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abusive parents will go off about how expensive it is to keep you around and how they have no money and what a fucking burden you are and they don’t see the irony?

dude. you MADE me. what the fuck were you thinking. stupid idiot loser. go back to that moment and don’t have sex. problem fucking solved. what the fuck do you expect me to do, die now that you decided having kids is inconvenient? wow. maybe you should have thought this thru.

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dads will see their kids and be like “is anyone gonna emotionally damage that” and not wait for an answer

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sleepbby

parents that try to guilt trip their kids for feeding them and providing a roof over their heads are disgusting like that is ur responsibility as their parent, as someone that chose to raise them, that’s part of the damn job description and in no way do ur kids owe u for that, not even a single bit

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when my parents get mad at me for traits they have

People get so offended when you say that you'll let them go if they want to, like, I'm not letting you go because you mean nothing to me, I'm letting you go because I apreciate and love you so much I'd rather put your feelings before mine

#nyan #vent #friendship

at1a

if my absence doesn’t affect your life, then my presence has no meaning in it

thebootydiaries

me: [has an emotional breakdown]

everyone in my life: ✔️Read 10:15pm

parentlesspositivity-blog

Children aren’t meant to be little robots or slaves doing whatever you want them too; they are allowed to be loud and hyper and shy they are little humans with their own minds and personalities.

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identifying the abuse

I was writing a post about how to deal with abuse, but, first, I consider more important to identify what you’re going through. So here’s a post. I’m sorry for the bad English and possible mistakes, it’s not my native language.

Emotional abuse

Emotional abuse tends to revolve around an imbalance of power, where at least one person in the relationship tries to exercise psychological control over the other person.

Examples

Gaslighting- It is a form of psychological abuse that happens when the information is distorted, selectively omitted to manage the control to the abuser, or simply invented with intent to cause the victim to doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity. The therm “gaslighting” came from a movie that tells the story of a man that manipulated his wife every time she used to say the house’s lights were slowly disappearing. What she was saying was true, but her husband just lied to her and put in her head that she was seeing or imagining things. Slowly, it messed with her sanity.

Humiliating or cursing- That’s a clearer expression of emotional abuse, but sometimes it stays hidden and indiscreet. Sometime in a relationship between two people (romantic partners/child and parent/friends) it is common to have fights and that’s totally okay, but some people go beyond a limit of disrespect. Constantly cursing and affecting someone’s self esteem is a form of abuse. A lot of adolescents who suffer from this kind of expression of emotional abuse relate they don’t know if their experiences are valid, cause the insults envolve things like “you’re worthless” “you don’t do anything good” and even “I wish you didn’t exist”, which is confusing for them, cause “maybe it’s just something normal in a relationship between child and parent”. But it’s not okay.

Taking away the freedom of belief- A form of emotional abuse that’s not very discussed, but happens a lot. The abuser in a relationship can control the victim and threaten them to follow a certain religion. The abused person must practice the religion they don’t even believe to please the abuser, otherwise psychological or physical punishments may happen. Also, the judgment against the atheism is still strong in the whole world, causing discrimination and abuse in some families or groups.

Control and oppression- The thing that most count in this expression of emotional abuse is the obsessive behavior from the abuser to the victim. The abuser can threaten the victim, making them staying home and avoiding going out, looking for private messages on the other person’s phone, isolate the victim from their family and controlling personal decisions of their life.

Guilt trip- A manipulation tactic: making someone feel guilty so that guilt acts as an incentive to think or behave a way they normally wouldn’t. Often involves the manipulator acting victimised or making grand gestures to create emotional debt.

Exposition- It happens when the abuser shares personal pictures or messages of their victim to other people. Basically, what is private turns out to be public.

Physical abuse

Physical abuse is any intentional act causing injury or trauma to another person or animal by way of bodily contact

Examples

Throwing objects, holding arms or shaking the victim- Usually, physical abuse is noticed when someone hits the victim, reaching out a strong level of aggression, but it doesn’t have to go through that tension to be considered a type of physical abuse. Some abusers throw objects, hold the victim’s arms tightly so they can’t move or shake them, in the intention to hurt them.

Burning parts of the victim’s body

Making the victim stay away from meds or treatment they need

Kicking, punching, strangling

Sexual abuse

Sexual abuse, also referred to as molestation, is usually undesired sexual behavior by one person upon another.

Examples

Forcing uncomfortable sexual acts- Sexual abuse doesn’t count as only forcing sex. Forcing someone to engage in sexual acts that cause discomfort or disgust, such as fetishes, is also violence. The abuser can put their hands on the victim’s body without permission, say sexual things making the victim uncomfortable or even making sexual acts in front of the victim without any permission.

Preventing a woman from preventing pregnancy or forcing her to have an abortion- The act of preventing a woman from using contraceptive methods, such as the morning-after pill or contraceptive, is considered a practice of sexual violence. Likewise, forcing a woman to have an abortion is another form of abuse.

Patrimonial abuse

It’s any conduct that entails retention, subtraction, partial or total destruction of the victim’s objects, instruments of labor, personal documents or values and economic rights or resources.

Examples

Controlling the money or retaining documents- A person has the right to live a healthy life, including the access to their necessities, such as food and the leisure. Once someone controls and avoids someone from it, that’s patrimonial abuse. Hiding the victim’s money or neglecting them on financial resources, hiding documents and threaten them with it is a form of violence.

Breaking the victim’s objects- It is a form of patrimonial abuse to break and destroy personal objects that are not yours.

If you think you’re suffering from abuse, please look for help. Soon I’ll be posting something about how to deal with abuse.