cycles of the past" and then the very next week it'd be like "So I'm back with James again" girl..... the Sacred Stag could not have been more clear....

[technofinch]

Starting a new sports team called the Tampa Bay Trespassers and they play any sport that they can break onto the field of

[5ubtotem]

[rasairui]

Idk I just have no patience for trans men/masculine people who refuse to acknowledge transmisogyny. Like. The worst experience I ever had with transphobia was when I was mistaken for a trans women. In a culinary program, I was cutting bell peppers, and one of the other students, a really big dude in a student leadership position, walks in and accusatory goes "so are you trying to be a woman, or something?" And I'm like. Well I'm trying to small dice these peppers. And I tell him I'm not a she and he says something to the effect of "Yeah I know that much." He makes some comment abt how whatever I'm doing doesn't make sense and he doesn't get it and when I tell him he doesn't have to, that he just has to respect it, he says "I don't have to do shit!" And gets real mad! Like actual threats mad! Tells me he could bash my skull in and to meet him outside for a fight and yeah it was fucking scary! The entire interaction I'm reminding myself that I'm the one currently holding a knife, if he tries anything.

Fast forward a few days later and my period is kicking my ass. Just absolutely destroying me. I'm in the dish pit, and I am visibly struggling, I'm nauseous, I'm in pain and bracing myself against walls. I'm not walking straight. And the same student leadership guy who was so aggressive with me when he thought I was transfem?

He tells me I look like I'm going to pass out. He says it's obvious I'm in pain, I shouldn't be in class, I can go sit down and if nobody can replace me he'll do the dishes himself.

Like. Do you get it yet. It's not just that he felt comfortable openly threatening me in a room full of other people when he thought I was a trans woman. It's that he did a complete 180 and was not only willing to support me, but actually pick up my slack once he knew I wasn't "that kind" of transgender. As soon as one of our classmates confirmed to him that I wasn't the wrong type of trans person I suddenly became someone who actually deserved care and compassion in his eyes. The "bigots think we're all the same and hate all of is equally" rhetoric isn't fucking true. It's just peddled to deny the privilege we have over other members of our community so it's easier to ignore how inhospitable supposedly trans-centric spaces are for TMA people.

[brady-like-the-bunch]

It’s so telling that this reaction to experiencing an instance of transmisogyny is rare and notable. like it’s so common for TME people on this website to say “um well sometimes I experience The Trans Woman Oppression too because I get mistaken for one of you, so you’re not special and TMA is inaccurate and transmisogyny isn’t real and actually you’re oppressing ME” instead of OP’s very empathetic reaction of “damn that was an awful experience, it must be terrible to move through the world knowing you’re the target of it all the time in every situation and there’s nothing you can do to take the target off your back like I was able to.”

After years of TMA/TME discourse and ppl trying to deny our specific oppression, it’s so refreshing to hear someone use their experience with it to empathize with us instead of using it as a rhetorical cudgel to win an argument against us.

[lastoneout]

Sorry we really went from free the nipple, take back the night, slut walks, and ending gender/sex segregation in sports being fucking milquetoast feminism 101 concepts to fucking girl dinner and "I just worry about fairness if we let trans girls play against cis ones" and "it was right of that woman to call the cops on a black man for existing near here in public during the day time because men are all violent monsters" and "radical feminism isn't transphobic we just need to kill all men including trans ones those oppressive traitors" and I will legit never be able to be normal about it. What the FUCK happened. I'd say I wonder what the feminists of my youth would say about this but I'm one and lemme tell ya I want to throw up. Go fucking read bell hooks or do something else useful please because all of this learned helplessness, gender essentialism, and transphobia dressed up as feminism is actively holding us back.

[stonefemmesiren]

and I say again any women's shelter that turns away trans women and mothers of boys is fraudulent and deserves to be cleared out for an agency actually willing to do the work

[stonefemmesiren]

terfs cannot be trusted with the nonprofit apparatus. anything they build should become scorched earth.

[orcbara]

tired of the word boycott getting thrown around for things that very much are not going to be successful so here's some traits you should look for before choosing to participate in a boycott:

it should have a clearly stated demand, and that demand should be something that the boycotted party has control over and can actually change. "stop engaging in discriminatory hiring practices" is viable, "stop selling goods at a profit" is not

the boycott should only end when that goal is met. fixed end dates allow the boycotted party to just wait it out. one-day boycotts are especially comical

boycotts should expect an actual change in your behaviour. not doing something you can't afford the cost of or already weren't going to do isn't boycotting.

there should be some kind of clear organisational structure - somebody needs to relay demands to the boycotted party, be able to call off the boycott when their demands are met, and ensure everybody participating actually understands what the boycott is about

[firefox-official]

ur blog is hardcore flopping 😓

i dont give a shit surfing snoopy

[drloverboy]

Having some unlucky timing of bills/next payment coming in 😵‍💫 I need just one commission to make sure I'm good financially. Doing something like these for $45 USD per character. I accept video game characters such as sims and FFXIV ocs too. Vtubers are free to use my art for commercial use as long as I'm credited. Message me if you're interested

[drloverboy]

My commissions are still open, but I'm adding on for transparency that I was commissioned and am no longer on a crunch to avoid overdraft fees 🙏

[drloverboy]

Sorry about bumping this, but I'm in financial emergency territory again while caring for an injured baby bird that had its wing ripped off. My paypal is [email protected] and I also take donations on ko-fi under doctorangelbun

[drloverboy]

I'm about to get a $9 recurring transaction that my bank will charge me $30 for the overdraft for. I'm a disabled person surviving off of $1,041 USD per month and it's getting tight with tariffs and everything going on in the USA. If you're not interested in commissioning me for art, I have a free (or you can donate) short game that I made for o2a2 on itch. https://doveylings.itch.io/smoldering

Smoldering by Doveylings

Stay cool, convince a goth woman not to hate you.

[drloverboy]

Overdraft covered, still taking commissions

[shining-latios]

The Airport (as of 8/19/25!)

behold, my one autism to rule them all! ❤️💙 I started this collection, roughly, in august/september 2010 when I was still a freshman in college and had a meager $100 a month to my name.

I started this not really expecting it to end up as expansive as it has but here we are just about 15 years later and my collection has outgrown every shelf I've given them to now end up in their current accommodations of this lovely ikea display case and I can safely say my collection STILL probably isn't done growing as long as I have a pulse, a bank account, and they keep making merch of my favorite pokemon of 22 years and counting~