it's important to give your caregiver a gold star as well when they do something that you like and want to reward. i promise they will really really like it
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it's important to give your caregiver a gold star as well when they do something that you like and want to reward. i promise they will really really like it
Trying to learn that it's okay to ask for care, affection, and coziness that makes me feel little even when I'm doing okay. Don't like the way I've associated asking with the times I'm struggling. Really want to figure out how to associate feeling small and vulnerable and cute with something positive again. For myself and for my partners. It would be nice to feel like it's something other people want, or maybe even like. Not just a coping mechanism of mine that people are glad I have. Right now, I think having someone offer to read me a bedtime story out of the blue on a day when I'm otherwise doing well would destroy me.
This is how the journey went for me as well.
I found my Littlespace at a time in my life when everything felt like it was overwhelming and I had no way to cope with the weight of life pressing down on me. I had finally rediscovered my emotions after repressing them for so long (this was during my first year of transition).
In Littleness I found the relief and restoration I had been craving for years but could never seem to find. The first time I was held by someone in Littlespace, it felt like a vice around my lungs started loosening. It was so healing and I felt so much relief.
But after a while, that same heaviness started seeping into Littleness for the exact reason you said; I was only coming to it when I was in distress. It took on this emotional association of "If I was in Littlespace, then something must have been wrong".
So I made a point of letting myself be Little even when I didn't need it. I would get diapered before bed even if my day hadn't been exhausting. I would ask for cuddles just because I wanted cuddles, not because anything was wrong. I let myself dress just a bit more juvenile on a day to day basis in ways that no one else would notice, but I was aware of.
And it helped. It gave me back some of that feeling of Littlespace being a place for fun, not just a place to escape to when things were bad.
I hope the same thing happens for you. 💜
Trying to learn that it's okay to ask for care, affection, and coziness that makes me feel little even when I'm doing okay. Don't like the way I've associated asking with the times I'm struggling. Really want to figure out how to associate feeling small and vulnerable and cute with something positive again. For myself and for my partners. It would be nice to feel like it's something other people want, or maybe even like. Not just a coping mechanism of mine that people are glad I have. Right now, I think having someone offer to read me a bedtime story out of the blue on a day when I'm otherwise doing well would destroy me.
Typical QA gig. Some startup wanted help with regression testing. Easy. Pay was double your usual for two weeks on-site, immediate start. You signed without even reading.
Two weeks flew by. Your soggy diaper and vacant stare made the results obvious.
Their new VR headset? Passed!
You? Failed.
this is about me btw
The way “yes, big sister” hits so differently from “yes big sis”
Sure, I’ll let you out of that adorable cage of yours, lil sis! I’ll even let you play with the wand! ... I never said you could cum! You're much too little to ever get to do that, silly! It's not like you'll be able to feel a thing through your double diapers, anyway. Don’t pout! Your big sister just thinks you’re so much cuter when you're all squirmy and pent up for her. We both know you're better this way. 💖
You get back to her place, you're making out on her couch. She whispers "cute" in your ear as she unbuttons your pants and reveals your diaper. She untapes it. Pauses, confused. Underneath? Another diaper. She untapes that one, too. Under it? Another diaper. Under that diaper? Yep, another diaper.
I'm trying out a new strategy I'm calling assertive submission. Some doms are shy, even if they want to be really mean and in charge. You have to show them you want to be used. Let me take your coat for you. Let me take off your shoes. How about a nice footrub? What would you like to watch? Can I get you something to eat? Can I call you mistress? Sorry- can I call you Mistress?
I wouldn't use this strategy for just anyone, only people I have an established rapport with. But I think simply submitting yourself to someone in the hopes of them making you do what you want is poor form. Asking, demonstrating, and begging are all valid forms of communication.
btw. i keep getting told my begging is rlly hot, so. this is the basic formula i learned as a teenager:
1. request--the thing you're begging for. let me cum, don't spank me, get me pregnant, etc. be descriptive--usually, the more explicit, the better. make it sound appealing to your partner. refer to them by title (if applicable) in this step or the third step. not both.
2. promise--why they should do it. this can include descriptions of how whatever you're asking for will feel for them, how you'll react, or a promise for good behavior or quid pro quos. (in noncon scenes, this is also where you'd put a promise not to tell anyone/get the aggressor in trouble). this should be your longest section, and you CAN give more than one reason.
3. request--rephrase what you asked for in step 1. if step 1 was short, make this longer. if step 1 was long, make it shorter. this is the step where eye contact is most important.
in general, use a deferential, beseeching tone--you can choose how composed to keep it, but keep an undercurrent of "i'll die if you say no." (alternatively, you can lean into the humiliation of verbalizing your desires and speak soft and stuttery. but be warned, you'll run the risk of your dom making you repeat yourself louder.)
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THIS IS JUST BASIC ESSAY FORMAT FUCK
Getting ready for my next trip to China…
I know it’s not that kind of bar, but can I ask a kind of personal question? What kind of underwear are those, anyway? I saw the waistband and it just looked, well, kind of different.
Oh… it’s a pull-up? Really? At your age?
… Shouldn’t a girl like you be in something a little more absorbent?
Dark ageplay: She reaches over and activates the parental controls on the in-flight entertainment screen, then tells the flight attendant not to let you have any wine
Ah, yes, the three genders
Forget About It! - The Potty Diary Paradox 😵💫💦
I'll tell you a secret: there's a difference between being "incontinent" and being "diaper dependent."
Incontinence is a twist of fate, usually brought on by an unwelcome medical condition. There are countless guides published online that promise to take away your bladder control, but the reality is that continence is physiological, not mental. A healthy person can't train themselves to be incontinent any more than they can train themselves to stop seeing the color orange.
Diaper dependence, however, is a mental state. It's your brain's understanding of where it's okay to void. Humans didn't co-evolve with the flush toilet. Even in the 21st century, different cultures have different rules on when and where to make tinkles. For your Little, the goal is to make that: anytime and everywhere.
This can be trained.
So! You've watched your pamper packer romp around the house in just their t-shirt and diaper, crinkling to and fro, and the thought occurred: today is the day. They're just too adorable. I'll never let them wear anything else on their butt again. After the tears, the corrective spanking, and lots of cuddles, they'll come around to the idea. But in order for them to truly accept and embrace their diapers, you'll need to train them to be diaper dependent.
Enter: The Potty Diary 📒
Get your leaky little lamb a cute journal (you can also install a bladder tracking app on their phone). Require your Little to record every single time they make lemonade in their diaper, and approximately how much they think they went. They should try to pee at least once every 30 minutes; no less than once an hour. If they wake up to flood their padding in the middle of the night, that should be recorded, too.
"But Miss Natalie," you say. "I'm trying to make my Little forget about their pee-pees! Now they'll be thinking about their bladder more than ever!"
True! And your kiddo will be hyper-aware of how much they're soaking those pampers for a while. But ask any incontinent person who's had to keep a bladder diary for their doctor: it's a lot of work and it's very annoying.
That's why it's going to be such a relief when, after a couple of months, you tell your Little:
No More Potty Diary! 😃
What a relief! They can finally go tinkles without having to record it for you! They can saturate their bedtime diaper and just fall right back asleep! All of the RAM their tiny little brains were devoting to their bladder has been freed up for more important matters. And they'll find, to their amazement (and your amusement), that peeing without thinking has become a reward.
No, they won't lose their ability to hold it if they're concentrating. They won't stop feeling the urge to go. But you just tricked their brains into realizing that it's too much work to think about their bladder. They'll start having little accidents when they're distracted. They won't remember how many times they peed. And the idea of going a day without diapers will start making them very, very nervous.
It's not about losing control. It's about losing your mind 💛
Reposted from my deleted prettyprettypaci2 blog. This is my content.
Partner stealing your blankets at night?
Swaddle them!
They'll be stopped in their tracks when they're wrapped up so tight that they can't move their arms or legs. Plus, they can't fight back when you're feeling extra handsy!
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