A male colleague was making fun of the #metoo movement a few days ago, and many more (Iβm one of 5 women in a department of 200 men) joined in. So I raised my voice and said I was glad women were speaking up about sexual harassment and assault and that I hoped that everyone who perpetuated this toxic behavior got taken down.
βYeah but itβs a trend now, lots of them are just saying it for their 15 minutes of fame.β He then continued to say that he didnβt know anyone who had been harassed or any man who had done it.
I asked him if he had a daughter. He did. I asked him how old she was. She was was 17. I told him Iβd bet my rent money that his daughter had experienced sexual harassment.Β
βThatβs impossible.βΒ
The next day, he came in the office with five bouquets of flowers for all the women in our department, including me. He publicly apologized for making fun of sexual harassment and for making our lives harder by doing so. He said that he simply hadnβt known how widespread it was. Apparently, his daughter deals with it very regularly. She hadnβt told him because of the way he spoke about assault cases that were on the news. She thought heβd think less of her if sheβd mention it. It was her idea that he should make a public announcement. He said he felt like a bad father.Β
I said:Β βYou were. Same goes for everyone who laughed with you. Be better, now you know better. And educate other men that still think the same way you did yesterday. And next time someone tells you about an experience they have, donβt automatically assume that because you havenβt seen it, itβs not true. That kind of willful ignorance is why we still deal with this shit.β
He also offered to pay my rent as that was part of the bet, but I told him Iβd rather have him put effort in being a person his daughter and wife could be proud of.Β
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