“Don’t ask me about my past, ask me about my future.”
I was asked yesterday why I gave myself the scars I have on my arms.
So I thought to myself:
‘why would the first thing they ask when they see them be asking for an explanation? why can’t they just acknowledge that I was able to get past something hard--or even just got them from doing some activity outside--or anything really...why do they just assume?’
Then I said with a calm smile on my face,
“Don’t ask me about where I have been, ask me where I am going.”
After the words left my lips the person looked at me and their lips were sealed. I assume it was because of the possible shock they had gotten from the words that left my mouth, or maybe even just the whiplash of expecting one thing and getting another. Either way I walked away from that situation with the words I said in my head.
“Don’t ask me about where I have been, ask me where I am going.”
Those words were true and it got me thinking again. I know what you must be thinking, ‘ah yes here she goes into the abyss of her own thoughts again’ but this time I realized something.
Why are people so focused on what has happened? It’s almost like reading a history book about a war that happened 100 years ago and not focusing on the wars that may be going on in the world presently- that you may be able to do something about...but no. The past has already happened so it’s so much more entertaining-
Focusing on the past is almost like walking across a board and looking at the steps you just walked and using that to get across the board. What one may not realize is that the board has a part in the middle that is more shaky and then a part after that which is cracking and then maybe even a part after that which has spikes that will injure you if you don’t pay attention to where you must step.
One must learn from mistakes and accept the past, not forget it, but learn from it. Focus on the big picture, focus on what you can do today to take another step to where you want to be. Because in my future I will be a glorious painting while that person mentioned earlier is only focused on the slightly torn canvas I started with.
Do not bring up things that people do not want to talk about, because no matter how much you see that person do or say...you don’t know their story. So be courteous and kind to everyone as you do not know the other side of the story.
-all stories have two sides, but in the end I don’t think we can ever say we really knew the whole story-
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