Elle.

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[elletheroyal]

You haven't told the girls yet what the plan is to beautify ourselves this summer. What are we eating? What are we limiting? Skin & body care products to try; workouts; places to attend; cocktails to order; the perfect bronzy glowy makeup routine for when we look like shit, and so much more. 😩 Come back to ussssss 💕

Hey Anon! I've been getting this request a lot so let's get into it. Summer diet, workouts, drinks, places to be, beauty, all of it. ✨

Diet

I'm a huge advocate for maintaining a clean diet and summer is no exception. Well, the exception is that there are a million reasons to go out and eat and drink and we are absolutely not saying no to any of them, so when we do have control over meals, we run a tight ship.

Monday through Thursday (save for the occasional midweek outting), I'm doing no processed or fried foods, no sugar except fruit and dark chocolate, high protein, high fiber, healthy fats only, no seed oils. Two to three meals a day substantial enough that I'm not snacking between them. No food after 7 PM. No alcohol at home, only socially. A gallon of water a day, nothing else, no juice, no soda. And supplements every single day: omega 3s, magnesium, vitamin D and K2, zinc, milk thistle, pre and probiotics. I know it sounds a bit extreme but it works for me. I'm only eating this way about 70% of the time because the other 30% I'm at a restaurant or a bar indulging with zero guilt. The balance is the whole point. It's what allows me to throw on a bikini at any given moment without panic.

And when eating out, a few small things that add up: ordering fresh seafood whenever it's on the menu (raw oysters and shrimp cocktail are my go-tos), getting salad instead of fries on the side, having a bite of someone else's dessert instead of ordering your own, ordering burgers protein-style, and whenever given a size option, just going small. The goal isn't restriction, it's making tiny choices that compound into a much better overall lifestyle and tighter waistline.

And on drinking, I'm not here to police anyone. What I will say is I drink as much as I can while still feeling and looking the way I want to. The moment it starts affecting my sleep or I'm too hungover to work out in the morning, I know I've overdone it. I've found a balance where a Friday or Saturday night out with a couple (okay, oftentimes more than a couple) drinks doesn't derail anything. As for what I'm drinking this summer: a really crisp Sauvignon Blanc or Sancerre, or a nice chilled light red when I want to get a nice buzz but not go too crazy. For the more traditional night out I love a Hugo or Aperol spritz, a spicy skinny margarita, or my signature dirty Belvedere martini, no vermouth, three blue cheese stuffed olives, on the drier side. I stay away from anything sugary or creamy because they're not worth the calories and the hangovers are miserable.

Workout

I covered this in my last post but the short version is: I'm always moving. I lift heavy three times a week, run twice, and get to a couple of classes on top of that. The more I can do outside the better. I will put on a cute set, a little light makeup, and commit to looking as hot as I can, sweating through a workout. Like with diet, just because it's summer doesn't mean we're allowed to throw in the towel. It's actually time to perfect the workout split, go up in weight and hit failure during every set, and sweat your ass off. Trust me, you will thank yourself when it's time to take beach pics. The benchmark I hold myself to: if I can make it to the club until 2 AM, I can absolutely make it to 11 AM pilates the next day. There is no negotiating with this.

Social Life

For me summer and the word "yes" are basically the same word. We are saying yes to everything this summer, full stop. Random guy in line at Starbucks thinks you're cute and invites you for drinks? Yes, you're down. Friend of a friend has a boat? Yes, you're getting on it. You see a flyer for a run club? Yes, you're at the next meet up. You drive past a pretty beach? Yes, you're pulling over, putting your feet in the water, and going to talk to someone. An old acquaintance from high school lives in the city you're passing through? Yes, you're texting them.

My best memories have come from saying yes to something I normally wouldn't have and ending up having the time of my life with strangers who became friends. You want a summer you actually remember. The rule I try to follow is having at least three meaningful social interactions per week, things that get you out of your usual orbit. You can go back into hibernation in October.

As for where to actually be, I'll get my pretentious pos card punched right now and say the Hamptons are unmatched and that's where I'll be spending my summer weekends. I love the East Coast beach town energy, the people watching, the complete shallowness of it all. But more practically, find your version of that. A cute beach town within a few hours where you can lay on the sand for a couple of hours, get ice cream, walk the docks, hit a few good bars and talk to tourists. It resets something in you. Even one or two weekends like that can carry you through the whole summer.

For the city, rooftop bars, any restaurant that has outdoor dining and happy hour spritzes on the menu, any event that gets you outside and around people. Concerts in the park, open air markets, a run club, a tennis lesson. I love searching TikTok for local events happening in my area each weekend. Basically if it's happening outdoors this summer, go.

Fashion

Summer dressing is an art and the art is making it look like you didn't try at all while actually having thought about it quite a bit. The formula I keep coming back to is simple: easy, comfortable pieces and then let the accessories do the heavy lifting.

My most-reached-for combinations right now: Denim shorts or a mini skirt with a fitted tank or a simple white tee. That's it. Throw on some flip flop heels (I love a barely-there strappy one), a little shoulder bag, some jewelry stacked up, and you look like you just stepped off a yacht. No effort required. I also believe the mini dress is the greatest invention in the history of summer dressing. One piece, zero thinking, instantly put together. I love a flowy cotton or linen one for the day and something slightly more fitted or silky for the evening.

The accessories really are everything and I cannot stress this enough. A really good pair of oversized sunglasses. Delicate gold necklaces layered together. Hoop earrings or something dangly (I love those big gold starfish earrings ugh so cute). A great summer bag, a woven tote for the day, something small and structured or a cute clutch for the evening. A few dainty bracelets layered with a small watch. The clothes can be $30 and the accessories will make the whole look suddenly feel expensive and intentional.

For where I'm shopping: Princess Polly for fun summer pieces that are incredibly wearable. Zara for trend-forward basics that are just fine for their price point. Reformation for when I want something a little more elevated and cool. French Connection for preppier, polished pieces that feel grown-up without being boring. I also love & Other Stories for beautiful accessories and understated pieces, ARITZIA for clean elevated basics, and Anthropologie when I want something a little more whimsical and feminine. For accessories specifically, Mejuri and Gorjana for everyday gold jewelry you never have to take off.

Beauty

Skin first. Good skin is the best thing you can wear in summer, so this is where most of my effort goes. SPF every single morning without exception, I use it as my moisturizer. Vitamin C serum in the morning for brightness. Tretinoin at night to stay ahead of what the sun is doing. Sleep with the humidifier on the highest setting. Consistency here matters more than anything else.

For makeup, summer is all about the glow. The goal is skin that looks lit from within, healthy and dewy and alive. A few products I love for this:

On the skin: A tinted SPF or skin tint instead of foundation is my religion. Charlotte Tilbury Beautiful Skin Foundation or the Armani Luminous Silk if I want a little more coverage, but most days I'm reaching for something lighter like the ILIA Skin Tint or the Saie Slip Tint. Then I go in with the Rhode Pocket Blush in a peachy or rosy shade because a little goes an impossibly long way and it gives the most beautiful flush. The Charlotte Tilbury Hollywood Flawless Filter either mixed in with my base or dusted on the high points of my face is my single most-used product in summer. It is the glow. Topped with a cream highlighter on the cheekbones and the inner corners of the eyes, something like the Fenty Beauty Body Lava or the Tower 28 Glowscreen, and your skin looks incredible.

For eyes I keep it simple: a little mascara, maybe a champagne or bronze shimmer on the lid if I'm going out, and my brows groomed and set. For lips, a glossy tinted balm during the day (I love Laneige or Summer Fridays for this) and a sheer red or a warm pink gloss in the evening. Setting spray to lock everything in and keep dewy without my look sliding off my face by noon.

Hair: I've made peace with the fact that summer is not the season for good hair (yes, I'm still wearing wigs and yes even the best hair will give you issues in humid heat) and I've learned to work with it. Salt sprays, braids, a good claw clip. If you're in the ocean or a pool, use a leave-in conditioner and protect your color if you have it. A really great pair of sunglasses does half the work of any hairstyle.

Nails: always. A clean set in a great summer color makes you feel put together at all times. I love a sheer pink or bright coral in the summer. Sometimes I'll do a flower or shell design.

Fragrance: wear it, layer it, find a signature summer combo. Something citrusy and fresh during the day, something warmer and more sensual at night. In the summer, I love alternating between Byredo's Gypsy Water and Bal D'Afrique during the day, and then transitioning to some of my heavier scents in the evening when the temperature has dropped, like MFK's Baccarat Rouge 540, Killian's Love Dont be Shy, or Creed's Queen of Silk.

Mindset

Here's the thing about summer: it has this way of either feeling completely magical or completely highlighting everything that feels off in your life. The difference, I've found, has very little to do with your circumstances and almost everything to do with what you decide to focus on. This particular summer I am choosing to treat as a gift. Not a consolation prize, not a distraction, a genuine gift. I have time and freedom that most people would kill for and I'm not going to spend it anxious about the future or stuck in what didn't work out. That's a choice I'm making every single day, sometimes multiple times a day.

A few things that have helped me stay in that headspace. First, I try to stay present and in my body. When I'm on a run or at the beach or at dinner with people I love, I try to actually be there instead of somewhere else in my head. It sounds obvious but it takes practice. Second, I've stopped treating this season like a waiting room for whatever comes next. This is not a pause. This is my actual life happening right now and it deserves my full attention. Third, I start every morning by thinking of something I'm looking forward to that day, even if it's small. A good coffee, a phone call with a friend, a new episode of something. It shifts the whole day.

The last thing I'll say is this: comparison will ruin your summer faster than anything else. Everyone's highlight reel is loud in the summer. Stay in your own lane, stay grateful for what's actually in front of you, and trust that everything is unfolding exactly the way it's supposed to.

I hope this helps!

[elletheroyal]

Elle,

I'm furnishing my first big girl apartment, and I wanted to know what are the best bedsheets for your bedroom? What are favorite scented candles and scent diffusers? Also what is your LA apartment aesthetic like?

Hi Anon! I love interiors and could talk about decor all day, so I’m honestly flattered you even asked. Happy to share all the details :)

The Apartment Aesthetic.

The space itself is super modern: white walls, dark hardwood floors, black marble kitchen counters, and these striking soldered lighting accents that give “cool art gallery” meets “fashion editor’s loft.” Not my usual style at all (I’m more into romantic, vintage-leaning interiors), but I leaned into the mood.

Living Room — Clean Lines, Soft Layers.

The living room is where I really committed to the white + colored accents vision. I started with a 10-ft Restoration Hardware white couch — it’s oversized, super deep, and while cost me like half my bonus, will last me a lifetime. It also anchors the entire room and plays so well off the darker floors.

Underneath it, I laid down a silvery gray banana silk rug which in my humble opinion makes the whole room. It has this subtle sheen that bounces light in the prettiest way, and the color brings a softness that balances out the stark contrast of the white and dark tones.

For the coffee table, I went with the Naomi cocktail table by Interlude Home — it’s entirely glass, really sculptural and clean, but still has some weight to it. I like that it doesn’t visually interrupt the space, but still feels luxe. I keep it styled pretty simply: a stack of Vogue covers (all black women, of course) , a rotation of Diptyque candles, a big purple orchid that’s somehow still alive (miracle), and a few crystals I’ve collected over the years.

Work-From-Home Desk Setup.

I work from home twice a week, so having a proper desk setup was non-negotiable. Luckily, my living room is big so I was able to carve out a dedicated work nook without crowding anything. I placed a mirrored desk right under the big window that overlooks the trees outside — it’s the perfect view and brings in tons of natural light.

The desk itself is clean and minimal. I have an all-white monitor (I couldn’t deal with clunky black tech), my little Louis Vuitton planner, and minimal visible cords — I was very intentional about keeping it uncluttered. My clear acrylic desk chair keeps the area light and visually open so it doesn’t feel like I’m working in the middle of the living room, even though I technically am. It’s honestly one of my favorite little corners.

The Art.

I didn’t want the space to feel sterile, so I went big on colorful, abstract wall art. Above the couch is my favorite piece: “I’ll Keep It With Mine” by Fern Cassidy. It’s expressive and layered and brings so much life into the room. I found a few other large, punchy canvases in the same color story and scattered them throughout the apartment — one by the dining area, another near the entry. It really pulls everything together without being too matchy.

The Bedroom — My Vintage Escape.

Now, my bedroom is a whole different mood. This is where I let my romantic side have its moment. Still cohesive with the rest of the apartment, but softer, warmer, and more personal.

My bed has a tufted cream headboard with scalloped edges — kind of reminds me of old European hotel beds. I paired it with glass bedside lamps that have this subtle art nouveau feel to them, all curved lines and warm glow. On the nightstand I keep my bedtime lineup: a little glass dish I found at a flea market for rings, a silk eye mask, a lavender pillow spray, my bible for morning scripture, and a second candle.

I also hung a framed Klimt-style print above the bed — lots of gold detailing and soft colors. It adds a little texture and femininity without being too ornate. And I found this vintage mirrored jewelry box at a random antique store that now lives on top of my dresser — it holds my everyday pieces and makes getting ready feel like a little ritual. And of course, all 400 of my perfumes are situated on their own glass shelf near my closet because they’re so pretty and trying new layering combos at will is my favorite hobby.

Best Bedsheets?

I’m picky about sheets. I need them to feel crisp but still soft — nothing too stiff or scratchy. My favorites are the Matouk Sierra percale sheets (they feel like fancy hotel bedding in the best way), but I also rotate in Brooklinen Luxe Sateen for something slightly silkier. If I’ve had a long week, the Brooklinen ones feel extra indulgent.

Favorite Candles & Diffusers?

Candles: Burr Do is my ride-or-die, but I also love Diptyque Feu de Bois in winter and Byredo Burning Rose when I’m feeling dramatic.

Diffuser: I use the Vitruvi stone diffuser (in white, obviously) with a rotating mix of their oils. Lately I’ve been into Grove and Boost — both smell like you live near a really expensive spa.

Let me know if you want sources or links to anything — I’m always happy to overshare when it comes to decor :)

[elletheroyal]

I want you guys to try something. Every time you’re in front of a mirror—whether you’re washing your hands, fixing your hair, or applying makeup—take a second and say something kind to yourself. Not in your head, not just a passing thought, but out loud. Not just the passive “You look fine today” but something real. “You are worthy. You are loved. I love you with all my heart and soul.” Even if it feels awkward, even if you don’t believe it yet.

There’s real neuroscience behind this. Your brain takes in what you repeatedly tell it. The more you affirm your worth, the more your subconscious starts to believe it. And the manifestations of self-love? They show up in everything. The way you carry yourself, the way you let people treat you, the opportunities you go after. Self-love isn’t just about feeling good—it’s about shifting your entire reality.

I’ve been doing this every day, and I swear, it’s shifted something deep inside me. The way I move through the world feels different—lighter, fuller, untouchable. Because the truth is, the way you speak to yourself becomes the blueprint for how the world treats you.

So try it. Just for a week. Every time you see yourself in the mirror, remind yourself who you are. Watch what happens when you start believing in your own power. 🤍

[elletheroyal]

It’s wild how much can change in a year. This time last year, I made the decision to walk away from a job that left me unfulfilled, stepping into the unknown with nothing but hope and a sense of urgency. I spent my days wandering the streets of New York, searching for a sign, feeling a bit lost, a bit lonely.

Now I’m in LA, in an apartment so beautiful I didn’t even dare put it on my vision board. I’m working at a firm that pushes me in all the right ways, healthier and happier than I’ve ever been, thriving in ways I couldn’t have imagined.

I don’t know when or how it all shifted, but what I do know is this: sometimes, you have to step into the unknown, trusting that the universe has something greater in store for you. The blessings didn’t come overnight—they came after I released what no longer served me and listened to that whisper in my gut telling me I deserved so much more.

I want to share a quote from my favorite poem by Mary Oliver, one that perfectly captures this past year for me and reaffirms what I’ve learned to be true; “Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination, calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting—over and over announcing your place in the family of things.”

[elletheroyal]

More career tips pls!

Appearances Are Everything

The reality is, perception often outweighs reality in the workplace. You don’t have to grind yourself into the ground to be seen as a top performer—you just need to master the art of looking busy. Be the first one in the office and the last to leave (or at least make it seem that way). Walk around with purpose, look focused, and be visible in meetings. Speak up, even if it’s just to echo a good point. Document every minor project you touch, highlight your wins, and frame your efforts as “above and beyond” whenever you have an audience. The goal isn’t to be the hardest worker in the room, but to do the bare minimum while making everyone think you’re the hardest worker in the room.

Always Look for the Next Best Opportunity

Never get comfortable. Comfort breeds complacency, and complacency kills ambition. Whether it’s joining a high-profile committee, sitting on a board, or switching careers entirely, you should always be evaluating what’s next. These moves aren’t just resume fluff—they’re strategic steps that broaden your network, increase your visibility, and position you as a go-getter. Companies will drop you in a second if it suits their bottom line, so you owe them no loyalty. Keep your eyes open and your options plentiful. Striving for more isn’t just about money—it’s about growth, influence, and future-proofing your career.

Find a Sponsor

Mentors are great, but sponsors are game-changers. You need someone in your corner who will not only advise you but also advocate for you when you’re not in the room. I’ve had sponsors from as far back as high school who still check in to see if I’m happy in my current role or ready to jump ship to their team. Just two weeks ago, a managing director from Bank of America I used to network with reached out asking for the millionth time if I’d like to join her team—but I’d sooner die than go back to the sell side. Anyway, having a sponsor means having someone who in your potential and is willing to put their reputation on the line for you.

Model Top Performers

Identify the best person in the room and make it your mission to get on their level or surpass them. During internships, I would pinpoint the smartest, most capable student and subtly one-up them at every turn. Not in an obvious way, but enough to set my bar higher than the best (don’t judge, finance is a dog eats dog world and I was determined to be a pit bull. Maybe out of spite, maybe out of ambition. Who cares, it worked and I have zero regrets.). Well over time, the habit stuck, and now excellence is my default setting. By emulating top performers, you push yourself beyond your limits and set new standards for success. And who doesn’t want that?

[elletheroyal]

More career tips pls!

Appearances Are Everything

The reality is, perception often outweighs reality in the workplace. You don’t have to grind yourself into the ground to be seen as a top performer—you just need to master the art of looking busy. Be the first one in the office and the last to leave (or at least make it seem that way). Walk around with purpose, look focused, and be visible in meetings. Speak up, even if it’s just to echo a good point. Document every minor project you touch, highlight your wins, and frame your efforts as “above and beyond” whenever you have an audience. The goal isn’t to be the hardest worker in the room, but to do the bare minimum while making everyone think you’re the hardest worker in the room.

Always Look for the Next Best Opportunity

Never get comfortable. Comfort breeds complacency, and complacency kills ambition. Whether it’s joining a high-profile committee, sitting on a board, or switching careers entirely, you should always be evaluating what’s next. These moves aren’t just resume fluff—they’re strategic steps that broaden your network, increase your visibility, and position you as a go-getter. Companies will drop you in a second if it suits their bottom line, so you owe them no loyalty. Keep your eyes open and your options plentiful. Striving for more isn’t just about money—it’s about growth, influence, and future-proofing your career.

Find a Sponsor

Mentors are great, but sponsors are game-changers. You need someone in your corner who will not only advise you but also advocate for you when you’re not in the room. I’ve had sponsors from as far back as high school who still check in to see if I’m happy in my current role or ready to jump ship to their team. Just two weeks ago, a managing director from Bank of America I used to network with reached out asking for the millionth time if I’d like to join her team—but I’d sooner die than go back to the sell side. Anyway, having a sponsor means having someone who in your potential and is willing to put their reputation on the line for you.

Model Top Performers

Identify the best person in the room and make it your mission to get on their level or surpass them. During internships, I would pinpoint the smartest, most capable student and subtly one-up them at every turn. Not in an obvious way, but enough to set my bar higher than the best (don’t judge, finance is a dog eats dog world and I was determined to be a pit bull. Maybe out of spite, maybe out of ambition. Who cares, it worked and I have zero regrets.). Well over time, the habit stuck, and now excellence is my default setting. By emulating top performers, you push yourself beyond your limits and set new standards for success. And who doesn’t want that?

[elletheroyal]

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on the reality that life isn’t a dress rehearsal. There’s no practice run, no second take—you just get out there and live. And it’s messy, and imperfect, and sometimes wildly uncomfortable. But that’s where the beauty is.

It’s in the risks, the leaps, the times you say yes when fear tells you to say no. It’s in the mornings you wake up unsure, and the nights you fall asleep knowing you lived with your whole chest.

You don’t get a second chance at this. Stop waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect plan, the perfect you. Life doesn’t wait—either you jump, or you watch it pass you by.

[elletheroyal]

A tip for girls in their 20s?

Build a life that feels like yours.

Here’s the thing about your 20s—they’re not about having some grand epiphany where everything clicks into place. They’re about slowly, and sometimes painfully, peeling back the layers of who you thought you should be to reveal who you actually are. And that process? It’s messy, but it’s the most valuable work you’ll ever do.

Learn how to sit with yourself. Not in the overly romanticized “take yourself to dinner” way (though that’s great too), but in the sense that you become comfortable being alone with your thoughts, your decisions, and your growth. The more at ease you are in your own company, the less likely you are to tolerate situations, jobs, or relationships that drain you just because you fear the alternative.

There’s something powerful about a woman who isn’t rushing to fill the silence in her life. When you stop seeking validation from every direction, you naturally start attracting things that resonate with who you truly are—not the version of you that’s trying to please everyone. And that is where the magic happens.

Your 20s are less about crafting a perfect life and more about collecting experiences that shape your perspective. Travel alone, say yes to things that scare you a little, and walk away from situations that shrink you. Treat this decade like a long, luxurious dinner party—linger, savor, and don’t rush to the main course. You’ll get there eventually. And when you do, you’ll know exactly who you are.

[elletheroyal]

Lessons from Last Night...

It’s been a while since I’ve done a storytime with lessons, so let’s get into an unexpected adventure from last night. What started as a regular Saturday in London quickly veered into the extraordinary when my childhood best friend—a Cambridge grad with a talent for moving in exclusive circles—called me with a last-minute invite to a black-tie murder mystery event. Thanks to her knack for dating men with impressive resumes (think like board members and the likes), I suddenly found myself on the guest list for a night that felt like it was plucked straight from a movie.

Cue the scramble: I had exactly 93 minutes to power-walk to and through High Street Kensington, find a dress and heels that said “effortless elegance” on a budget, sprint back to my flat, curl my hair, slap on makeup, and grab my clutch before meeting her. We barely had time for a shot before a black car arrived to take us out of London and toward the Cotswolds, I think? No clue; it was pitch dark, and all I saw were endless trees.

When we pulled up to the mansion, my jaw practically hit the cobblestones. There was a literal tower attached to the house (Castle? Estate?). Walking inside felt like stepping into another time; the guests were immaculate, the décor was insane, and the place had a mystique that made me think of Eyes Wide Shut. And I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t nervous. I was the only Black person in the room, and the crowd seemed full of people whose lineage and wealth had roots as deep as the mansion’s foundations. But with the help of copious amounts of champagne and the pulling of years' worth of social tips to the forefront of my brain, I held my own to the very best of my ability.

Anyway, the evening ended up being great. It was all very Agatha Christie, but with a contemporary twist. And through the entire event, I found myself observing more than speaking (not only because I really had zero association with anyone there but also because I have a very obvious American accent and I really couldn't stomach the idea of being asked how I feel about the election because the answer would unequivocally be "horrible, just horrible".). So I picked up on the way this world operates and the subtle dynamics of the crowd. And here are the lessons that stuck with me:

1. Master the Art of Subtlety

In English high society, understatement is everything. Here, less is truly more, and the power lies in being quietly present, listening intently, and engaging with subtlety. This isn’t the place for grand entrances or big gestures. A self-assured smile, steady eye contact, and a polite nod can go further than a witty one-liner. Let your confidence radiate through calm, understated gestures rather than trying to make a big impression.

2. Read the Room and Time Your Words

Before diving into a conversation, observe how others engage. Listen closely, watch for cues, and understand the rhythm of interactions. In this world, timing is crucial—a single well-placed comment can carry more weight than a whole conversation. Rather than steering the conversation, align with its flow. It shows poise and proves you’re both observant and adaptable.

3. Speak to the Right Topics

The best conversations aren’t built on titles and résumés but on shared cultural touchstones. In high society, conversations lean heavily into art, literature, travel, and a nuanced understanding of history. Have a play, exhibition, or travel anecdote up your sleeve—it’s an easy way to show depth and cultivate meaningful dialogue without feeling the pressure to impress.

4. Blend with the Dress Code

Black tie was the order of the night, and the elegance was in the details. I opted for a classic black silk gown, paired with understated jewelry and a classic red lip. In high society, timeless pieces make a statement. By blending seamlessly with the crowd, you signal a sense of belonging and respect for the occasion without shouting for attention.

5. Lean Into the Event’s Theme

The murder mystery theme was both a conversation starter and a way to break the ice, so we leaned in. Making witty observations or subtle jokes about the mystery kept the conversation flowing naturally. When you engage with the event’s theme, it not only shows you’re genuinely present but also makes connecting with others almost effortless.

6. Confidence Is Silent but Unmissable

The guests who held the room weren’t the loudest; they were the ones who seemed completely at ease, moving with an unspoken confidence. It’s not about taking center stage but about holding yourself with a calm assurance. This kind of self-assurance is magnetic—it’s the quiet confidence that’s noticed and respected.

7. Grace and Ease Over Extra vagance

In these spaces, extravagance is an afterthought, and grace takes center stage. Grace in your posture, ease in your movements, and an openness in your expressions make you a presence. Avoid fidgeting or looking over-impressed; instead, practice calm gestures and a composed demeanor. Grace goes beyond appearance; it’s felt in how you carry yourself.

These lessons aren’t just about blending in; they’re about understanding the dynamics of confidence, elegance, and subtlety. The goal is to let your presence speak before you do—and to do it all with a quiet self-assurance that says you belong without having to say it aloud, a skill that I still am in the process of mastering.

Lovingly, Elle

[elletheroyal]

More tips from your finance job?

Start Each Week with a Strategic “Agenda Email” to Key Colleagues.

One of the quickest ways I’ve learned to establish visibility and credibility is through a weekly email, sent every Monday morning to a select group of people I work closely with. I call it my “Agenda Email,” and it’s a brief, well-organized list of my primary focus areas for the week, along with any updates they should know about my ongoing projects. This strategy works wonders because it shows proactivity, reinforces my role within the team, and subtly invites colleagues to respond with their thoughts, creating a two-way rapport. It’s a small thing, but in a competitive office, people appreciate the heads-up and will start associating you with clarity and organization.

Use “Pattern Recognition” to Establish Your Unique Expertise

Everyone in finance brings something to the table, but standing out requires a unique angle. I’ve been leaning into “pattern recognition” to establish myself as an authority on certain markets. Essentially, I look for recurring trends or anomalies in specific sectors we’re tracking, like currency fluctuations or niche emerging markets, and call these patterns out in team meetings. By consistently delivering valuable insights that connect the dots between seemingly disparate data, I’ve positioned myself as a go-to person in those areas. This strategy is effective because pattern recognition is highly regarded in the finance world; it shows depth, foresight, and an understanding of complex systems that can often be more useful than raw numbers alone.

Start a “Resource Share” Email or Chat Group

This one’s been a game-changer for visibility and connection. I started a small resource-sharing email list where we trade interesting articles, book recommendations, or industry podcasts. This has become a safe space where a few of us can share knowledge, ask questions, and introduce each other to new resources. Since starting this group, my colleagues have been sending resources my way as well, which has organically made me a resource for valuable information. It’s a small initiative that’s earned me a lot of goodwill and respect, especially from people I don’t directly work with.

Use Time Zone Differences to Your Advantage

Since my NY energy still runs through my veins, I’m often online during hours when others in London might not be. I use this time zone advantage to knock out work without the usual daytime distractions, so when my team starts their day, I’m already ahead with the groundwork laid. Additionally, by reaching out to U.S.-based clients or colleagues during their workday, I’ve become their preferred contact because I’m available when they are. This approach not only helps me manage my workload but also gives me a reputation as someone who can bridge the London and U.S. offices seamlessly.

Create a “Meeting Cheat Sheet” for Networking and Strategy

Rather than attending meetings passively, I started compiling “Meeting Cheat Sheets” where I note down quick references for each person I’m about to engage with. This includes a reminder of recent projects they’re working on, their interests, and the last conversation we had (even the offhand details they shared in the elevator). Why does this matter? When you can show that you remember details or tie in previous conversations, you build rapport and show that you’re invested in relationships. This level of attentiveness has helped me create connections that go beyond professional small talk. People remember you for it, especially in a high-stakes environment.

Use Your Desk as a “Mini Brand Statement”

Your workspace says a lot about you before you even say a word. I made my desk my “mini brand statement” by incorporating a few memorable items that reflect my style and personality: a sleek desk organizer, a single, unique art print, and a small stack of my favorite books on creativity and leadership. Nothing too flashy, but enough to hint at who I am beyond the job.People often stop by and comment on the art or the books, which makes for great conversation starters and, subtly, a way for others to remember me by something distinctive.

-Elle

[elletheroyal]

Chic items you recommend investing in?

Too many!

Monogram Everything: Custom towels, sheets, makeup bags, hairbrushes, toothbrushes, passport holders, stationery, travel pouches, etc.

Signature Scents for Each Season: A curated collection of niche fragrances, one for each season, with unique notes like oud, vetiver, or fig.

Vintage Watches: Classic vintage timepieces that carry their own history. Bonus points for leather straps.

Signature Cocktail and Wine Expertise: Perfecting a signature cocktail (mine will always be a dirty martini. Must be made with Belvedere and must have three blue cheese stuffed olives.) and a refined palate for wines.

Tailored Blazers: Impeccably tailored blazers with sharp shoulders and a perfect fit, available in multiple fabrics, such as wool, linen, and cashmere, for different seasons.

Fitted Dark-Wash Jeans: Dark-wash jeans with a subtle flare or cropped ankle, made from premium denim for a refined, tailored look.

Handcrafted Leather Notebook or Planner: Personalized leather notebooks or planners with embossed initials for jotting down ideas, schedules, or travel plans.

Chic, Dark Lacquered Nails: Short, neatly manicured nails lacquered in rich, dark shades like oxblood, navy, or jet black.

Heirloom-Quality Silk Pajamas: Silk or satin loungewear for relaxing at home.

Limited Edition Coffee Table Books: A collection of rare, limited edition coffee table books on topics like art, fashion, photography, and design.

Handcrafted Jewelry Box: A bespoke jewelry box with a velvet or suede interior with custom compartments for rings, necklaces, and watches.

Designer Sunglasses Collection: A curated collection of designer sunglasses for every occasion, from oversized to those tiny ones that I forgot the name of.

High-End Barware: A set of luxury glassware and cocktail tools for entertaining, such as crystal decanters, gold-rimmed glasses, and artisanal cocktail shakers.

Premium Fountain Pen: A sleek, monogrammed fountain pen for signing important documents or writing in your leather planner.

Luxury Fitness Gear: High-end yoga mats, monogrammed gym bags, and chic athleisure wear for staying stylish even during workouts.

Fine Art Subscription: Monthly deliveries of art prints, small sculptures, or collectible items from emerging artists.

Personalized Signature Candles: Custom-designed scented candles made from soy or beeswax, infused with your favorite essential oils, housed in hand-poured ceramic jars.

Custom Perfume Tray: A beautifully designed tray for displaying your perfume collection in marble or glass with gold accents.

Bespoke Luggage Set: A custom-made leather luggage set, complete with matching travel cases and monogrammed details.

Luxury Bedding Set: High-thread-count Egyptian cotton or silk bedding for the ultimate comfort and elegance in the bedroom.

[elletheroyal-backup]

Hi Elle love your advice and was hoping for some guidance/advice on a more serious topic. I always grew up hearing from my parents “as black people especially a woman you have to work twice as hard as your white peers to get recognition” and i’ve followed that into my college career i’m a hard worker and study for hours a day and apply to numerous positions. But lately it’s been making me terribly sad/depressed bc when I get a good internship or a good opportunity from my hard work people just say “oh you’re prob a diversity hire” or say things like “oh diversity hires aren’t equipped for roles and only there to satisfy the quota” it’s been causing a bit of self doubt. Anyway i’m sorry this is long lol just needed to vent but i’m happy my hard work is paying off but how to go about not letting the “diversity hire” thing put you down especially with white coworkers? Thank you :)

Hey! Pls resubmit this on my main blog @elletheroyal :)

[elletheroyal]

Hi Elle,

Did you take any etiquette classes, or red any books about etiquette? If so what did you take away from it? In general what is some basic etiquette everyone should know?

Yes, my mother made my sister and me take etiquette classes when we were growing up, where we learned how to make small talk, use cutlery properly, do the fox trot, and all that. It felt like torture at the time, but now that I'm an adult, I'm incredibly grateful for it. There are countless teachings I believe everyone should know, but I'll keep it simple and list the basics:

Socializing:

Greetings and Introductions:

Initiate Greetings: In formal settings, greeting the host and senior individuals first is polite.

Introduce Yourself with Confidence: When introducing yourself, make eye contact, smile, and offer a firm (but gentle) handshake.

Remember Names: Pay attention to names during introductions, and try to use them in conversation to show attentiveness.

Conversation Etiquette:

Avoid Monopolizing Conversations: Engage in a balanced dialogue exchange; avoid dominating the conversation.

Graceful Interruptions: If you must interrupt, do so politely with a soft “Excuse me” or “May I add…?”

Ending Conversations: Close conversations gracefully, e.g., “It was a pleasure speaking with you,” before moving on to another guest.

Small Talk and Topics:

Safe Topics: Stick to light, neutral topics like travel, the arts, or current (non-controversial) events.

Avoid Over-sharing: Keep personal matters private; maintain an air of mystery and sophistication.

Dining:

Seating Etiquette:

Wait to Be Seated: Wait until the host signals to sit, or until you’re guided to your seat.

Seating Order: If you’re hosting, guide guests to their seats based on seniority or guest of honor status.

Table Manners:

Utensil Use: Start with the outermost utensils and work your way in as the courses progress. After you've cut your food, make sure you move your for to your left hand even if it feels counterintuitive,

Bread and Butter: Tear off a small piece of bread, butter it on your plate, and eat it, rather than buttering the entire slice.

Resting Utensils: When pausing, place utensils on the plate in a “resting” position, such as crossed or angled.

Handling Courses:

Soup Etiquette: Spoon soup away from you and sip from the edge of the spoon without slurping.

Pacing: Match your pace to the host or the most senior individual at the table. Don't rush or lag behind.

Events:

RSVP and Invitations:

Timely Response: Respond to invitations promptly and never bring uninvited guests unless explicitly allowed.

Respect Time: Arrive on time, especially for formal events, but not more than 15 minutes early.

Host and Guest Responsibilities:

Host Etiquette: As a host, introduce guests to each other, especially if they don’t know anyone else.

Guest Behavior: Engage with other guests, but don’t cling to one person for the entire event. Mingle politely.

Handling Alcohol:

Moderation: Drink alcohol in moderation. Know your limits and avoid overindulgence.

Toast Etiquette: Stand if a toast is being made in your honor, and wait to drink until after the toast is given.

Dressing:

Dress Code Adherence:

Understand the Code: Whether it’s black tie, cocktail, or casual, always adhere strictly to the dress code specified on the invitation.

Subtle Elegance: Opt for classic, understated pieces that are elegant but not overly flashy.

Grooming and Accessories:

Impeccable Grooming: Make sure your hair, nails, and makeup are neatly done and appropriate for the occasion.

Minimalist Accessories: Choose simple, elegant accessories that complement but do not overpower your outfit.

[elletheroyal]

Any pretty pics from your life recently?

I’ve spent the summer in the sun, reading by the water, and indulging in all the food and drinks. It's been a season of pure relaxation and simple pleasures. 🤍

[elletheroyal]

What are the best investments you’ve made with your appearance?

Investing in the Perfect Blonde Closure.

Because my natural hair is black, I spent all of high school and a bit of college wearing a jet-black sew-in, and, well, it looked awful. Turns out, black clashes with my palette (I can't even wear black clothes without looking a bit dull; it's depressing). The moment I lightened my hair to a golden blonde, everything about my appearance brightened up significantly. Now, I can't even look at old pictures of myself without getting angry at how many years I wasted looking like the life was sucked out of me. And instead of trying to blend my naturally dark hair with a light wig by dyeing it into oblivion and frying the crap out of it in a leave-out, I got really good at making a closure look authentic. Yes, I wear braids, perm, and color my natural hair so I can wear it out every once in a while, but my default is my 24-inch, raw, blonde body wave wig, and I absolutely love it.

Investing in Lip Blushing.

Being lighter-complected, the excess pigmentation around my lipline threw my whole face out of balance and made my lips look significantly smaller. So I spent a few days researching different artists, booked a consultation, and within a week got them tattooed to a blush pink that I customized to my complexion. Now, let me just say, it was probably the most painful cosmetic procedure I’ve ever had, my lips took weeks to heal, and it wasn’t cheap. But, hey, beauty is pain, right? Worth every penny and every tear (and my boyfriend yelling in horror "You look like one of those blow-up sex dolls!!" when he saw how swollen and red my lips were right after the procedure).

Investing in a Strength Training and Pilates Routine.

Unfortunately, I'm not naturally stacked, nor does my body hold onto muscle easily. So, if I don't work out consistently (which I didn't for years), I'll end up looking skinny-fat (which I did, again, for years). Anyway, deciding to cut the crap and start incorporating serious strength training into my daily routine has completely changed my physique for the better, and I never see myself going back. I usually do Pilates (Reformer, not mat) three times per week and strength training after cardio another three days a week. I've also got a set of 5-pound dumbbells in my bedroom that I often lift for a few minutes at a time when I'm bored and need to get off my phone. As a result, I look leaner than ever, I'm more confident than ever, and I've developed a real passion for lifting. I wake up excited to get to my workout (partially due to the really hot trainer I pretend to avoid eye contact with in the weight room), and that in itself is a miracle.

Investing in Regular Pedicures and Manicures.

Fun fact: I hate getting my nails done. So much so that I used to avoid it like the plague and convince myself that chipped nail polish I applied every three weeks was enough to look presentable. However, I quickly learned (after living in Manhattan for like 5 minutes) that there's no easier or better way to look put together and polished than having a really gorgeous, clean set of nails. So, I started hauling my ass to the salon every two weeks to keep my nails impeccable. My jewelry looks so much better on my hands, my fingers look longer and thinner, and I get complimented constantly on whatever my set of the month is. I still hate getting my nails done, but it's simply a non-negotiable for me at this point.

Investing in a Great Skincare and Makeup Routine.

I've always been into my skin, so becoming an expert on all things perfect complexion was easy and deeply satisfying. Like most Black women, I'm extremely prone to hyperpigmentation, so getting regular facials, using tretinoin, reapplying sunscreen every couple of hours, and doing everything possible to avoid getting a pimple is very important to me. Why? Because perfect skin makes the perfect base for perfect makeup. This brings me to the reality that investing in the right products, techniques, and skills when it comes to makeup has been a game-changer for me. When I was in college, I dropped $500 on a makeup class with a celebrity makeup artist, and it was the best money I've ever spent. My makeup looks impeccable 24/7, and I know exactly how to enhance every single feature I have. I don't wear makeup every day, but when I do, I can relax knowing it looks great.

Lovingly, Elle

[elletheroyal]

Now that your NYC era is temporarily over, spill the tea- fav beauty spots, activities, and bars 👀

Let's Do it :)

I'm already missing my old home (I moved out of Manhattan less than 2 weeks ago), but on the plus side, I can finally reveal that I lived in right in the heart of SoHo. Anyway, let's do a deep dive into all of my go-to's in the city (I already did a restaurant guide so we’re going to be focusing on the other hotspots):

Paul's Baby Grand

Located in Tribeca, Paul's Baby Grand is a super fun and sexy nightclub that attracts all kinds of…fun and sexy people. The ambiance here is reminiscent of a glamorous 1970s disco with its plush velvet seating, dim lighting, and absolutely packed dance floor. This was one of my go-to spots for a night out with friends because the drinks are strong, the music is always amazing, and the potential to meet C-list celebrities is just endless. The bouncers are absolute assholes and getting in is a bitch, but if you do, you'll be in for an amazing night.

The Mulberry

The Mulberry is an elegant bar and lounge located in the heart of, you guessed it, SoHo. In my opinion, it’s the perfect spot for a relaxed evening of cocktails and conversation with a trust fund-6'5-blue eyes finance bro. The Mulberry attracts well-heeled clientele early on, and a trendy clientele later into the night, making it a great place to network with influential people in a more laid-back setting.

The Box

I love the Box. I hate the Box. Let me explain. From the moment you walk in, you know you’re in for something absolutely fucking insane. Every night they host a variety of acts that range from burlesque and cabaret to bizarre and downright heinous (I once saw a woman put a very large knife .. never mind). Anyway, one of the most enjoyable aspects of The Box is the people you meet because the shared experience of witnessing the outrageous performances just elicits a sense of comradery. I've seen a lot of celebrities there and because you practically have to sell your soul to get in, there's always an air of excitement. It's taboo, it's sexy, it's unforgettable. That's all I can say.

The Jane Hotel Ballroom

The Jane Hotel Ballroom is a West Village hidden gem that just exudes old-world charm and elegance. The venue features a stunning ballroom with vintage decor, ornate chandeliers, and a gigantic fireplace. I used to love going when I was in the mood to meet new people because, for some reason, ANYONE will approach you and spark conversation. The last time I went with my sister, we got swept up by the crowd and ended up spending the whole evening meeting strangers and only reconnecting when the night was over.

Activities:

Gallery Hopping

My favorite way to spend a Sunday afternoon (usually very hungover and questioning all my life choices) was always exploring the Chelsea Art Galleries and discovering cutting-edge works from both established and emerging artists. I particularly loved Gagosian Gallery, David Zwirner Gallery, and Pace Gallery, but honestly, there are too many good ones to count.

Fitness and Wellness

You guys already know I'm married to my workout routine, and staying fit in NYC is easy due to the plethora of fitness studios and wellness centers scattered across the city. I loved Barry’s Bootcamp and Sky Ting Yoga, though I ended up at the Equinox in SoHo most of the time. If I really wanted to indulge a bit after a workout, I'd do in a spa day at The Well in Flatiron or AIRE Ancient Baths in Tribeca.

Culinary Adventures

We all know that New York City is THE culinary capital of the universe so I'm going to spell out an absolutely epic day of eating in my book: Start your day with a classic New York bagel from Russ & Daughters. For lunch, get dim sum in Chinatown at Jing Fong or pasta in Little Italy at Rubirosa. For dinner, go to Le Bernardin for some of the best seafood you will ever have. And do NOT go to bed without getting a scoop at Ample Hills Creamery.

Cultural Experiences

I can write a 26-page thesis on all the cultural activities the city has to offer, but I'll just say this: there are a lot and you should probably do your research to get the full picture. I absolutely loved attending in Broadway shows, off-Broadway productions, and live performances. I visited Lincoln Center more times than I did my office and when I wanted to switch it up, I went to The Apollo Theater in Harlem for iconic live music performances. And don't even get me started on the museums. Seriously, do your research.

There's a lot more to say, but I'll keep it short. Cheers!

Lovingly, Elle

[elletheroyal]

I miss when you would go in depth on the stocks that excited you and the reasons why

Micron Technology.

I've done several pitches on this company and it's a stock that's never let me down, so let's get into why I still think it's a buy :)

For an overview of the business:

Micron Technology is a globally operated US-based semiconductor company that develops and makes memory and storage solutions including USB flash drives, and flash memory chips including their NAND and DRAM servers which are their two main revenue drivers.

Micron products are used in automobiles, consumer electronics, communications, servers, and computers.

Led by CEO Sanjay Mehrotra who has over 40 years of experience in semiconductors, the management team is highly experienced with a successful track record.

The company has a market cap of ~136B and has a current price of $114.

I believe the company is a strong buy for four main reasons:

Memory for the AI Revolution: Micron isn't just a memory maker, it's an enabler of artificial intelligence. AI applications require massive amounts of high-bandwidth memory, Micron's specialty. As AI adoption explodes across industries, demand for Micron's cutting-edge technologies will soar. I expect next-gen AI PC units to grow and become a meaningful portion of total PC units in calendar 2025. The company expects AI phones to carry 50 to 100% greater DRAM content compared to non-AI flagship phones today

Beyond PCs and Servers: The memory market is diversifying. Micron is at the forefront of developing memory solutions for the Internet of Things (IoT) and autonomous vehicles, two sectors with explosive growth potential. Micron's embedded memory solutions will be the backbone of these transformative technologies.

Manufacturing Prowess: Micron is a leader in micronization, the relentless miniaturization of memory chips. This edge translates to denser, faster memory with lower power consumption – a critical advantage as data demands intensify. Micron's investments in research and development ensure they'll stay ahead of the curve.

Like any investment, there are several risks to my rating:

Other companies develop AI-specific chips, reducing demand for Micron's general-purpose memory. This could lead to lower average selling prices (ASPs) for Micron's DRAM and NAND memory chips, impacting revenue and gross margins.

 New memory technologies for IoT and autonomous vehicles sideline existing products. If Micron fails to adapt to these new markets, it could miss out on significant growth opportunities.

Competitors erode Micron's manufacturing lead or unforeseen issues delay/reduce production. Unexpected production issues could cause inventory shortages and reduced top line growth.

Catalysts:

While a couple of catalysts have already been priced into the stock, including data center inventory normalization expected by the first half of 2024 and high single-digit front-end cost reductions in DRAM and low double-digit front-end cost reductions in NAND for fiscal '24 one HUGE catalyst that I don't believe has been accounted for.

Geopolitical Realignment: The current chip shortage and increasing tensions between the US and China are pushing for domestic chip production. 2022 also saw the enactment of landmark, bipartisan legislation, the CHIPS and Science Act, that will substantially strengthen domestic semiconductor production and allocate $52 billion for domestic semiconductor manufacturing.

Supply Chain Security: Micron's chips are primarily made in Japan and Taiwan, but Micron is aiming to bring advanced memory production to the U.S. starting in 2026 with a new $15 billion chip fabrication plant in Boise, Idaho.

Considering the points I mentioned in my investment thesis,  I believe the company should trade at $130 and I've concluded via a DCF and comparable company analysis. For the DCF I used a 10-year forecast period and applied a discount rate of 7.5% using the CAPM model. So the present value of cash flows over the next 10 years amounts to 50.7B USD. The present value of the terminal value is 79.3B USD. The total present value equals 130B USD.

I also sensed-checked my price target by applying a 1Q24 EV/EBITDA multiple of ~36X based on the upper range of comparable companies such as Intel, Qualcomm, and Nvidia. Given the catalysts I mentioned, I'm assuming Micron Technology's revenue will grow by 28% annually over the next 3 years profit margins will grow from -42.5% today to 19.9%. EPS to reach $5.92 2027, up from $-6.23 today.