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Yesterday my dad told me something that I think maybe more people need to hear.

You’re allowed to just do things for fun.

He told me that in this modern society, especially the United States, we seem to have this attitude that we shouldn’t do something unless we’re aiming to be the best at it. If we can’t sing like Beyonce or Frank Sinatra or something there’s no point to singing. If we can’t make the next big breakthrough there’s no point in looking into mechanics and engineering.

But, he tells me, it took him a long time to figure out that life doesn’t have to be a race. If you want to take up the piano when you’re a teenager or later you’re not going to master it. You’re not going to be able to play to huge concert halls, but that also shouldn’t stop you. You can study a language out of curiosity and then drop the ball if you want. You can just get okay at something or even be terrible at it. You can drop it for days or years and then pick it up again and it doesn’t have to be a shameful thing.

I’m really glad he told me that because today I opened my sketchpad for the first time in months and just started drawing. And it looks terrible. But I don’t care. I don’t have the talent or patience or spacial awareness to get anywhere near good at drawing, but it’s fun. It helps me focus my mind and nobody has to see it.

And because of what he told me, I’m thinking maybe someday soon I will take up the bass guitar. And I won’t worry about how well I do, or how fast I learn, or that I haven’t played an instrument since sixth grade, or that I don’t have that much time to practice. I’m just gonna enjoy the experience. Maybe I’ll try swing dancing again and take a class because I’m not the best dancer but damn if it isn’t fun.

Yeah, you don’t have to be good at things. It’s not a requirement. Maybe that seems obvious but it had never occurred to me before. You’re allowed to just enjoy what you’re doing. For me, that feels like a life changing revelation. I don’t have to be good at something to like it. I don’t have to put 100% effort into everything I do. It’s kind of amazing.

nurseyxbitty

i love this post and i love you

buffjaguar-deactivated20181208

I seriously love and support this with all my heart. Life is fun.

un-rare-deactivated20151106

let’s stop seeing sex as the biggest thing you can do to show someone you love them

huntinthedwellin98

everyone knows that the real way to show someone you love them is to find them a really cool rock. not a diamond. just a neat rock that you think they will enjoy

anonymoussong

elvenkingtranduil-deactivated20

Not a rock THE ARKENSTONE

glorfy-the-bright-haired-ellon

Why just one rock Why not three Why not the silmarils

mondknight

#i’m pretty sure there’s an entire book on the topic ‘why not silmarils’ (x)

desidesidesi

And one on why not the arkenstone

cakeisnotpie

You’re right. Just get them a ring.

bcfurs

totally-not-nyarlathotep

do not get them a ring

penelopevalentine

Can’t not reblog this again

soras-majestic-butt

do you ever catch yourself thinking of something so weird and fucked up that you have to stop mid-thought and your face is

aphony-cree

our thoughts aren’t always from us. Sometimes random thoughts are our brain trying to process and understand concepts we’ve heard from other people. Your reaction to that thought shows your true feelings on the subject

stamtnek

this actually makes me very relieved

spiderinthecupboard-deactivated

That information is very important for people suffering from intrusive thoughts. Thank you

me: *procrastinates necessary things*

me: *procrastinates enjoyable things*

me @ me: why are you like this

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thefaithfulreader

from Love Her Wild // @atticuspoetry

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justhurtingalot

Isn’t it weird how you can actually feel the pain in your chest and stomach when something really hurts your feelings

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odinsblog

It was my Little Lil's birthday on April 27th. She turned the big 6 years old so of course I had to have a doggy birthday party for her. Call me crazy but I love my dogs as most everyone knows lol. Happy birthday Lilly! To many more to come. Cheers! #dachshund #doggybirthdayparty

#dachshund #doggybirthdayparty

Have you ever

Been in a situation where you felt so discarded and so irrelevant. A situation where you have to think "am i just being selfish for feeling this way?" Should you just let it go for the sake of the bigger picture or should you express your animosity and bitterness? Sometimes we are put in situations where we know deep down that we are forced to not exist and we are being pushed to the side. We know it's not right and we know it shouldn't be like this. Our feelings begin to consume our thoughts and we fill with rage and anger. We start to think that the person that is responsible for making us feel this way is heartless and insensitive. How could someone that we love and care about do this? How can someone we love and care about make us feel so much less important than somebody who isn't even supposed to matter? Ultimately one must make a choice. The choice to continue feeling angered and annoyed. Or the choice to let it go because when you love somebody, you forgive them. And you do your best to not let your feelings be the only ones that matter. You do your best to not be selfish. And you love unconditionally. Sure love can make you blind. But love can also make you see the light that wasn't there before.

#feels #me