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[parentlesspositivity-blog]

Any advice on how to overcome the depression from being cut off from your entire family? I’m doing my best to let myself heal but also see the positives (I’m no longer pretending to be something I’m not, I’m no longer being abused) but it just. It all hurts so much. And no one else seems to get it.

I struggle with that too, best suggestion is to surround yourself with friends or if you have a found family. Focus on them and keep reminding yourself that you don’t want to back even if you could or the lonliness makes you start doubting. You deserve to be happy! Followers feel free to add suggestions

Andy

[parentlesspositivity-blog]

Hey, i know it's difficult to believe everything is going to be okay but you are here, you are strong, you are beautiful, and you don't have to listen to those who can't see how amazing you are

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖💕

[parentlesspositivity-blog]

Good vibes: Today marks 3 weeks since my last cigarette. I started smoking as a way to mark my independence from my parents, because i knew it was something they would never permit or encourage. but it was bad for me, and was making my life more difficult. i can be my own person without harming myself!

That’s so amazing I am so proud of you!!!!!!

Mod Andy ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖

[parentlesspositivity-blog]

I’m 18 now but still not even close to a place where I can move out of my parents house—I have a job and I’m in community college but I only work part-time and plus there would be so much major drama if I were to leave that I’m not sure it’d be worth it, but at the same time this is becoming so unbearable, do you know of any concrete steps I could take or resources to get ready to leave once I’m ready? Or to become ready? Idk if this makes any sense sorry

I’m sorry I don’t personally I think I have a moving out checklist on here but I’m 19 myself and my boyfriend is the reason I was able to leave my parents house. If you dm me maybe with more details I can help you figure something out?

Mod Andy ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖

[parentlesspositivity-blog]

2019!

last year was good for me I accepted my sexuality and gender came out to -extended- family members and found supportive friends online!

I did have some bad days but i had my younger sister with me she always tried to make me happy during those days

i found new interests and hobbies and on the last day of the term I slow danced with a pretty girl and carried her bridal style I really don't know how I did that tho but I'm still happy about it

2018 was over all a good year for me because I had my brother and sister and my friends and I hope 2019 is even better

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖

That so Amazing

Mod Andy

[straightboyfriend]

y’all will call healthy coping methods ableist (going outside & getting fresh air, cleaning your room, taking a shower, journaling) but then say lashing out at your partner or friends is an okay coping method so do you ACTUALLY want to get better or do you just want an excuse to be an asshole

[asking-jude]

[amaecying]

Google like a boss!

[librari-ann]

This is relevant to librarian-ing.

[latefees-blog-blog]

This would make such an excellent hand out for students.

[diebrarian]

Wheee I use these! They make Google a much more effective search tool.

[clamchowdurr-deactivated2022040]

Thank you! Ppl don’t know these things when I tell them they don’t know how to use a computer

[aneurotypical]

Things you shouldn’t ask or say to someone on the schizophrenia spectrum or it will be rude:

“Do you want to hurt people?” (We’re statistically more likely to be hurt and manipulated by others.)

“Do you see anything right now?” (Makes us uncomfortable and paranoid and causes us to focus on what’s reality and what’s not)

“Are you hearing voices right now?”/“what do the voices say about me?” (We aren’t here for your entertainment, and this will make us uncomfortable and distrustful of you. And same as above comment.)

“That’s so cool!” (It’s a disorder and disability that is painful and hard to live with)

“I wish I had that” (Lord, I wish I was exaggerating.)

“So, you have multiple people in your head?” (May fuel a delusion, or you’re confusing it with Dissociative Personality Disorder)

“Are you dangerous?” (If we didn’t seem dangerous before telling you, why do we seem dangerous now? Again, we’re more likely to be abused and to hurt ourselves.)

“What medications are you on?” (Too Personal. You don’t need to know that.)

“Maybe it’s spiritual/real.”(any theory that it’s not a mental illness can cause confusion, paranoia, mistrust, fuel a delusion, or feeling misunderstood.)

“We’re all a little crazy, haha!” (Our brains look and work differently than majority of the population. It’s not comparable to bad or weird choices and quirks you have.)

“Do you trust me?”/“You trust me though, right?” (If we do, it could make us feel worried you doubt us. If we don’t, it’ll make us uncomfortable and feel like lying or fuel our mistrust.)

“You dont seem like you have schizophrenia/schizoid/schizoaffective/schizotypal..” (We aren’t all the same, and a lot of us are in different places of coping and have different severity of symptoms and how we hide them. It’s exhausting hiding and coping with our symptoms. Could also fuel a delusion of not being sick. Just don’t say that.)

“I knew someone with that.” (We really don’t care; that person isn’t us.)

Things you can say without being rude if someone lets you know they have a schizophrenia spectrum disorder:

“Is there anything I need to know about how this affects you?”

“Will there be times you’d like my support?”

“How can I support you if you need it?”

“Thanks for you letting me know/Thanks for opening up about that”

“Is there anything I need to look out for to make sure you’re safe and comfortable?”

“Is it alright if I ask a few questions so I have a better understanding?”

“Oh, okay.

[parentlesspositivity-blog]

Wow!!

We hit 1000 followers,,, thank you guys so much!! Do you wanna celenrate?

Tell me your good thing!

Tell me how you’re coping and healing in 2019!

-Rossie

[parentlesspositivity-blog]

Hey do you have a list or anything of legal consequences of abusive but not outright physical abuse parenting? I looking for something I could keep as an if all else fails i have the legal shit

So these are some links i found.

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/safety-prevention/at-home/Pages/What-to-Know-about-Child-Abuse.aspx

https://www.hg.org/legal-articles/legal-consequences-of-child-abuse-31009

Ill try to get some better stuff but its been so long since you asked this so i thought I’d send you these. Im so sorry for the late reply. I really struggled with this ask for some reason. I hope these help some

[parentlesspositivity-blog]

I have more detailed information now if you’d like me to post it send another anon or pm us

[parentlesspositivity-blog]

What was your good thing today?

After half a year we finally finished cleaning our bedroom from the move. I’m very proud of myself right now

Rossie

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖

[cooksforkisses]

Surviving the holidays — mental health edition

December is packed with festivity which can be lovely and also can be really really taxing! So here’s how I’m keeping myself sane!

Limiting time with triggering individuals, or at least avoiding triggering topics with individuals who I don’t think will converse me in a productive and meaningful way. For me these people are relatives who don’t understand my illnesses and can say really triggering and insensitive things

Eating normal amounts at normal times….it doesn’t have to be exactly meal plan compliant but eating 2 bowls of cereal at 2 in the morning and calling it dinner just adds to stress!!!

Handmade holiday cards are sweet and low cost and are great distractions (they are an example of the Contribute skill in DBT if you’re a DBT fan!) and help me to feel gratitude when things seem tough

Regular hygiene….this is an “always” for mental health but particular during the winter months I tend to start skipping showers because I’m too anxious or down etc. and also neglecting to brush my hair because I just don’t care enough…the holidays are a fun time to primp a little and get a little fancy so incentivize yourself with nice smelling lotion or a body scrub or a new lip gloss, even if you don’t have plans

Avoid excessive alcohol consumption, even at holiday parties, because I know for a fact that hangovers involve severe mood swings and ideations and that’s bad bad not good

Buying yourself little holiday gifts isn’t selfish. I like to put little things that I buy into my stocking so it’s a little treat

Try to find joy in the holiday festivities even if it seems manufactured (and yeah a lot of it is). I try to go to Christmas markets and look at the pretty lights and drink hot coco, just because it’s fun and I know it’ll help me feel a little cheerful

Consider light therapy during the winter months….I do not adhere to this but I know that it probably would make me feel better…..I have a lamp and everything I just never turn it on lol but you could!!

Exercise is good for my mental health and is scientifically proven to reduce mood disorders. I am trying (!!!!) to exercise in moderation with that in mind. My therapist says to focus only on the antidepressant-like properties of exercise, because once I start focusing on the physical benefits I overdo it. Exercising is also a good way to get out of the house!

Holidays can be really triggering for people with trauma and if that’s you remember that this is a short period of time, it will pass, and you are a very strong bean and I am proud of you

[adamjk]

[cwote]

It’s okay to start over, to begin again and if you need some help, here you are. Thank you @adamjk for such a wonderful post. 

[parentlesspositivity-blog]

My boyfriend's mom is having a tough time, she deals with a lot of back pain and she's getting surgery soon. But whenever the stress gets to her she will cry and tell my boyfriend that she wants to kill herself and that she can't do it anymore.. it causes my boyfriend to fall into depression and recently his father committed suicide.how can I help this situation end? I understand where she's coming from but I don't think she knows that she's doing wrong. She's diagnosed with depression..

Sweetie I’m not sure how much you can do. But if the situation hasnt already passed (I know my replies are all really late) is just talk to her suggest therapy or medication (or an adjustment) and mostly just be there for him. I hope this helps

❤💛💚💙💜

[psychoticbeastly]

@parentlesspositivity thank you for answering! the situation has deescalated and his mother is no longer having surgery. I was feeling a bit off during the whole thing because it was making me question about whether I would want to stay in the relationship ‘cause her energy is so draining it makes me relapse.. but thank you so much for answering 💕

[parentlesspositivity-blog]

I’m glad things are deesculating I’m sorry you had to go through that. I understand the difficulty thank you so much for feeling comfortable enough to message us

~Rossi’s

[parentlesspositivity-blog]

Hey do you have a list or anything of legal consequences of abusive but not outright physical abuse parenting? I looking for something I could keep as an if all else fails i have the legal shit

So these are some links i found.

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/safety-prevention/at-home/Pages/What-to-Know-about-Child-Abuse.aspx

https://www.hg.org/legal-articles/legal-consequences-of-child-abuse-31009

Ill try to get some better stuff but its been so long since you asked this so i thought I'd send you these. Im so sorry for the late reply. I really struggled with this ask for some reason. I hope these help some

[parentlesspositivity-blog]

Fun little update: I originally followed y'all because I didnt really feel like I had much of a family, we all just kept to ourselves or were arguing and recently my dad started seeing someone and she and her kids are so amazing. We're all so much happier and I just wanted to say thank you for helping me through the harder times because without that I wouldn't be able to see the better times. Y'all are all incredble. Thank you. 💛💛

Aaah thank you so much. Im so happy things have gotten better you deserve it!!