I'm a strong believer in that, mainly cause I've been on the "second" side of a story. I know what the story looked like to everyone else but once you heard my side, it all sounds like a fairytale.
I was with my ex for five years, we met in high school his freshman year, so all his friends became my friends. I met Jackson in 2010, he was part of the "OG4" as my ex liked to call it, a group of kids who have been besties since middle school. Me and Jackson hit it off, eventually we became best friends, like legit best friends. I ate supper at his house, I've spent the night, I hung out countless times with my ex and alone. It was harmless on my part. Yes we all knew Jackson liked me, the other 2 of the group knew more than me and my ex, they knew how much Jackson was in love with me. But either way, I was head over heels in love with my ex, Jackson was truly only a friend and over the course of those five years he pushed his feelings for me on the back burner and stayed in the friend zone.
Come year 3 with my ex things got rocky, they had always been slightly toxic, but I was young and dumb. As I grew up i started to realize that we weren't on the same wave length, but still I stayed for 2 more years. 2 long years at that.
I told him I wasnt happy, I told him what I needed to be happy, I by all means am not perfect but I damn sure can admit my flaws and will always try to change for the better. My ex didnt know how to change, I ended up changing enough for the both of of us it seems, right into a different person. I fell into a deep depression, a dark dark lonely hole and my ex only kept digging it deeper and deeper.
My ex is a good man, just not for me. He was mean, violent and just downright hateful. I never felt loved, but damn did I fight for it. I had countless nights of tears and thinking I wasnt good enough.
The last 2 years were hell of that 5 year relationship. But I stayed.
Jackson was there for it all, he never knew what I was going through but he could tell I was changing. He told me one time " you smile has faded" I laughed and shrugged it off but oh how right he was.
3 years ago to the day (21916) is when my eyes & heart opened. Jackson had a MMA fight, my ex, me & another member of the OG4 went to go support. It may have been the crown royal i was drunk off of but I shit you not when Jackson got punched in the face my heart stopped for a second & my eyes closed.
When I opened them it was like my heart restarted and there was a yellow aura around Jackson, I was in awe of him.
I ended up having to take him to the ER that night, along with my ex. My ex must have suspected the change in me cause he got loud and wouldn't stop degrading me the rest of the night up until he passed out in the car as I stayed with Jackson in the ER room.
I remember stealing pictures of him, & answering all the nurses questions. We played it off like I was the gf so I could get back in the room with him. I had to stay the night with him that night and It was the first night that i dreamed of him.
The next 3 months after that I saw Jackson as something other than just a bestfriend. I had this battle in myself whether to brush it off and try to salvage what was left of me and my ex or say fuck it and cross the friend zone line.
I left my ex 3 months later, trust me it was a long time coming. Honestly it should have happened at year 3 [maybe even before that] not year 5.
And yes the next day the friend zone was crossed with Jackson. I have never seen someone more happy in my life. I always told him hes like the boy in all the 80s movies that finally got the girl. He was Jim from the office when Pam finally gave him a shot.
But then I would look in the mirror, in pictures and see that I was just as happy.
Flash forward 3 years and I am now married to Jackson. We still hang out with the OG4 [minus my ex ] and they tell us they knew it was bound to happen, Jackson was too in love with me for fate to never step in.
[I still laugh about that, looking back he really was in love with me all along]
In these 3 years I have never felt like I wasnt good enough, I have never questioned his love, I have never questioned his intentions, he is my bestfriend and my husband. He wakes up every morning and the first thing he does is give me hugs & a kiss and says he loves me. He calls me beautiful every day. We literally have the best time together. Our friends have told us they hope to find a love like ours one day & I hope everyone does.
To make a long story short, nothing is what it seems, dont judge someone off of one side of the story, also marry your bestfriend. It will save you heartache and pain. Trust me.
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