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♡ forrest ♡ tok/toks + thon/thons (aux he/him + it/its) ♡ 21 ♡ genderfluid ♡ 💛 advice and positivity for transgender and nonbinary people, absolutely pro-MOGAI and aspec. ask box and DMs are always open 💛 🗡 dni: TERFs, radfems, febfems, transmeds, or any otherwise transphobic people, MAPs/NOMAPs/supporters, pro-ana/thinspo, nsfw, anti-anti, fujoshi/"yaoi lover", or just generally nasty; this is a no-discourse zone 🗡 (art in icon is by darkoaksapling, flag is bumblebee enby by me ^.^)

[enby-life]

Shout out to people who have no idea what their gender/orientation is, and may or may not be too scared to ask at this point

[literallytoad]

Ok sorry if y'all are tired of hearing about sam smith but tbh I kind of love how they don't speak super openly or specifically about their gender. I read an interview where they were basically like "first of all, I'm just a singer, so anyone who wants to learn more about being nonbinary should go look up the work of writers and activists who can explain it a lot better than I can," and like, I can't stop thinking about that.

I feel like trans and nonbinary people are kind of expected to be absolute experts who can patiently and convincingly explain why basically everything you've ever known about gender is wrong, and to be willing and able to answer any questions or correct any misconceptions on demand, or else we're fake or some shit, you know?

It's nice to be reminded that I don't actually have to justify my existence to other people.

[spearxwind]

I saved this image into my cyberpunk reference folder for shits and giggles but I want to show yall too

finally… the technology we need…..

[spitblaze]

gender is a performance and im doing improv comedy

[secretaskgamestash]

following that, there’s also nothing wrong with liking some gendered terms and not others! 

it’s okay to use she/her pronouns but not want to be called a girl! it’s okay to use terms like brother or father for yourself but not go by he/him! it’s okay to be fine with “sister” but not “daughter!” it’s okay to use a title like “mr” but not want to be called a man! it’s okay to be a woman and not go by she/her!

it’s okay to use language that seems to contradict itself! language and gender have a complicated relationship but you’re the boss! bend it to your will!

[lesbianb]

my gender is whatever is funniest for me to be at any given moment

[enbypositivibee]

Hey, I hope you don’t mind me asking, but what’s a febfem? I want to follow you but I want to make sure I understand all the terms of your DNI first, and I’ve never heard of a febfem. Have a nice day! ^-^ 💕

febfem stands for “female-exclusive bisexual female”, and it’s a term that’s generally used by terfs/radfems to indicate that they wont date “males”. i dont see the term as much nowadays but honestly bc of its association w terfs i’d just rather ppl that use that label not interact. thank you for asking ! i hope you have a good day as well ^.^

[enby-positive]

Here’s a hot freaking take guys but nobody gets to tell anybody else how they experience themselves. Somebody has a gender you don’t understand? Tough. That’s how stuff works sometimes. I don’t understand French but the language still exists.

[pcos-and-gender-survey]

PCOS & Gender Identity Survey

Hi everyone! I’m currently holding a casual survey on how PCOS can impact someone’s gender. 

Here’s a link to the survey! (NOTE: you must be 18+ years old and be diagnosed with PCOS to participate)

Speaking as someone diagnosed with PCOS, I know that it can have a large impact on your gender identity. I know this not only from my own experience, but from accounts from other people diagnosed with PCOS. Additionally, there is a debate on whether or not PCOS should be classified as an intersex condition.

Because PCOS can have such a profound impact on one’s gender identity, I wanted to hold this survey to determine how common it is for people with PCOS to not identify as cisgender. In addition to this, I wanted to determine how strongly PCOS can impact one’s gender identity.

I currently plan to hold this survey for a month (until August 12th, 2020). However, I may close the survey prematurely or extend it based on the number of responses I receive and the traffic on the survey. After I close the survey, I will post results to this blog. If you would like to keep updated on the results, feel free to follow me!

Regardless of whether or not you qualify to participate, please consider spreading the word about this survey!

[organized-chaotic-disaster]

@intersex-survey just a heads-up, this is my survey!

[intersex-survey]

Consider taking this survey if you have PCOS & are 18+!

[abellehayford]

A short reflection on being Non-binary I did on national coming out day!

[nonaligned-nblm]

[goodpositivitylgbt]

lots of love to multisexual nonbinary people who are both masc- and fem- aligned and feel alienated from both the mlm and wlw communities bc you aren’t “one or the other” !!

you are absolutely allowed to be both masc- and fem- aligned !! you are absolutely allowed to be both a mlm and a wlw !! 

and you are allowed to want and seek community for both of those identities without having to deal with cissexism and exorsexism from people who say you have to be “one or the other” !! 

each and every one of you is deserving of so much love, respect, and support !! sending lots and lots of love to you all !! i hope you have a nice day !!

[1-800-handsomebf-deactivated202]

just in case y'all didn't already know >:3

[cadencess-deactivated20211127]

hi

i’ve made a post like this before that gained traction and donations, but the plan to move out of my state (florida) fell through completely due to my planned roommate being fired and having to get another job, and i had to spend the money i saved on food and staying in a hotel room when it was unsafe at home. i have managed to get a job even with this pandemic fucking my initial job plan up (i start at mcdonalds on friday,) but i still need help.

i have lived with an abusive mom for four years now (moved in with her at 15, i’m 19). while guilt tripping me and manipulation is what she mainly goes for, recently she’s been drinking more and having stronger outbursts. while i’m trying not to overshare, about a week ago it was around 3 in the morning when she exploded on me while drunk and tried to strangle me. calling the police was a no go, since it would have actively made shit worse (my mom would have easily gotten out of it, or i would have been homeless.) the morning after she blew up at me, we got into a screaming match and she called me a failure + selfish entitled bitch and whatever else you can think of. many family services reports were made when i was a minor, but unfortunately, THEY’RE FUCKING USELESS AND DID NOTHING TO MAKE MY SITUATION BETTER. i once begged an agent on the phone to not come to my fucking house, since i was just venting to a goddamn teacher.

i don’t have any family willing to take me in, or any friends in my state - the majority of them live in texas, and i do have a chance of moving in with one of them + his dad if i can pay rent to him and keep a stable income there. while i’m searching for a job in texas, i’m going to need funds to stay afloat.

i have $60 in my savings right now. while i now have to pay $80 a month to my mom for bills, i’ll be making either $9 or $10 an hour at mcdonalds for (hopefully) 8 hours a day. my writing commissions are open, and i also make video edits (short amvs.) i also managed to get back into therapy after about two years without it or my medication (i don’t even want to THINK about med money right now, i start therapy in june since i was able to get on medicaid for 6 months. fuck off pandemic!)

the goal to move out is $5,000 (assuming everything goes correctly this time) which is huge. i’ve set up a ko-fi with a link to my archive of our own account  and my youtube to watch my edits. any money i recieve through commissions or general donations will immediately be put into my savings and HOPEFULLY not touched until i’m able to get the fuck out of here. 

even if you can’t donate (which is ABSOLUTELY fine,) please reblog this post and share it. please don’t just like the post and leave it; it won’t be seen that way. thank you for reading this depressing ass post, and i hope you have a good day.

paypal (ignore my shitty deadname)

ko-fi

archive of our own (message me if you’d like to commission!)

youtube (what’S PoPPin’ gaYMErS iT’S yA BOi)

[genderfriends]

So much love and solidarity for the nonbinary people out there who are dealing with disabilities and illnesses that worsen their dysphoria. You're not alone.

[enby-life]

[transtiels]

#3 love, love, love!