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duecesladybug

Sometimes I don't just feel like an idiot, I know I'm being one 😞 and yet here I am repeating myself like I'm stuck in a time loop...

duecesladybug

Yup once again

#thanks depression and anxiety

Sometimes I don't just feel like an idiot, I know I'm being one 😞 and yet here I am repeating myself like I'm stuck in a time loop...

#guess I just needed to admit that to myself and this was the only place to do it where no one would question it #because no one actually cares #my life #melaina talks #to herself mostly

fuck-yeah-elm-street

It....is....TIME!!

Welcome, October.

#when you think everything is great and you think hey I finally get to be happy and then everything goes to shit and seems to be #falling apart and you have no clue what to do anymore about anything so you do what you know how to do when you feel lonely #lock yourself in a room and cry #try not to let your anxiety take hold and hope it doesn't wake your underlying depression and mental self harm #nobody is perfect so I don't know why you beat yourself up #you aren't who your anxiety says you are and you know it #melaina talks #melaina thinks #my life #anxiety #stress #I think I'm just done with everything from thoughts to people #I just want to be alone

wandering-hobbit

It’s Kingdom Hearts Day my DUDES!

thatdamnrookie

She was on that episode and a very stupid opportunity presented itself

skarchomp

when nothing bad has happened yet but the Brain Problems decide you need to be in a sour mood

memestashhash

blackness-by-your-side

Even the idea that there is a video where an American man rape a kid makes me sick. Ashton Kutcher is doing a great job by using his power and privilege to raise awareness about human trafficking. Every parent dreams of the bright, happy and SAFE future to his/her child. This guy tries to change this country, this world into a better one. This Hollywood celebrity woke up and tried to draw the government’s attention to this very crucial problem of child trafficking.

blue-starr-in-the-sky-port

Honestly God bless Ashton Kutcher and anybody else who is actively engaged in the fight against child trafficking. People telling him it’s “not his place” can stick it up their ass, this is a real problem and he’s actually doing something about it, and I applaud him wholeheartedly.

matchingvnecks

teachingwithcoffee

It’s time to bring an end to the Rape Anthem Masquerading As Christmas Carol

bigbutterandeggman-deactivated2

Hi there! Former English nerd/teacher here. Also a big fan of jazz of the 30s and 40s.

So. Here’s the thing. Given a cursory glance and applying today’s worldview to the song, yes, you’re right, it absolutely *sounds* like a rape anthem.

BUT! Let’s look closer!

“Hey what’s in this drink” was a stock joke at the time, and the punchline was invariably that there’s actually pretty much nothing in the drink, not even a significant amount of alcohol.

See, this woman is staying late, unchaperoned, at a dude’s house. In the 1940’s, that’s the kind of thing Good Girls aren’t supposed to do — and she wants people to think she’s a good girl. The woman in the song says outright, multiple times, that what other people will think of her staying is what she’s really concerned about: “the neighbors might think,” “my maiden aunt’s mind is vicious,” “there’s bound to be talk tomorrow.” But she’s having a really good time, and she wants to stay, and so she is excusing her uncharacteristically bold behavior (either to the guy or to herself) by blaming it on the drink — unaware that the drink is actually really weak, maybe not even alcoholic at all. That’s the joke. That is the standard joke that’s going on when a woman in media from the early-to-mid 20th century says “hey, what’s in this drink?” It is not a joke about how she’s drunk and about to be raped. It’s a joke about how she’s perfectly sober and about to have awesome consensual sex and use the drink for plausible deniability because she’s living in a society where women aren’t supposed to have sexual agency.

Basically, the song only makes sense in the context of a society in which women are expected to reject men’s advances whether they actually want to or not, and therefore it’s normal and expected for a lady’s gentleman companion to pressure her despite her protests, because he knows she would have to say that whether or not she meant it, and if she really wants to stay she won’t be able to justify doing so unless he offers her an excuse other than “I’m staying because I want to.” (That’s the main theme of the man’s lines in the song, suggesting excuses she can use when people ask later why she spent the night at his house: it was so cold out, there were no cabs available, he simply insisted because he was concerned about my safety in such awful weather, it was perfectly innocent and definitely not about sex at all!) In this particular case, he’s pretty clearly right, because the woman has a voice, and she’s using it to give all the culturally-understood signals that she actually does want to stay but can’t say so. She states explicitly that she’s resisting because she’s supposed to, not because she wants to: “I ought to say no no no…” She states explicitly that she’s just putting up a token resistance so she’ll be able to claim later that she did what’s expected of a decent woman in this situation: “at least I’m gonna say that I tried.” And at the end of the song they’re singing together, in harmony, because they’re both on the same page and they have been all along.

So it’s not actually a song about rape - in fact it’s a song about a woman finding a way to exercise sexual agency in a patriarchal society designed to stop her from doing so. But it’s also, at the same time, one of the best illustrations of rape culture that pop culture has ever produced. It’s a song about a society where women aren’t allowed to say yes…which happens to mean it’s also a society where women don’t have a clear and unambiguous way to say no.

aphnxrising

xtrapockets-deactivated20171024

remember loves: context is everything. and personal opinion matters. If you still find this song to be a problem, that’s fine. But please don’t make it into something it’s not because it’s been stripped of cultural context.

vorked

This is actually really interesting. I’ve never known a lot of the background to this song.

unquietgravekeeper

Making its annual rounds

alinakerrin

THANK YOU

adultadhd

me: i gotta stop pickin at my skin

my left hand, the instant it is not preoccupied, roaming my entire epidermis in search of imperfections to scratch off: unfortunate

aspieworldviews

Yaaas

wait-till-they-hear-about-this

A Friendly Reminder

- Deadpool is insecure - Deadpool has chronic pain - Deadpool is submissive in bed - Deadpool is pansexual - Deadpool lifts up his mask so Hawkeye can read his lips - Deadpool is a blonde - Deadpool’s initials are WWW - Deadpool had an abusive father - Deadpool’s mother died from cancer - Deadpool fell in love with a teenager - Deadpool left her because he didn’t want to hurt her - Deadpool had a daughter - Deadpool didn’t believe she was his because she was too beautiful - Deadpool had to be dragged away from his daughter’s dead body by Cap and Wolverine - Deadpool carries Hello Kitty band aids - Deadpool is good with kids - Deadpool can’t be killed by Ghost Rider because he doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong - Deadpool hates himself - Deadpool used to curl up in a ball and mumble about his skin hurting - Deadpool is married to the queen of the undead - Deadpool reads his own comics

Conclusion: Wade Winston Wilson is a beautiful man who must be protected.

damionaerynstarr

Let’s not forget: - Deadpool knows sign language - Deadpool took a bullet for Hawkeye because Clint can’t regenerate but he can - Deadpool has tried to kill himself numerous times before - Deadpool turned his back on DEATH ITSELF to help his fellow inmates escape The Farm - Deadpool spent months trying to save Cable - Deadpool was in turn saved by Cable numerous times - Seriously, freaking Jesus-messiah-complex Cable saw something in Deadpool worth saving - Deadpool is a beautiful, wonderfully complex character that I will fight to protect

wait-till-they-hear-about-this

- Deadpool and Cable refer to the end of their friendship as “our divorce” - Deadpool bought diapers for Hope - Deadpool has a dog - Deadpool didn’t become like his dad - Deadpool is a good person

- Deadpool spends all his money on ammo and pain meds

pilgrimkitty

- Deadpool is broke 75% of the time

- Deadpool tells kids that he’s Spider-Man

- Deadpool refused to look at Spider-Man’s face when he swapped costumes with him because “bros don’t out bros” - Deadpool did work in the Spider-Man suit, but REFUSED TO KILL while wearing the Spider-Man suit because Peter wouldn’t have killed and he didn’t want Peter’s rep to be linked to murder.