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so women are supposed to grin and bear the books, the comics, the movies, the plays, the tv shows, the stories, the sci-fi, the translated ancient poems, the fucking millennia of men writing about their self inserts torturing women and it being declared as High Art by other men, we’re supposed to read it in our free time, study it in classrooms, include their styles in our own writing, accept their cultural influence as natural, watch it in the cinema, write about it, talk about it, accept it, aspire it, but men can’t tolerate three seconds of female wish fulfilment of a woman snapping the wrist of a creep without feeling personally kicked in the balls.

darkshrimpemotions

This reminds me of something I observed in college while I was doing my honors thesis on women in modern horror films. I watched a LOT of horror during that time as part of my research, and sometimes that was done with my family around.

And my dad and brothers? Were deeply disturbed by the movie Jennifer’s Body. I was flabbergasted. It’s not scary! It’s not even that gory. But they were horrified by it. These men who grew up on 70s slashers were legitimately shook by 90 minutes of Megan Fox eating a few teenage boys, mostly off-screen.

Similarly, my all-male reading panel for my thesis? Were so disturbed by my synopsis of the film Teeth that they couldn’t even talk about it. One of them said he couldn’t look at his wife for a week after reading it.

Again, grown-ass men who study and teach media for a living. Who definitely watch and enjoy horror movies. One of whom was a huge Tarantino buff. We watched and read worse in his intro to mass media class! But one movie about a girl whose vag could bite was enough to haunt him.

Then of course you have things like the Gone Girl backlash–men yelling that Amy Dunne is evil and women clamoring to assure everyone that they know she is not someone to emulate–the backlash against Carol Danvers, and, more recently, the griping from MRAs against the upcoming film Hustlers, which is about strippers scamming their Wall Street clients.

My conclusion? Most men–at least most straight, cisgender men, who are both my sample population and most of the ones whining that Carol is a “villain”–are perfectly fine with, and desensitized to, media where men do violence to women (horror movies), or men do violence to men (horror and action movies). They’re even sort of fine when women do violence to women (“ooooo cat fight!”).

But they get intensely uncomfortable when women are depicted doing any kind of violence to men, especially in films that tilt the balance of power to the other side of the m/f gender binary beyond a single moment or scene.

So woman as flesh-eating monster with men as her preferred cuisine? Woman who responds to unwanted sexual contact by biting it off? Woman who frames her cheating husband for murder? Woman whose response to harassment–behavior that many of the loudest whiners know is both creepy and reflective of their own thoughts/actions–is to break something?

Too scary. Unacceptable. Disturbing. These men hate being presented with the idea, even in fiction, that their position of power is socially constructed, that it could easily be flipped the other way. It terrifies them.

In feeling that terror, they experience a tiny modicum of what living, existing, moving, being perceived as a woman in the world is like.

And they flinch every time.

tzikeh

Here have a newspaper comic from 1993

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#ootd

afloweroutofstone

Straight, definitive, undisguised white nationalism on Fox News today

redmensch-deactivated20190323

love when republicans admit that they literally think the border stops where the white majority stops. there’s a hair’s width between these guys and richard spencer

mossyphantom

love how the issue w them here isnt even border hopping anymore its literally just that hispanics exist in america lmao. like it doesnt even say “illegals” it just says hispanics.

lumnch

My nips: *get really pokey out of nowhere*

Me: what is it girls? what do you see?

lumnch

In honor of this post reaching 100,000 notes my nips are now banned from Tumblr

lumnch

This is what they saw, all that time ago, like a cat before a storm

thejusticethatissocial

odinsblog

Nothing but respect for my (future) President.

captainmarvall

plus size cosplayers are the true QUEENS

sunshine-daisys

@ all the people posting negative shit can POST THE FUCK UP FUCKING FIGHT ME COWARDS

memeguy-com

years later House is still as relevant as he ever was

doyouthinkaboutme

I wasn’t vaccinated and never got sick so

appropriately-inappropriate

And I swam and didn’t drown.

Anecdotes aren’t evidence. The reason YOU specifically didn’t get sick is because of something called Mass Immunity.

That means that since everyone ELSE is vaccinated (you’re welcome), there’s nowhere for the virus to establish a hold. That mass immunity is the only thing that keeps people who CANNOT vaccinate—like the immunocompromised—from catching it.

The second that people stop vaccinating, that immunity disappears and the disease resurges, as is clear from the fact that the US is currently experiencing an epidemic of a disease that was projected to become extinct in our lifetimes.

Get immunized. There’s no reason not to.

skafuller-deactivated20180122

Considering that there’s a whole host of people in my age range who weren’t vaccinated enough (even I was missing the second dose of MMR until recently) getting the measles and the mumps I think it’s ridiculous that we’re arguing over a life and death situation. Literally, do you want to live or die?

meridithv

Another reason I don’t think people consider: I had three doses (one more than usual) of the measles/mumps/rubella vaccine. But after getting strep throat in southwest France in 2009 (where it was apparently fashionable not to vaccinate kids for a while, and where there had been a sudden measles outbreak) I got the measles. AND IT SUCKED.

It wasn’t because the vaccine didn’t work. It was because my immune system was weaker than usual. Everyone’s immune system has to deal with strep or colds sometime, so not vaccinating your offspring seriously does put everyone around you at risk––even if they made a smarter decision than you.

cloudcuckoolander527

VACCINATE YOUR FUCKING KIDS 2015

gaygay--astronaut

It’s almost 2019 and this is still relevant

nefertiris

fresh prince of bel air (1990-1996) truly was a gift

catchymemes

thenatsdorf

Tough call.

pansexualpizza

“Must have reliable transportation” = “this is how we legally discriminate against poor people who take the bus”

courtcourttheshort

As someone who has held several management positions with hiring responsibility, this is true. The boss at my last job informed me before I conducted my very first I interview,

“You can’t outright ask someone if they have a car or have kids. That’s technically illegal. But you need to know because sometimes they can be deal breakers. You can just say ‘Do you have reliable transportation?’ and ‘Do you have any current circumstances that could impede you from being successful at work?’

To which the last one most people fumble and would say, “Well I have kids, so sometimes they could get sick. But that’s not often.” But then your potential employer could mark it down on your interview notes nonetheless.

I thought that maybe it was just my own employer. But now I noticed that I am asked both of these almost every time I interview for a job.

Language is very sneaky. Be careful how you answer. Corporations can be snakes.

iproposeawager

In my businesses class my professor told us that the bus counts as reliable transportation. You do not legally have to say “I take the bus” just say “yes I do have reliable transportation” and leave it at that. Do not over share. DO NOT OVER SHARE. The second question just say no. If your kids are sick call out as if you are sick. I don’t have kids but I myself can get sick and that doesn’t hinder my ability to succeed so kids getting sick shouldn’t hinder you. When I call out I give as little info as possible. No one needs to know why you call out. They can’t ask about your “illness” because it violates HIPAA if they do. So as long as you don’t offer more info than you need to you should be okay.

goldensweetcheeks-deactivated20

I’ve never thought about it like this.

pinkcheesegreenghost-deactivate

You should keep everything to yourself as much as possible including social media (which is getting harder and harder to do) the less you offer the better.