☆how to care for your carer☆
with a lot of suggestions out there of how to care for the kiddo, still, caring can be mutual, although maybe not in the same ways. a lot of carers are also mentally ill, sensitive, traumatized, and anxious; just like the kiddos.
(aside for the carers: you need to learn to take care of yourselves, before you can take care of your tinie properly)
you say what you need, encourage the carer to communicate what they want or need. tell each other if you have a bad day. try to be honest and theyll be honest back
like little messages that you love and appreciate them too. carers also need to remember that they are completely adored
it can be hard to push for when “youre the kiddo” but still, its possible to make the carer promise to go to bed. use puppy eyes, or nag if needed
washing up is also a tough one, but if you try the way of “unless you do it too, i wont do it” it might work. if you can see your carer face to face, maybe ask to wash their hair, or bring them lotion - they will find it adorable and itll make them feel cared about
if not with material things, then with crafts like a drawing or a coloring page, or with affection. (if you can get them something like bath bombs, or lotion, it might help with the self care point)
a good way to make sure an evil witch didnt curse the apples is to help them make a meal. maybe, if youre big enough, make something for them - if you are ldr, encourage them to cook something healthy and yummy
sometimes it gets hard for the carers to deal with fussiness, so try to be a bit more complacent with the reasonable little things. this shows your carer that you trust their judgement
make caring for you caring about them too
it can be subtle - like holding their hand during a monster check, or protecting them from a storm in a pillow fort. make sure they know you care about them too
consider the carer, and their needs, and their feelings. they are human too. all the tips on tumblr usually go to a lot of extremes that are not okay in real world & relationships - never force your carer into anything theyre not comfortable with. dont get upset when they dont comply your every will. treat them like you want to be treated
take time to know each other
if you are in a relationship outside of regression, get to know each other and do different things. give each other time to rest and grow
